Need help with being rough with GF.

[Society]

I've never been with a girl that wants me to be rough, and I have NO clue what to do to her. I can't hear due to having my implant off while we're basically in the foreplay stages and sex, so talking dirty and calling names is OUT. What else could I do? Coming on her face is also out, but her boobs and stomach I guess are ok, at least she said so. But anyways what could I do to her since I cant hear her so I could talk dirty to her? I can't really throw her around because she's not exactly light, and I told her I'd pull her hair, but choking is also out. I'm not really a big can of being rough, she's the one that always asks if I will be. Also she said she'd show me, but what can I do to her that'd surprise her.


I'm thinking when we walk in the bedroom shove her on the bed and tell her she can't touch me til I say so. After that I've got no clue.


Anal is OUT btw, she and I both do not have any interest in trying it again.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Bandit58]

Try a few sharp spanks on the butt, especially when doing her doggy style. Hair pulling in this position is good too.

"Rough" means different things to different people, so you might want to sit down with her and ask her what would be acceptable and what would not. Communication and negotiation go a long way

A thought to keep in mind, if you can't hear when your implant is turned off consider having some sort of "safe signal" in case something goes wrong, like have her hold a small ball or a scarf which if dropped means "stop everything".

 

[SweetErika]

Try a few sharp spanks on the butt, especially when doing her doggy style. Hair pulling in this position is good too.

"Rough" means different things to different people, so you might want to sit down with her and ask her what would be acceptable and what would not. Communication and negotiation go a long way

A thought to keep in mind, if you can't hear when your implant is turned off consider having some sort of "safe signal" in case something goes wrong, like have her hold a small ball or a scarf which if dropped means "stop everything".

Great advice, especially regarding communicating and a safe signal. I feel both are strict requirements when doing things like this, especially when verbal communication is out.

Even if she's not tiny, you should be able to grab and push her into positions. For example, grab a hip and shoulder and push her down on the bed, or put your hands on her head while she's giving you oral.

Be rougher with her breasts...grab, knead, pinch nipples, suck or nibble instead of kiss and lick, etc. If she's a suitable candidate, you might consider pushing (or have her hold) her boobs together tightly while you fuck them. Of course everyone has a different pain tolerance, so start slowly and experiment together at other times.

Finger and give oral with more urgency. You could even do this and a lot more grabbing, teasing, etc. while she's tied up.

Overall, I think you've got to put yourself in more of a "fucking" mindset than a "making love" one. Imagine yourself as so horny, you've got to have her NOW, and will do almost anything to get the sex you love and crave.

 

[silverwhisper]

society, i hadn't realized how much of my bedroom communication actually is verbal until i read your post.

spanking is usually the easiest place to start, IMHO. if choking is out, try varying your angle when thrusting as well. from behind is a classic position for being rough, but that isn't the only one. if you can get through to the alpha male lurking in your soul that way, i'd wager that you'll feel inspired w/ ideas.

erika's advice re: communication is, as always, very good.

ed

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Andrew Dice Clay once said that he met this chick who wanted twelve inches and she wanted it to hurt. So he fucked her twice and smacked her in the head with a brick.

But that's just shock comedy.

Whatever you do after the communication is in full swing, just make sure you're doing only what she says you can do. A buddy of mine got himself into some hot water because he was with a gal that "liked it rough." Apparently he got a little too enthusiastic and misread her signals as to how far he could take the action. Nothing happened that would be detrimental to her life or anything, but he was in some pretty hot water with her afterwards, and I'm sure that it could have been worse.

Now, on the flip side of that, another buddy of mine, who did some world touring in a small-time band, once dated a woman in Guam who liked having her thighs sliced while she was being fucked. Each one to their own I guess.

 

[Society]

Thanks everyone, that helps somewhat. I guess I'll just see what she shows me later as well, as well as trying some things you guys told me. I did plan on tying her up anyways.

 

[Ezzy]

I can't hear due to having my implant off while we're basically in the foreplay stages and sex, so talking dirty and calling names is OUT...

Thanks in advance.

I wonder if you would not be better off thinking about finding a belt or something that would allow you to carry your implant and hear what is going on, if you are doing it doggie style and she wants it harder and deeper etc you would have to have a mirrer to be able to read her lips...mind you that might just help the rest of your sex life to do it in front af a mirror.

Communication would be simpler though if you could hear her.

 

[kylabuf]

he's learning!

my boy friend had an issue with getting rough he was afraid he was gonna hurt me or my feelings .....but now he's getting it,took alot of comunication! we talk about everything!

 

[Society]

We don't do doggystyle, we've tried but it just doesn't work out.

 

[bytor2112]

Edited...guess why.

 

[Mary Hall]

just grab a handful of hair and impale the bitch's throat on your rod....make her gag and ask her if that's rough enough..and if you ain't got the sack to do it..send her to me..

You aren`t a nice guy, is ya?

 

[Society]

I don't even shove my dick in her mouth, why? because she wants me to give her time to work into her accepting that, she has a horrible gag..So I'm giving her all the time in the world she needs before she'll move into that territory, if she decides she never wants to do that ethier, it's no big loss for me.

 

[Society]

is your dick too big??

just grab a handful of hair and impale the bitch's throat on your rod....make her gag and ask her if that's rough enough..and if you ain't got the sack to do it..send her to me..

No it's just she's not skinny or anything so it doesn't work. We've tried many diff ways and none work, so we're giving up.

