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[microbiology311]

CLERIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've missed you lately! how goes it?

 

[microbiology311]

ok.. I need some advice..

I was verbal harassed two weeks ago at work. I don't want to get into details but lets just say that the fuck word was used A LOT in a 1-2 minute conversation(if you can call it that). My supervisor is known for having no balls when it comes to this guy. and this guy physically scares the shit out of me because you don't know what he is capable of when he gets mad( he likes to throw shit and have temper tranmums(spelling is wrong but you get the idea)).

My problem is that I finally reported it to the higher-ups yesterday and had a meeting with the head HR person today in which they are going to be investigating my complaints and other complaints from different co-workers. this is all because i'm the only one who just doesn't deal with this guy and since I am one of two women who work there, the guys just deal with it in their own ways(they get back into his face where I will not do that).

What I need help with.. is how do I go to work knowing that He is going to know that I filed a complaint against him? I am a very emotional person and had not shown any emotion to him or to anyone else(other than just annoyance that he gets away with not doing his job since he is on the night crew). I had not shown any until today when I was done talking to the HR person and I just broke down. I left before he got to work because i'm just not in the right state of mind to deal with him and my supervisor wasn't there today to be a buffer(which I shouldn't need one but I don't feel comfortable with this guy.
He has told me to my face that he doesn't like me nor respect me. This guy has NO respect for anyone working there and everyone just lets him get away with no doing his job/acting out because they don't want to deal with him(He's been there for 5 years. Ive been there for 6mths).

I'm only there until August when I left for med. tech school so I didn't want to cause waves but I couldn't let him to continue to get away with treating me like crap because what happens when I left and he starts to pick on the person who will replace me. Its not fair and i'm so emotionally drained.. I don't know which way is left... sorry for the rambling....

-- Micro

 

[sirgary]

ok.. I need some advice..

I was verbal harassed two weeks ago at work. I don't want to get into details but lets just say that the fuck word was used A LOT in a 1-2 minute conversation(if you can call it that). My supervisor is known for having no balls when it comes to this guy. and this guy physically scares the shit out of me because you don't know what he is capable of when he gets mad( he likes to throw shit and have temper tranmums(spelling is wrong but you get the idea)).

My problem is that I finally reported it to the higher-ups yesterday and had a meeting with the head HR person today in which they are going to be investigating my complaints and other complaints from different co-workers. this is all because i'm the only one who just doesn't deal with this guy and since I am one of two women who work there, the guys just deal with it in their own ways(they get back into his face where I will not do that).

What I need help with.. is how do I go to work knowing that He is going to know that I filed a complaint against him? I am a very emotional person and had not shown any emotion to him or to anyone else(other than just annoyance that he gets away with not doing his job since he is on the night crew). I had not shown any until today when I was done talking to the HR person and I just broke down. I left before he got to work because i'm just not in the right state of mind to deal with him and my supervisor wasn't there today to be a buffer(which I shouldn't need one but I don't feel comfortable with this guy.
He has told me to my face that he doesn't like me nor respect me. This guy has NO respect for anyone working there and everyone just lets him get away with no doing his job/acting out because they don't want to deal with him(He's been there for 5 years. Ive been there for 6mths).

I'm only there until August when I left for med. tech school so I didn't want to cause waves but I couldn't let him to continue to get away with treating me like crap because what happens when I left and he starts to pick on the person who will replace me. Its not fair and i'm so emotionally drained.. I don't know which way is left... sorry for the rambling....

-- Micro

Hi Micro...
I just stumbled on this thread and yours was the first posting I had a chance to read. I know you have some long time friends out there who might make you feel better about what you did and will back you to the hilt.
I am a total stranger so I will only say you did what was right. You stood up for yourself and though you are nervous about the whole thing, you did what others couldn't or wouldn't.
This guy will know you filed a complaint. Lets assume they don't fire him outright...He will modify his behavior around you and he may even apologise to you. In the future he will treat you with the respect that he should have of a co-worker in a professional work environment. You will never again be placed in a situation where you are feeling you work in a hostile work place.
If he were to resort back his old ways or do anything at all to make you feel insecure, a lawyer will get your lost earnings (no need to work in a situation like that) from that company and they (the company) will learn that harrassment is a Federal crime and is not tolerated. Then me and a few of your Lit friends will go beat the piss out of him...

It was a pleasure to meet you...have a great evening....and I will check on you in a week to make sure things go exactly as I have stated...

Gary
Construction Superintendent and champion of Women in Construction WIC

 

[SexyCleric]

CLERIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've missed you lately! how goes it?

Busy is the word, luvs.
Been fucking busy.

