Nervous,first time bi

[lickwizard]

Nervous,first time bi experiences

By the posts I've seen, it seems there are many of us guys wanting to experience our bi side, but are nervous as hell, scared to make that first leap. For whatever reason that bi experience remains supressed , while the desire keeps simmering
How about some of you that were feeling the same way share your first time experiences? was it a friend or stranger? your idea or his, or hers?(MMF) just happened, or planned? was it all you thought it would be? or better? or a letdown?
Give us nervous guys a reason to relax and go with feeling. Maybe a few ideas to make it the first of many great encounters

Duh! what an idiot, I just saw the thread at the top dealing with the same thing, however, most of the stories are involving younger men......when sexual exploration is more the norm. Let's here from older guys , 40's or older that have never tried but had hidden desire to try another mans cock. raised in the macho bs that it is wrong, would enjoy hearing your experience of getting past that .

 

[tonycurinmass]

I would love to get a nice one in my mouth, but I too am very nervous about trying it. I have sucked a few life like dildos in the past though.

 

[ars_amatoria]

Well, I'm older than 40s but I didn't try gay sex until my 40s, so here's my experience. Yeah, I was really nervous about the first time, not really for the experience of it, but because I was scared of the negative consequences. Would I get AIDS, even from fellatio? What if he was an undercover cop?

I met a couple of gay men through online dating, had a talk situation with both, was up front about my inexperience. One passed on a session with me while the other invited me to his house where I had my first time. It wasn't that great. His semen tasted pretty awful and wasn't pleasant to swallow, but he fucked my mouth until all his load had shot (and held me by the ears, so I wasn't going anywhere). He had me fuck him in the ass, but it wasn't that good, because he'd lost muscle tone there over the years. I'd had lots better pussy.

Then when I moved, I decided to try again. I met two guys about my age. The first time I met each of them, we just talked in a public place, then made a date to come to their place. Both assumed that since I was nominally str8, I'd want to top them, but what I wanted was the experience I couldn't have with women, i.e., sucking them or being fucked.

One really just wanted to bottom, then cuddle. The other was truly versatile and has become my regular fuck buddy as well as a friend. I'm very lucky to have found him-- we arouse each other something fierce. Just from writing about him, I'm starting to get aroused.

It helps to read straight (as opposed to str8, but maybe not) words from women or gay men on what sucking cock is really like. It's not always pleasant. If the top gets into it, you'll gag, or feel like gagging. A good cocksucker has learned how to suppress his/her gag reflex. Otherwise, do what you like being done to you. Make a nice tight O with your mouth and keep your teeth out of the way. Breathe through your nose. You can intensify the experience for him if you take his cock with your thumb and index finger, squeeze, and pull down the skin to the base of his cock. That tightens up the skin and brings it closer to the nerve endings. Sounds clinical but every man I've ever treated it to loves it and wants it the next time.

You should insist on his showering, with soap, before playing with you. Some guys (and girls) like the smell of a sweaty cock but it's really an acquired taste. I like to shower with a partner and wash his cock and balls-- good way to know they're clean, as well as great foreplay.

If you're nervous as to whether you're doing it right, there's lots of how to stuff out, both on the internet and in books like "Joy of Gay Sex." The latter also has hints on how to deal with first time jitters. Besides, fellatio is easy stuff-- you'll know you've really crossed a border when you lose your ass virginity.

I long ago got over the sense that it was demeaning or anything like that to have sex with a man. We all respond to whatever it is that turns us on, and I love both men and women, in different ways. My lover isn't good-looking in the classical sense but he turns me on something fierce, and we both have grown from our liaisons and friendship.

 

[Kellandi]

I don't see cock sucking as being submissive at all. I believe the person with the cock in their mouth is the one in control. I love to submit to a teasing and long blowjob. I can't wait to try it again. My last attempts I was young and very scared. The one cock was too big and the other was just about right but he came so fast and I was afraid to eat it. I had his cum on my neck and chest but just rubbed it in. Both times I felt totally in charge. Really what do you do when someone has their mouth around you but relax and enjoy it.

 

[none2_none2]

I cannot speak as someone who started m2m late, but I have been with several where it was their first.

One was a BIG mistake. But that was about someone that emotions were involved. (A long story, that would be off topic for this discussion.)

