Need help with sex problem!!

[Seduction587]

Hello! My bride to be and I are having a problem, and I don't know how to talk to her about it. We never go beyond oral sex. Penetration has only been rarely. I am so frustrated, as I feel I am not getting the full sex experience.
I don't understand why she's been so reluctant to try intercourse, when she's been so enthusiastic about other sexual activities. Note-I am an "average" guy, so I don't think the size of Mr. Happy scares her!
Thanks for the help

 

[Nogard]

I imagine she's waiting for the ring. Most women (rightly so) do not trust men when it comes to sex. We tend to promice everything and give nothing. Stop pushing until you're married. You'll both be happier

 

[Golden]

"... and I don't know how to talk to her about it" - well, your gonna have to try and get the words out somewhow;

Sounds like you have had pentrative sex on occasion; suggest that after the next bout of oral when you are at the hold-me-close-and-hug-me- stage afterwards and maybe have your eyes closed and that's when it is easier to talk difficult stuff ... you have to clear your throat, ahem, and say- "honey that was fantastic and wonderful etc, but next time I would just love for a moment or two to feel my cock inside you wrapped in your hot sweet pussy" or whatever terms you normally use, - and start the conversation ...

Does she come when you eat her pussy? Maybe she doesn't come with penetration - very few women do, unless there is additional clitoral stumulation from your hand or from your pubic bone through working round to a grinding angle.

Here's one way top resolve it: You could try manually working her clit and then without stopping, manoeuvre yourself into position to enter her slowly and gently and without a sudden surprise; if she pushes you out, there's a good reason for it, and equally it would be reasonable for you to ask her later why she did so.

good luck!! And let us know the results!

 

[Seduction587]

Golden-
Thanks for the advice. I hope to be able to give it a try soon!

 

[Lasher]

Hmm..If you're going to be married, you better learn how to talk to her about anything and everything. There's no room in a marriage for shyness or embarrassment. If you can't do it now, don't think it's a skill you are going to pick up later. And it's a hell of a lot better to air any dirty laundry BEFORE you have to pay the lawyers to clean up the mess.

 

[Guest]

Is there any reason you feel you need to push her so strongly to have sex? Maybe she's one of the few people out there who wanted to wait for marriage to have sex... Was she a virgin when you met her? Were her sexual experiences limited? If you really do love her, then you won't push her to have sex, you'll wait until she's ready. If she is that important to you, then you may have to break your engagement and seek someone else.

 

[Carl East]

Originally posted by seduction587:
There might be a very good reason why she won't have sex with you, other than she's waiting for when you're married. she may have been miss treated or something, in which case you need to talk about it, for it's something that needs to be aired.

 

[Patryn]

You're going to marry this girl that you can't talk to, all sex aside??????? What????

If you're frustrated now, I don't think getting married will solve the problem.