As for harassment, I recomend finding yourself a good, and very violent, angry nerd friend.
Then proceed to eviserate.

 

[lik_m_ade]

ok.. I need some advice..

I was verbal harassed two weeks ago at work. I don't want to get into details but lets just say that the fuck word was used A LOT in a 1-2 minute conversation(if you can call it that). My supervisor is known for having no balls when it comes to this guy. and this guy physically scares the shit out of me because you don't know what he is capable of when he gets mad( he likes to throw shit and have temper tranmums(spelling is wrong but you get the idea)).

My problem is that I finally reported it to the higher-ups yesterday and had a meeting with the head HR person today in which they are going to be investigating my complaints and other complaints from different co-workers. this is all because i'm the only one who just doesn't deal with this guy and since I am one of two women who work there, the guys just deal with it in their own ways(they get back into his face where I will not do that).

What I need help with.. is how do I go to work knowing that He is going to know that I filed a complaint against him?

Micro,

It's awful to hear about this, but you did the right thing. A good friend of mine works at a company where a lady was behaving in the same way you describe-outbursts of anger, vindictive acts, verbal abuse of others, especially those who were there for a fixed period of time and general disrespect for everyone.

Over more than a decade people quit, went on sick leave, dug up enough dirt on her to be left alone, and all sorts of other things to avoid confrontation.

When she went after my friend, it was awful-she said she felt like she was back in high school and running around trying to avoid a bully. It was seeing her kids look upset when they saw her at night that finally made her act and submit a complaint.

It wasn't pretty, the person retaliated at one point and she had to consult a lawyer, but that act of not stepping down, as well as the additional complaints and supporting testimony that came into the HR office once people saw it was being looked into convinced the organization that it was in their best interest to put this person on a short leash. They set very specific behaviour standards for the person.

What happened next shocked them. With people no longer having to avoid, cope or fight back, they were More productive and general morale improved in a big way. Seeing this, HR kept upping their behaviour expectations for the lady from the minimum to get by to what most would call "good" behaviour. She finally decided that she wanted to work elsewhere and left.

It's been a bit over a year and my friend is happy and enjoying her job. As well a couple of the people who had left came back and more than made up for the evil one's departure. So things are going well there and it's getting a reputation as a place to go for a summer job/co-op term rather than the hell on earth that it was being described as.

I'd say the three most important things are:

1. Be clear about what you want. Let HR know what contact you are willing to have and what specific behaviours aren't acceptable. If it's gone to the point where you want some sort of sanction, let them know that as well-don't put them in the position of having to mind-read.

2. Remember that HR works for the company, not you. They're tasked with keeping friction down and the company out of trouble. If they sense that you can be placated and put off until August, they may try to do that. If they see that this is a real problem for the company that needs to be resolved, they'll do that. But don't look on them as putting your interests first.

3. You are more important than the job. If you simply can't get them to enforce decent behaviour standards there, look for something else. It's not worth the stress on yourself to do so. As for dealing with him when you go back tomorrow-you need to clearly articulate what you will and won't accept and stick to it-if he tries anything physical, let him know you will bypass HR and call the cops and stick to it-he'll not want that mess.

Anyhow, I trust it all works out well for you, and that the firm does the right thing with a minimum of prodding. You are benefiting everyone there whether they realize it or not at this point, as well as those who work there after you. *hugs*

 

[Lady Reiha]

Hey Lady R.

*scratches the nerd kitty's back*

Are you going to be better about sharing the nekid Rae pics than you were about the nekid Vessy pics?

Hope you have a good day.

I want to see them both nekid, along with everyone else in this thread.
I want a dedammned nekid party!!!!!!!!!!

Hey there, ReiRei. What's happenin'?

not much Vandy, how are you doing?

 

[Lady Reiha]

*cries* Why does everyone get tired of seeing me naked?

*glares*

I thought you just didn't care Vessy : (

Well i wouldn't get tired of seeing you nekkid, mind you I haven't yet, but nekkid women never become a tiring thing to me.

nor does big breasted women

 

[Lady Reiha]

*squeals*

dats how i got preggers in the first place!!

*feels around to see if I've got twins now*

no my lov3r you don't have twins ^^

*rubs her boobies* O_O"

 

[snake0067]

nor does big breasted women

Meh big breasts aren't needed, nice breats though .

There's a difference, trust me. Plenty of women have smallish or medium chesticles that are awesome.

 

[Lady Reiha]

I'd be more worried about triplets....don't children in the womb, when only starting with 1, split by prime number multiples? 1-->3-5-7
I think you can only get two when you start with two...and then if you get touched it goes up to quadrouplets...ie 2--->4--8-16

I think it's impossible to have 6 children. Unless you morph two pregnant ladies into one...but that's another story.

