Never read someones diary

[NirtamXwor]

What do you do when you find out your sister has a huge crush on you? Long story short, come across her diary, read, mind is blown.

Talks about me on nearly every page
Talks about what I'm doing on a daily basis
Talks about how hot I'm looking on certain days
Talks about how she gets jealous when I date other girls and wishes I'd stop
Talks about how she wishes I didn't tease her
Talks about how having these feelings and not being able to do anything makes her depressed
Goes in graphic detail about dreams and fantasies she's had about me

I'm 20 and she's 14

need advice :-/

 

[Tony_Stark]

Is this a blood relative or step/half?

 

[NirtamXwor]

blood relative

why can't she pick Justin Bieber, Brad Pitt, Harry Potter or anyone else >_>

 

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[Mandywolf]

My advice, leave it, she's young and going through a rough phase (I know at 14 my hormones were raging) and she's probably insecure/self esteem issues so isn't comfortable having those thoughts and fantasies about strangers, but she feels more comfortable with you because you're familiar to her.

Does she have any school groups or friend groups that she might meet some boys?

One piece of advice is focus on trying to build her confidence without appearing that you're attracted to her, if she shows any interest in a boy (assuming he's a good type), show support (don't tease!)

But in the end, this sort of thing should pass with time, helped if she meets some one else to build a crush on

 

[WestMich69]

Ok, off my soap box, and return to regular programming.

??

 

[cryforme1v]

westmich, i think he's looking for advice on how to handle the situation delicately, not act on it.
He didnt really give much input tho so it is hard to tell.

why can't she pick Justin Bieber, Brad Pitt, Harry Potter or anyone else >_>

Tells me he's seeking advice on how to let his sister down easily, so not to hurt her feelings. I honestly dont think this guy wants to act on it, but get advice on the situation because it is a pretty delicate situation that most people find difficult to handle <it does have a child involved, but that doesnt mean he's a child molester.

 

[WestMich69]

He asked for advice...............I gave it.

 

[cryforme1v]

no you accused him of being a pedophile, you didnt give him any advice on what he was actually asking.

"Pedophile" you say?? Yes, that's exactly what you are.

 

[NirtamXwor]

Let me put this as delicately as possible...[DON'T FFFING DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT....DON'T EVER READ HER DIARY EVER AGAIN!!! AND DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT ACTING ON IT!!!!] ok, have I made my point?? What you are talking about is child molesting and if you get caught the worst thing you have to worry about is sharing a prison cell with Big Bubba.

I don't know where you are located, but you are really playing with fire here, and could get burned real bad. In some area, in fact, there are people who get absolute pleasure from stomping pedophiles into the dirt. "Pedophile" you say?? Yes, that's exactly what you are.


Ok, off my soap box, and return to regular programming.

Does it sound like i have extreme feelings about child molesting???

u mad?


thanks to the rest I guess for now I won't do anything but it's annoying to have a stalker in your own house... :-|

btw I didn't mention to much details because I was on my way to college. If I'd didn't find her diary (and read it, I'm a curious person, my bad) I wouldn't have noticed it.
When I get home and she's already there she sometimes gives me a short hug when she's in a good mood so I guess it'll feel a bit akward when she's going to do it in the future. :-S

 

[WestMich69]

well, cryfor me, I really don't want to get in a pissing contest here., but I did give him advice and it was to 'drop it', don't do anything, and don't look at her diary ever ever again. That is 'snooping' or 'invasion of privacy' or what ever you want to call it. He should not talk to her about it, he should pretend he never saw it and get on with his life. I am not accusing him of being a pedophile,, I wanted him to be aware that he did something wrong by snooping, and there will probably repercussions if she finds out, or if he acts on what he saw.

Again, I don't know where he is located, but most USA courts have a dim view of the POSSIBLE consequences if he goes any farther.

So, please, explain to me what is wrong with my advice to the OP to 'drop it'?

 

[alliewhore]

you called him a paedo! he hasn;t done anything yet!

 

[Mac98]

Damn! That's crazy awkward! I never thought about it, but I guess human's are human, right? Family member or stranger, no one controls who they get feelings for.

