Need some advice from the guys

[bi-fem-nympho]

please delete

 

[HeavyStick]

a fourth conclusion..... he may be cheating on you. I'm not trying to stir the pot, but that will affect the libido of a previously active partner.

Hopefully you'll get this figured out

 

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[wkdclwn]

I have never heard of that either, but I wont discredit it. it may indeed hurt him, but to sit in a room with you and masturbate and then just ignore you seems really weird and not to mention rude and insensitive. I am a guy and I love porn, but I'll be damn if I am going to sit in a room w/ my g/f there ready and willing and then look at porn and masturbate and go on my merry way. Perhaps trying more lube on his dick or on the head will help ease or stop the pain if that is truly the problem. That is just my 2 cents for all it is worth. I would definitly say that is weird on my scale though. Mutual masturbation is one thing, but to do it w/ your partner in the room and ignore them is indeed abnormal I would say. That is MHO of course. I could be totally off base. Good Luck. Hope others can answer better than I. Take care. Later.

 

[bi-fem-nympho]

Thats my whole point. I dont care if he masturbates...hell..I encourage it. Problem is that he masturbates INSTEAD of having sex with me..and I dont mean occasionally.

I'm thinking he's addicted to porn. He spends HOURS everyday looking at it.

And when I do get him to f*** me...its over in like 3 minutes flat

 

[Mischka]

Why are you with this guy?

 

[fgarvb1]

bi-fem-nympho...You sound like one of my ex-girlfreinds.

If i could have fell in love with her i would have married her in a heartbeat.

 

[Freya]

Time for a new boyfriend maybe?

What kind of man would rather masturbate than have actual sex....hell, there's probably guys that'd sell their soul to have sex instead of jerking off. I'd have a hard time buying that wetness theory too...but to prove him wrong, thrown some lube in there to make it easier.

Sounds fishy to me though hun...might want to start looking for a new one.

 

[hogjack]

This guy has a strong fetish...

... whatever attributes he has that you find attractive that's cool because this particular interest is probably very ingrained. Either get used to it or consider other options.


Send me all his porn stuff and we'll see how he does without it.

 

[SouthernMale]

When I ask him for sex..he's always too busy. I feel totally unwanted and like he's almost repulsed by me. Yet he'll sit here and look at porn for hours and then ask "are you horny?" By that time I'm usually very hurt and upset so I have to say no..sex is not good to have when I'm mad. And he gets mad at me..am I wrong? Am I misinterpreting his actions?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help guys.

Hey sweetie wanna come spend a weekend in Arkansas with a horny mature man that would appreciate a hot horny young woman?

 

[DevilBoy79]

hmm there is nothing wrong with masterbating to porn, hell i had to when it came to having sex with my X, good god whatever possessed me to go out with her, anyhow, IA and myself just watched one on sunday, was her first one, besides little tid-bits of tapes we found layin round her house, that werent supposed to be there, she liked it alot , shoot it opened up a can of worms for discussion between us which is always a good thing(conversation *hint hint*), but i never choose porn over her, its much better with her she is beautiful, sexy, and one heck of a great lover, along with friend and soulmate, so i say you smack him upside the head a few times to wake his ass up, and start treating you right

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Any comments would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help guys.

From what you describe, I believe that in some ways he is acting selfish and immature, but all I can really say for sure is that your relationship has problems. Both of you should go to counseling to find out what the real problems are, but if he doesn't want to go (and he really should - he has issues) you should.

 

[bknight2602]

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The only conclusions I can come up with are 1) he's not attracted to me 2) he's too damn lazy 3) he's just completely selfish

Any comments would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help guys.

Look like the no votes win so far, I think it time to check out of the relationship, whether or not he cheats, loves or doesn't love you will drain you leaving an unhappy person you look at in the mirror.

 

[michaelmt1]

This whole uncircumcised excuse is a load of crap.

The thing is that a circumcised penis should slide a little easier. I am not circumcised and have always had great normal sex it does not hurt in any way shape or form in fact. I think that being uncircumcised help to get access to tighter places because you can pust the skin forward over the head place the loose skin at the enterance and use the natural pull back of the skin to help entry.

Think about the whole friction thing hold an uncircumcised penis and you can slide up and down with out any rubbing well at least to a degree. Now do the same with a cut one your hand rubs all the way up and down. So if you have a problem with dryness which I doubt it would be cut guys that would notice the most.

I hope you follow the logic of this post. Good Luck


Mike