Negative views

[Nomadic Lady]

Do you ever look back upon your old boyfriends/girlfriends and wonder if you left a negative impact on their views of you?

If you have and were able to change that view, would you?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I'm pretty sure I left a negative view of myself with the first boyfriend. but considering the way everything ended, I'm okay with it. He hurt me so much with one sentence about 2 weeks after we broke up while we were trying to just be friends. I just couldnt stand to see his face or hear his voice anymore and havent spoken to him since. He isnt worth my time anymore since I wasnt worth just a little bit of consideration before he spoke those words to to me.

 

[quietwillow]

Well, past relationships may have been negative but I think after it was all said and done I have left most with at least a modicum of respect !!!

quiet

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

That's a very good question.

I noticed a pattern with my girlfriends back when I was single. I would be in a relationship with girl A, but after that ended, I would get into a sexual friendship with my girlfriend (girl B)who was my girlfriend just prior to A. Eventually I would find another girlfriend (girl C), and when that ended, I would get into a sexual friendship with girl B. This pattern continued through 8 or 9 serious relationships. I think it was a 50/50 thing with the sexual friendships...meaning, 50% of the time, I was the one who would initiate contact with my prior girlfriends, and the other 50%, it was them contacting me when they knew I was available again. I still talk to a few of them even now, and we always have good memories to share, and are still just as close as we were then.

I really don't care if they have negative feelings or not though, I'm no longer with them, and we ended our relationships for one reason or another anyways.

 

[mischeviousmisti]

my latest ex. i absolutely hate him so much that i wish he would have died, cuz he almsot did a while back. but any of my other ex's i've maintained a nice kind of friendship with. i try to stay away from too many negative feelings, i don't like them. thats why i haven't seen my evil army boy ex since he we parted for good.

 

[Nomadic Lady]

Most often than not, it would be unavoidable not to leave some kind of negative part of yourself with them. It takes a rare and special kind of relationship to leave on a friendly term. Even when leaving on friendly terms there must have been some kind of negativity that broke up the relationship to begin with, don't you think?

mischeviousmisti, do you honestly wish death on this person or is it just your anger speaking?
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quietwillow, guess we leave hoping that the mutual respect is there even though it had not turned out how we wished. At least I hope so.
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Bob_Bytchin, that's an interesting pattern you have there. Do you ever wonder why that is?
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Willing and Unsure, yah, some people just leave a bad taste in our mouths and who cares what they think afterwards.

 

[mischeviousmisti]

mischeviousmisti, do you honestly wish death on this person or is it just your anger speaking?
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as much as i really hate to admit it, yes i do. its not generally in my nature to wish death on somone but in his case, i dont' honestly think he should be allowed to live, unless of course he's not at all like the person he was which is possible i guess.

 

[Nomadic Lady]

mischeviousmisti, there is a handful of men (the one's that raped me) that I wish dead too. Know exactly how you feel.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

It is impossible to be with someone, or even to know someone and not leave a negative view on them. Impossible Everyone has characteristics that are less than pleasant, to put it mildly. And the people near us will see these whether we want them to, or realize they do, or not.
Sad, but true.

 

[Nora]

I don't know. They all seem to have met with untimely and violent ends...