Some I remember at the moment:
I remember a guy in his late 50's. I met him in a bookstore. He liked me and trusted me. In a heat of passion he let me fuck him which is my big thing. We kept in touch for years via email after that. (It has been a while, but I'm sure I'll hear from him again.) He had a lot of fears about AIDS, but I just reminded him to be somewhat selective of who he was with. The bad thing is that he liked being fucked after we had sex. (Bad in that you have to be a bit more cautious with who your partners are.) It wasn't that I was that hot looking, or that I have a donkey dick. Rather, I just always loved fucking guys and that having them enjoy it is more important than getting myself off. Last I knew, he had a friend or two he would get with. He was in transition to retire, so he was really concerned how he would get his "need" met once he was around his wife all day long. I think that is a common problem for bi/or gay oriented guys who are married and near retirement. Another problem for him was that his son was openly gay, but he couldn't come out to him as he didn't know how he would react. Plus he had no desire to leave his wife, so he was afraid his son might get pissed and tell his wife.

Another guy I remember I met at the book store. Probably mid to late 40's. I'm guessing his age because he had a short cropped blond beard and moustache with some grey. He went down on me and put a condom on me. Oral sex has never been that enjoyable to me. It is ok, but not orgasmic. However, it was so important to him, that I let him try anyway. I didn't get off, but I did manage to end his efforts without hurting his feelings. He hands were shaking with nervousness. He really wanted to "talk" afterwords. He had wanted to do this for so long. (He really wanted to taste cum, but compromised because of his fear of AIDS.) That is why he put a condom on me. It was important to him to think he gave me pleasure. So I did the best to make him feel like a winner even if it wasn't my thing. I think he was really attracted to cock, but also needed some male approval of what he was doing. You know, where the guy has to look up at your face while going down on you because they have that "need" to see a man's face showing pleasure from their manipulations. I don't know whether he found the male body or male mentality attractive. I'm just staying his big turn on was to think that he was the reason that you got off.

Another one I remember probably wasn't 40+, but he was probably in his 30's. I met him at a park. He was obviously new to it, as he wouldn't strike up a conversation, but had that look like he needed you to start it up. Once I got him talking, the conversation quickly changed from weather to him going down on me. It was just not enough for me. He was a hot looking guy, and really trying to please me so I didn't walk away. Unfortunately, I did something that freaks some bi guys out: I picked him up. (It is something I used to do in my cruzing days as some way that I'd be something more than just one of umpteen-hundred cocks that someone played with.)
I figured if he realized that I wasn't some stereotyped weak, effeminate guy, he might be interested in doing more. Unfortunately, it back fired. I think he was afraid I might hurt him or make him do something he wasn't interested in. I think he was only curious on sucking cock and I have never been able to take more than 15 to 20 minutes of someone trying oral on me (especially if they have sharp teeth) before I just have to put a stop on it. (I don't care for cock hickeys nor a raw cock that is sore from scraps and acidic saliva.)

Those are the only three that come to my mind at the moment. Except for the last one, I think I left them no worse off than they were before. If I ever ran into the second guy again, I'd like to ask him if he was doing well. (I'm happily unavailable now, but even though I've been with many guys I wish them all to have a good life.) I single him out, because I had never had a guy so nervous about m2m sex that he started shaking. Thus, I hope he got past whatever guilt trip was affecting him that way.

 

[nipers]

Same

Same here I want to suck a cock so bad just very scared.

 

[John_In_TN]

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[trainee4you]

Teased Enough

I never thought about orally pleasuring another guy until recently and was 50 years old when I finally did it.

My cousin runs around butt-naked in his home. For the last five years he's caught me over and over staring at his big tallywacker, and teasing me to service him every time he catches me, especially when he's real inebriated. He's hairy and well-hung - I'm neither. Well, after a while I began wondering what it would be like to suck him off; the problem is that he would never allow it to happen.

A couple years ago, and after several months using two personals websites, I made contact with a couple guys with limited male encounters themselves. The first one I met was a failure since I chickened out when he went down on me too quickly. The second guy to make contact resulted in a very suck-cessful meeting. He was uncircumcised, not well-hung, hairy, older and suggested that I agree to do exactly as I was told to help overcome my inhibitions. As soon as I arrived at his place he stripped me quickly, led me to his couch, forced me down on my knees as he sat down, pulled and held my head at his lap, and told me how to suck him off. About thirty minutes later we were interrupted by a neighbor at his front door (startling us, smiling as he looked through the window; as I was sent to another room thinking he surely had to have seen me on my knees).

After talking briefly to his neighbor who left shortly, he had me back down sucking him off for at least another thirty minutes. Relocating to a back room, we got into the 69 position, with me on top. A pecker in my mouth, my pecker in his mouth and a dildo in my butt was some of the most sensual sex I've ever experienced. He had inserted the dildo so gently I never felt discomfort or pain, it remained inserted the rest of the day. Three hours later we ended giving each other final blowjobs.

We weren't interested in a long-term relationship, cum swallowing, holding hands, romancing or kissing; just raw sex only. If my cousin gets drunk, passes out and is butt-naked, he might end up getting that blowjob he's been teasing me to give him for all these years. I know how to give head now!!!!