 

[SweetErika]

Pssst...bytor's a troll, and you should never feed the trolls!

 

[Mary Hall]

Bytor rubs me the wrong way, i can`t help wishing him crushed like a roach

 

[Eilan]

Bytor rubs me the wrong way, i can`t help wishing him crushed like a roach

For what it's worth, you're one of the best troll-feeders on Lit!

 

[Mary Hall]

There`s no troll i can`t cut down with my acerbic wit

 

[Eilan]

"Rough" means different things to different people, so you might want to sit down with her and ask her what would be acceptable and what would not. Communication and negotiation go a long way

Most excellent points. I think that the fact that you need to communicate with each other has been stressed several times here, but it's always worth repeating.

society, i hadn't realized how much of my bedroom communication actually is verbal until i read your post.

I was thinking this as well.


I'm going to try not to repeat what's already been addressed here, but some things that I indulge in with my husband are:

--Being restrained with his hands, with my hands held over my head or behind my body. I tend to bruise easily, so we have to be careful.
--Face-slapping. Not really, really hard, but hard enough to sting a bit. We don't do this often.
--Scratching. I love it when my husband takes me from behind (spooning works well) and claws at my back.
--Biting. Hell, yeah! My lips, my neck, my back, my legs--whatever!

Hope that helps.

 

[5pintshefound]

No it's just she's not skinny or anything so it doesn't work. We've tried many diff ways and none work, so we're giving up.

wait a sec, are you talking about her giving you head and shes not skinny? {sorry, kinda confused?!?}


if you mean you dont do doggie with her, im curious as to why.. im a big girl- it seems to me that doggie is the easiest way to do things... just curious , is all....

~5PHF

 

[Bandit58]

wait a sec, are you talking about her giving you head and shes not skinny? {sorry, kinda confused?!?}


if you mean you dont do doggie with her, im curious as to why.. im a big girl- it seems to me that doggie is the easiest way to do things... just curious , is all....

~5PHF

The easiest way for doggie I've found is if I kneel on the bed near the edge and he stands on the floor behind me, it allows easy access To give oral I kneel beside him in a 69 position and that gives me control of the depth he goes in my mouth and throat while giving him access to my nether regions for fingering or spanking

The reason I'm beside and not straddling him is I'm a gusher/squirter and he'd probably drown

I used to gag a lot during oral but with patience and practice and a lot of trust I can take him pretty deep but have found that the more aroused I am the deeper it goes

 

[5pintshefound]

The reason I'm beside and not straddling him is I'm a gusher/squirter and he'd probably drown

HAH!!!! well, that'd be a helluva way to go tho?!?!?

 

[MR.GGG]

From the TRY THIS thread (pg 6)

For anybody who has tried the GSpot technique and found that it works AND likes a spanking now and then - COMBINE the TWO.

A good OTK and every 10 swats or so give her two to five rapid G-Gasms and then 10 swats. Alternate that back and forth. Keep it rapid aªnd frenzied, pull her hair, lock only one leg down so she can kick the other around, keep one arm firmly over the small of her back so she feels (and IS ) trapped and can't get away. MAKE her submit just a little longer than she wants to. She'll be screaming and begging you to stop. Don't. Part of the thrill for her is NOT knowing if you'll just keep going until she goes completely nutz or passes out from the intensity. I don't think most women can continue this for more than two or three minutes once they start having G-Gasms. It is just too intense. The spanking combines the kinkiness and submission AND the GSpot orgasms can be administered almost like spanks..."WHAT did you call me? OK - That's TEN more!!" It is awesome.

Depending on the position you're in you can hold her down completely, allow one leg to flail about what ever seems like the most erotic at the time. If she's over your lap you can between what I describe above (like giving her a few secs to catch her breath) you can pull her hair, pinch nipples and generally tug her around on the bed or over you like she has no choice. After you've reduced her to a puddle drape her face down over some pillows and fuck the living schnot out of her - HARD AS YOU CAN - and then ... MUCH ... later discuss the whole thing and find out from her what rang her chimes or what didn't. ... you know ... if you're NOT already in jail! Taht might be an indication you pushed her boundaries. Just a guess.


Other than that I would suggest a "safe word" in sign language. You know, One finger OK - two is harder and 3 tapped on the bed is enuf/too hard/back off or STOP. That way she's bee confortable allowing you to try stuff and know that you could still "hear" her give the safe signal. If you don't SEE her signal then she can poke you in the eye with one two or three fingers and you should get the meaasge.

 

[Society]

wait a sec, are you talking about her giving you head and shes not skinny? {sorry, kinda confused?!?}


if you mean you dont do doggie with her, im curious as to why.. im a big girl- it seems to me that doggie is the easiest way to do things... just curious , is all....

~5PHF

I'm talking about doggy, we've tried time and time again to get it down/move into position, but no luck.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm talking about doggy, we've tried time and time again to get it down/move into position, but no luck.

How tall are you two? And what specifically is the problem with getting into position? What have you tried (her on hands and knees, leaning over something, bent over standing up, etc.?

 

[Society]

How tall are you two? And what specifically is the problem with getting into position? What have you tried (her on hands and knees, leaning over something, bent over standing up, etc.?

I'm 5'10 and she is 5'3...We've tried her kneeling on my bed and that didn't work. We tried her at the edge of my bed with me standing that didn't work. I do believe we tried the bent over something. Other then that..no worky