My advice would be the same as everyone else's. She's young and going through puberty, so as delicate and awkward as it is, I say with time, it'll dissipate and she'll fall for someone more appropriate for her. Growing up ain't easy, is it?

Good luck with that.

 

[BertrandRussell]

Forget that you ever saw it. Do not ever mention it to her. Do not change how you act around her.

And learn to have a little respect for other people's privacy. As soon as you realized what it was, you should have stopped reading in mid-sentence and closed it. You ought to be ashamed of yourself for reading it.

 

[Sunndance07]

Gross. Stop reading it and forget about it.

 

[fuckmeat]

Sadly, the likelihood is that the OP wanted other people to collude with him in what is a very fucked up little fantasy. No end of people post crap around here hoping others will supply anecdotal replies that they can jerk off to.

If by some small miracle he's on the level, he's had his advice in spades.

Let this rather disturbing thread die now, is my suggestion.

 

[NirtamXwor]

Sadly, the likelihood is that the OP wanted other people to collude with him in what is a very fucked up little fantasy. No end of people post crap around here hoping others will supply anecdotal replies that they can jerk off to.

If by some small miracle he's on the level, he's had his advice in spades.

Let this rather disturbing thread die now, is my suggestion.

yes... I guess thats why I posted it here and not in the rp part...

 

[jennifersdreams]

thanks to the rest I guess for now I won't do anything but it's annoying to have a stalker in your own house... :-|

Long story short, come across her diary, read, mind is blown.

I'm sure it is annoying to have a stalker in the house.

But all she's doing is dealing with her feelings in a fairly mature way, by writing about them in her diary. You're reading that girl's diary, which is pretty much stealing her private thoughts.

So who's the stalker?

My advice is to stop invading her privacy, and let her deal with her feelings, which she seems to be doing just fine. If you're uncomfortable with what you're feeling, maybe you need a diary.

 

[fuckmeat]

yes... I guess thats why I posted it here and not in the rp part...

I understand what you're saying and it's not my intention to accuse you of paedophilia. It's just that sadly the stats are against you being on the level.

If you posted this in the RP section you'd get in huge trouble with the mods. What I meant to convey is that people who know this but still have inappropriate fantasies about minors, will post somewhere like HT because they can get away with it so long as they act shocked and appalled. Then other posters innocently discuss the topic. It only takes one person to post something anecdotal, eg; 'you poor guy, my little sister had a crush on me for a while and once she even tried to kiss me! I had to fight her off and tell her it could never happen, etc etc.' The OP (hypothetical op, not you) then has a vivid and detailed scenario to jerk off to, all the more so because someone on the net says it actually happened!

There are some truly pathetic people in this world.

Putting that aside, jennifersdreams makes some good points. You had no idea your sister had a crush on you till you read her diary. That suggests to me that she knows it would be beyond taboo and recognises that her fantasies should stay in her head. You must have had a crush on someone wildly inappropriate as a kid, a teacher or other older person, right? Just as your crush stayed in your spank bank, so she's channelling hers into her diary. She's dealing with this just fine IMO. You're the one who went and invaded her privacy, so you're the one with the problem. You can't lay the blame for this at her door, because she was handling this fine till you overstepped the line by reading her diary.

My advice? Forget you ever read it. Just tell yourself it never happened and continue to enjoy a normal relationship with your sister. If you suddenly start keeping her at arm's length she may well suspect that you've been snooping and that'll lead to all manner of tears and recriminations.

She'll get over this in her own time, when she's mature enough to actually date. Lots of youngsters fantasise about unattainable people like celebrities or relatives and it's partly the fact it could never happen that makes these crushes so seductive. There's zero danger of the object of their affection reciprocating their feelings, so there is a psychological security in that. It's the same reason that so many people find freedom in sharing adult fantasies online, because they'll never meet whoever they're chatting with or be expected to take a 12in cock up their asses, it's all just a bit of fun.

Allow your sister her bit of fun and accept that's all it is. And be very grateful that nobody could see inside of your skull when you were a horny teenager.