*gets confused about this prime number logic*

Must I repost my rant about the Cube movies again and their Prime Number mistake?

 

[Lady Reiha]

Alright,I'm gonna try this again.

All those in favor of seeing Vessira naked,say "aye".

*shouts louder than Chronie (if that's possible)* AYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Lady Reiha]

ok.. I need some advice..

I was verbal harassed two weeks ago at work. I don't want to get into details but lets just say that the fuck word was used A LOT in a 1-2 minute conversation(if you can call it that). My supervisor is known for having no balls when it comes to this guy. and this guy physically scares the shit out of me because you don't know what he is capable of when he gets mad( he likes to throw shit and have temper tranmums(spelling is wrong but you get the idea)).

My problem is that I finally reported it to the higher-ups yesterday and had a meeting with the head HR person today in which they are going to be investigating my complaints and other complaints from different co-workers. this is all because i'm the only one who just doesn't deal with this guy and since I am one of two women who work there, the guys just deal with it in their own ways(they get back into his face where I will not do that).

What I need help with.. is how do I go to work knowing that He is going to know that I filed a complaint against him? I am a very emotional person and had not shown any emotion to him or to anyone else(other than just annoyance that he gets away with not doing his job since he is on the night crew). I had not shown any until today when I was done talking to the HR person and I just broke down. I left before he got to work because i'm just not in the right state of mind to deal with him and my supervisor wasn't there today to be a buffer(which I shouldn't need one but I don't feel comfortable with this guy.
He has told me to my face that he doesn't like me nor respect me. This guy has NO respect for anyone working there and everyone just lets him get away with no doing his job/acting out because they don't want to deal with him(He's been there for 5 years. Ive been there for 6mths).

I'm only there until August when I left for med. tech school so I didn't want to cause waves but I couldn't let him to continue to get away with treating me like crap because what happens when I left and he starts to pick on the person who will replace me. Its not fair and i'm so emotionally drained.. I don't know which way is left... sorry for the rambling....

-- Micro

I'm just curious first of all as to how he would know that your the one that filed the complaint. That stuff is extremely confidential, and if that's breached, you could take the whole company to the labour board. If you don't feel comfy at your work, let people know! and if they aren't helping or resolving the problem (ie/. if he's still bugging you) take matters into your own hands, and find help through the labour board. Usually they mail you a booklet which features an area to write back to the labour board about your complaint. From there, the labour board handles stuff that you cannot.
It's worth a shot : )
I hope things get better in the workplace hun

 

[lil_squirter]

I'm just curious first of all as to how he would know that your the one that filed the complaint. That stuff is extremely confidential, and if that's breached, you could take the whole company to the labour board. If you don't feel comfy at your work, let people know! and if they aren't helping or resolving the problem (ie/. if he's still bugging you) take matters into your own hands, and find help through the labour board. Usually they mail you a booklet which features an area to write back to the labour board about your complaint. From there, the labour board handles stuff that you cannot.
It's worth a shot : )
I hope things get better in the workplace hun

Rei is 100% right! Any reports made to HR/Superiors should be completely confidential. If someone is leaking info about what you tell them then what is the incentive to do so? Any stand up company will deal with it in the manner best fitting the situation and if this guy is as bad as you have said then there is only one clear choice.

I had to deal with a guy at a tech support job who kept talking to me about his porn web site he ran on the side and pulling up videos at work of Faces of Death to show me. I'm not sure why he did it but he continued to do so and I eventually got so creeped out I reported it. He was gone before I came in for my next shift.

As horrible as it sounds this is one good thing for political correctness, if a woman makes a complaint on a man she is more likely to be taken seriously than vice versa. So you already have that in your favor. If you were driven to tears by the episode in front of these people there is no way they can ignore that. It;s a hostile work environment by definition and they can not allow that to continue.

Please, Micro above all else remember this...you did the right thing. You stepped up and had the guts to say something. You did exactly what was needed and in the right way. I hope it all turns out alright for you.

 

[snake0067]

ok.. I need some advice..

I was verbal harassed two weeks ago at work. I don't want to get into details but lets just say that the fuck word was used A LOT in a 1-2 minute conversation(if you can call it that). My supervisor is known for having no balls when it comes to this guy. and this guy physically scares the shit out of me because you don't know what he is capable of when he gets mad( he likes to throw shit and have temper tranmums(spelling is wrong but you get the idea)).

My problem is that I finally reported it to the higher-ups yesterday and had a meeting with the head HR person today in which they are going to be investigating my complaints and other complaints from different co-workers. this is all because i'm the only one who just doesn't deal with this guy and since I am one of two women who work there, the guys just deal with it in their own ways(they get back into his face where I will not do that).

