need help with an LBTQA+

[kinkybunny123]

I'd like the expand on my gay werewolf Theo's story. I think I can make it better. But, I'm straight. I don't know where to find material on Theo's experience. (I'm trying to be delicate in phrasing. I don't want to offend anyone.)

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

Depends on what kind of person Theo is. He might grapple with internalized homophobia and struggle to balance his attraction with this preconceived notions of masculinity. He might fear his attraction to straight men comes off as predatory and feel ashamed because of it.

Or he might just be completely to terms with his sexuality and instead have his story focus on the lack of social experience flirting with men. As gay teens don't get to practice dating as young as their straight peers. Meaning they lag behind in figuring out courtship and identifying when others find them attractive.

 

[ericrodman101]

The shame and lack of experience for young gay men often makes them vulnerable to older man, and to risk taking and being preyed upon. I say these things as facts and plot devices to help define Theo's motivations.

 

[shakna]

I'm male and bi, not gay, but for me there's really not a great deal of difference when it comes to relationships with either side.

I tend to go for slightly older men, and I prefer a mature kind of look, but those are just general preferences you'll find with anything. I'm not going to check out how big a guy's crotch looks, and I hate dick picks as much as a woman generally does, but... I might check out an ass or two. And a flat chest or slightly bloated stomach (dad bod), does tickle my fancy. As do beards. Especially scratchy ones.

I do tend not to be as forthcoming about my sexual proclivities in person, because where I live is fairly conservative. That is, most people will say something along the lines of, "I don't mind it if you're queer, but could you not throw it in my face?" Demonstrating that they're really do mind, as without me saying, or without me getting "caught", you wouldn't know I was bi at all. But all it takes to find out if I am is asking. I'm a straight-forward kind of guy.

A few more preferences - I don't care how sexy you are, your personality will be the overriding factor. If you're overprotective, I'll push you away. But if you're not romantic, then I won't find you interesting beyond maybe a one night stand, but I'm interested in long lasting relationships. Your smile, laugh, and humour are far sexier than anything else. And just like every straight trope, holding my cheek and staring into my eyes will either get me going, if I like you, or get me ready to slap/push you, if I don't.

Dating-wise, I haven't seen a real big difference between men and women. There are some who expect you to read between the lines, and some who come out and tell you what they're thinking, and various combinations thereof. I haven't seen any real differences other than that I prefer slightly different things on either side of the apparent fence.

However - I have no experience with the so-called "gay persona". I've only met a single gay guy who was extremely effeminate. And I was rather disturbed by it, to be honest. It felt like an act, even though I knew that's just how they were. None of my partners have been like that. Play some basketball, crack a beer, etc.

 

[shakna]

Meh. You can keep your beer. I'll keep my lipstick. The hate that some gay and bi men have for femininity in men is a snore. One could say that masculinity is just as much of an act, but nobody is telling these men that they're faking anything. But hey, once you start to sniff of gender nonconformity, then you are suddenly not so genuine...

Oh, honey, I wasn't talking about just a little femininity. The "gay persona" is a little more than that. For example, the Queer Eye boys tend more towards the feminine side, but they aren't nearly there to classify for the trope, and there's certainly no hate for them here.

But the boys from Potts Point could make Barbie seem butch by comparison.