Need Help!

[Guest]

Hello everyone.

I need some good and solid advice.

I'm a 31 yr old male with a an average cock (6 inches). The thing is, I'm a quick shot and I hate myself for it. So here is my question. Does anyone knows of a good, solid, and workable technique that could help me deal with this demoralizing issue?

My fiancé is very understanding with this issue - I assumed most women are - she enjoys what i do give her, but she happens to be one of those ladies who loves a long lasting, hard pounding fucking.

My first wife left me for another guy because I wasn't, as she put it, a stud. Actually, she said I am like an attractive piece of jewelry, beautiful to look at, and very desirable, but once had; I'm to hallow to be wanted - referring to my cocksmanship.

This is a very sensitive issue for me. Please reply if you only have something constructive to say. If you are one of those who take pleasure in other people's pain, don't reply!. My self-esteem is low enough.

To date, I have tried several things and none have worked. I tried creams, coming before sex, viagra; I've even used a penis pump, and nothing.

Please, please, please help me if you can.

Thank you, one and all.

 

[Guest]

Premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction that's not uncommon. I applaud your honesty and I hope I do not offend you. There are helpful sexual therapies, today. There is NOTHING wrong with seeking such therapy.
There are toys that can help. Cockrings can prolong your erection.
You said you've tried creams. There are so many topicals on the market these days. Anything that can help numb you a bit will desensitize your penis and help matters.
I wish I had the answers. I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time and your self esteem has suffered.
Good luck.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Don't go with creams sold by the sex shops. Go into any old Wal-mart, K-mart, Target, or whatever, and buy something that has a topical anesthetic in it. Usually, something like Orajel, or a muscel ointment. It numbs, or dulls, the nerve endings, which will give you alot less sensation. That usually helps prolong it, because you aren't getting as much out of it.

 

[Naughty Troll]

Please forgive the ignorance

I have the opposite problem. I can go for a very long time(at least that is what I have been told) before coming. I had to get the woman very very hot so she would last with me. Once coming, though that did not stop me from going at it again.

Just because you came fast, cant you start up again? She could give you oral to get you going again?

Otherwise I agree with going for help. Dont worry about getting help. It is far worse to live with a problem then the short term discomfort of getting help.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Please forgive the ignorance

I have the opposite problem. I can go for a very long time(at least that is what I have been told) before coming

Ditto, what NT said - well kind of; I can get so turned on that I lose control and orgasm before I intended to, but then I can stay hard and keep going.

For many men it is possible if they just try it. If it isn't possible for you Unregistered, then seek out the remedies already suggested - and that woman sounds like a keeper to me; do whatever you can to make her happy. An understanding and compassionate partner is something to treasure.

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Please forgive the ignorance

I have the opposite problem. I can go for a very long time(at least that is what I have been told) before coming.

Oh my.... I've never seen this problem in action,wouldnt it like hurt after awhile?

 

[goodgirl79]

YIKES

No offense...but your ex wife sounds like a heartless bitch. That is a terrible thing to say. Someone should tell her about tact (repeat after me, everyone)
"Tact is the ability to tell someone to 'go to hell' and make them look forward to the trip."

Keep your head up...Your fiance sounds very understanding and I'm sure she completely disagrees with what your ex wife did to you. As far as advice...that I can't do...but I'm here if you ever need to vent

goodgirl

 

[April]

A quick shot you say? That's not so bad. I like quick shots myself. After all, there is more to sex than just penile penetration.