What I need help with.. is how do I go to work knowing that He is going to know that I filed a complaint against him? I am a very emotional person and had not shown any emotion to him or to anyone else(other than just annoyance that he gets away with not doing his job since he is on the night crew). I had not shown any until today when I was done talking to the HR person and I just broke down. I left before he got to work because i'm just not in the right state of mind to deal with him and my supervisor wasn't there today to be a buffer(which I shouldn't need one but I don't feel comfortable with this guy.
He has told me to my face that he doesn't like me nor respect me. This guy has NO respect for anyone working there and everyone just lets him get away with no doing his job/acting out because they don't want to deal with him(He's been there for 5 years. Ive been there for 6mths).

I'm only there until August when I left for med. tech school so I didn't want to cause waves but I couldn't let him to continue to get away with treating me like crap because what happens when I left and he starts to pick on the person who will replace me. Its not fair and i'm so emotionally drained.. I don't know which way is left... sorry for the rambling....

-- Micro

Kick him in the junk.

 

[Lady Reiha]

Rei is 100% right! Any reports made to HR/Superiors should be completely confidential. If someone is leaking info about what you tell them then what is the incentive to do so? Any stand up company will deal with it in the manner best fitting the situation and if this guy is as bad as you have said then there is only one clear choice.

I had to deal with a guy at a tech support job who kept talking to me about his porn web site he ran on the side and pulling up videos at work of Faces of Death to show me. I'm not sure why he did it but he continued to do so and I eventually got so creeped out I reported it. He was gone before I came in for my next shift.

As horrible as it sounds this is one good thing for political correctness, if a woman makes a complaint on a man she is more likely to be taken seriously than vice versa. So you already have that in your favor. If you were driven to tears by the episode in front of these people there is no way they can ignore that. It;s a hostile work environment by definition and they can not allow that to continue.

Please, Micro above all else remember this...you did the right thing. You stepped up and had the guts to say something. You did exactly what was needed and in the right way. I hope it all turns out alright for you.

Thanks Squirtum *wrestles with her clothes in the suitcase*

Micro- everything will turn out fine. If worse comes to worse, just leave that place. Your better than that, and I'm sure you'll find a better job that respects you. ^-^ we're all here to help you if your still stuck or have a concern. Trust me, I had a store shut down because of me : ) So I know the 101 on getting respect and getting that guy's arse canned from your workplace if he dosen't stop. But Squirtum's right, you did the right thing, and you shouldn't be afraid of that

 

[chronicle_tenko]

*Chronie still doesn't know what's going on at his work but he fears he's gonna lose.*

Now my new manager I'm having an isue with but I dn't think I'm gonna win that one I think I'm just switching jobs. But Empress and Kitten are right, any complaints you made should be confidential and if he knows about it then sneer and call rape.

Someone will help you over this guy. And wrecked arm or not If I were there I'd volunteer the talking to.

 

[Lady Reiha]

*Chronie still doesn't know what's going on at his work but he fears he's gonna lose.*

Now my new manager I'm having an isue with but I dn't think I'm gonna win that one I think I'm just switching jobs. But Empress and Kitten are right, any complaints you made should be confidential and if he knows about it then sneer and call rape.

Someone will help you over this guy. And wrecked arm or not If I were there I'd volunteer the talking to.

Now Now Chronie. You need to rest. I'll do the talking to. >: D

 

[asian_princess]

Now Now Chronie. You need to rest. I'll do the talking to. >: D

I'm coming too.
everyone's scared of a preggers lady

 

[Lady Reiha]

I'm coming too.
everyone's scared of a preggers lady

No appy. You 2 need to rest!


*hands Appy bubbles, and Chronie, a bowl of Pho*

 

[chronicle_tenko]

No appy. You 2 need to rest!


*hands Appy bubbles, and Chronie, a bowl of Pho*

Mmm Pho.

 

[Lady Reiha]

Mmm Pho.

<.<
>.>


*sneaks away*

 

[asian_princess]

Mmm Pho.

*swipes the Pho and smiles gratefully at Wifey*

 

[Lady Reiha]

*swipes the Pho and smiles gratefully at Wifey*

^-^

Now now Appy- be nice!

he IS the chronie spermy donor afterall!

 

[asian_princess]

^-^

Now now Appy- be nice!

he IS the chronie spermy donor afterall!

yes ma'am.

*shares..cos i just heard about his arm booboo*

 

[Lady Reiha]

yes ma'am.

*shares..cos i just heard about his arm booboo*

*goes on her mission to kick Micro's problem in the arse*

you need to spoon-feed him Appy. He's in Chronie-like pain!