Needing help

[LadyLeoness]

I am a 25 yr old sub female, i have read a lot and lurked around here a lot, i am new to all of this, but have managed to learn a lot, i have read the dom or dom set among other things. here is my problem i cant seem to find any one or any group in my area. my ex husband is very non understanding, and easily angered so i am takeing it slowly, i have kids with him, so i cant just tell him to get lost. i would like to find a responsible Dom, i have had online "rlelationships" and grow frushterated(sp) with them easily i realy would like to take a step towards finding some one to be in my life. but i seem to keep runing into dead ends. some help/guidence would be great. i am bi so i am unsure as to if i want a male or female partiner. i guess i am just open to the right person. here is to hopeing some one in here can help me lol

 

[graceanne]

Try www.collarme.com . It's free.

Oh and also check out http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html

 

[h_i_s]

graceanne's advice is right on mark, collarme is a great site which allows searching by location and is FREE.

There is a Yahoo Group: Nebraska_Community_Ties (Description of this group of almost 200 members ... "To find and meet others of all walks of life and lifestyles in the Nebraska area (and surrounding states) who are interested in exploring and learning more about r/l B.D.S.M and the lifestyle.").

 

[LadyLeoness]

just my luck

thank you for your help, just my luch though on the web sight, Neberaska is the only state with no current listings lol

 

[h_i_s]

thank you for your help, just my luch though on the web sight, Neberaska is the only state with no current listings lol

Which site do you mean? i was just at collarme.com & when i set the search of members to find male dominants in Nebraska (aged 18-99, all ethnicities, any height/weight, all sexualities) it shows 31 there for results. Search by 'any orientation & any sex' shows there are a total of 81 people registered and residing in the state of Nebraska.

 

[LadyLeoness]

I was refering to the other one lol, i am on collarme right now

 

[Xelebes]

You're not a Lady, you're nothing but a sister sub.

 

[rosco rathbone]

You need to hang around here on the bdsm forums and learn about the lifestyle by reading the posts of caring and strong dominants like me. BDSM can be very dangerous if you aren't aware of the predators and other false doms that lie in wait for new subs like you. Have fun posting, learn, enjoy, and stay SSC/RACK!

PM me if you want to learn more about this lifestyle of ours.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Collarme is populated by a lot of HNGs. Buyer beware! To find realtime groups in your area, like gracie said:

http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html

Real time groups to find real people.

 

[LadyLeoness]

i am trying to

I am currently trying to find a group in my area as i posted before the sight you are suggesting doesint have any here

 

[mdiaz451]

try these sites:

You can try alt.com, spanking.com, adultfriendfinger, kinkysingles, bondage.com - and there are other kinky sites out ther like slavefarm that allow you to post comments for free (and maybe get lots of HornyNetGeeks). I just remembered cuffs.com - a good, free site, but not used a lot. Few postings, probably none for Nebraska, BUT, if you post one that you're looking for a Dom, I bet you get replies. Maybe from AUstralia...

There are wannabee Doms on every site. By the word wannabee, I mean just that, they want to be a DOm, and have little grasp of the duties and responsibilites, but have the want/need/desire to be a Dom.

I would like to point out that just because a guy doesn't have a lot of experience does not mean that he lacks the ability to be a good Dom. I'd suggest he go slowly, and learn everything possible before he tries anything. Bondage can be dangerous. For example: tie her hands behind her back - geat fun, unless you have her walk and she trips on something - SPLAT, ouch! And not the good kinda ouch...

If you get a "GAT ON YUR NEES BICH!" message, obviously the guy is both a HNG and a total fool (but worth a good laugh!). Even if he has some basic manners, please be careful. There are some sick fucks out there that hide behind "Mastery" and "Domliness" to justify abuse rather than establishing consent zand respecting boundaries. Please be cautious.

Not to flame but some Dom behavior reminds me of the old phrase, "It's a black thing, baby, you wouldn't understand it"

NB: some people use wannabee as a term to indicate the person is not a "real Dom" but using the guise to prey on innocents and not behave with safe, sane & consensual motives. Sometimes called "users".

 

[mdiaz451]

point well made

Collarme is populated by a lot of HNGs. Buyer beware! To find realtime groups in your area, like gracie said:

http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html

Real time groups to find real people.

your point is valid, but there are HNG's and crass idiots on every site, I believe - from what I've heard subs tell me.

The link you cite is a good one - the Mass. listings I saw were current and correct.

MD

 

[LadyLeoness]

clearing some stuff up

I am not new to BDSM and i am not new to literotica. i have been in a very happy D/s relationship for a while, i understand about perves and intend to take it slow. I am how ever new to looking for a Dom as mine found me. When i was unable to find any groups or friends local is when i asked for help.
second it has come to my notice there is some question as to the use lady in my title, lady does not have a capitol because i am a sub. but it is a given title.

 

[LadyLeoness]

re reading my first post i see where i wasint clear on a lot of things. by all this i meant forums and chat.

 

[h_i_s]

Collarme is populated by a lot of HNGs. Buyer beware! To find realtime groups in your area, like gracie said:

http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html

Real time groups to find real people.

i had about as immediate & positive of an experience as anyone could hope for when i registered at collarme.com over a year ago. And as graceanne has, from what i have witnessed in the past, posted many great bits of advice and information to those seeking such, i'm certain that the link she posted also rates well.

As LadyLeoness has already stated that she was unable to find any groups or friends local to her, it would be fair to assume that she may wish to keep her resources as open as possible to increase her odds of finding exactly what/who she is seeking, rather than limiting them.

Whether experiences with any type of group/personal site can be rated as positive or negative does vary greatly from one person to the next. i've yet to find a personal site, forum or internet group which relates to sex and/or BDSM where HNGs are NOT present.
The same can be said for many 'real time' groups, clubs, & munches. They may go by a different lable other than HNGs, and i have seen that they also exists in r/t groups. Regardless of where we may seek to meet others who share the same interests, a good healthy dose of caution and common sense will be needed to balance the scales in weeding out the desirables from the non-desirables.

A whole different topic, but ... SOME actually LIKE & welcome HNGs. There's something for everyone regardless of where you look.