Need help planning ceremony

[thmpdark]

My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years and have decided we would like to spend our lives together
Rather then rushing a large and more public wedding we have decided right now in our lives we would like to have something private and intimate where we can make our vows to eachother
While I have ran across many bdsm/collaring ceremonies and a few different ideas I have liked I have yet to find anything appropriate for what we would like
Any help or ideas would be greatly appreciated

 

[SmilinAngel]

I can't really help - except for traditional stuff, but I just wanted to say congratulations!!! Finding someone that you truly love that that loves you back unconditionally is one of the best gifts in life. Cherish each other and your relationship together. Good luck with everything

 

[tigerjen]

here's an idea:

take your vows w/ a justice of the peace presiding
(just you two) but I think you might need a witness
for that.....I'd check on that.

Then go for a lovely honeymoon trip to wherever
you two want to go!

Best wishes and good luck!


tigerjen

 

[SmilinAngel]

Actually, I just thought of something, kinda plain, but if you near the ocean/beach or a lake or something, how about just a small ceremony there at sunset, or on a hilltop or mountaintop at sunset ... hope that helps!

 

[sheath]

Wow...your possibilities are endless. Literally.

Are you looking for something incorporating BDSM into the ceremony? Is that really important or just a suggestion?

A few things that mattered to me when I got hitched, way back when and a lifetime ago, lol...

Choose a date that really matters to you. Not just something out of thin air. Even if it is a day, like a Sunday, choose it for a reason. Sit down and talk about the milestones in your lives, the dates of those, and come up with something that has really significant meaning.

Time is important as well. I was married to my now-ex-husband at 11:59 PM. We did it on purpose...we wanted to take that first step into marriage, literally and figuratively, at that moment. And we wanted to be driving to our honeymoon while enjoying the sunrise. It was magical.

A very quiet ceremony, with just a few friends and a pastor or justice, is a great idea. You can wear what you want, not worry about anything but each other, and plan for a kick-ass reception sometime later. But the day should be about the two of YOU, not anybody else. That's what I hate about big weddings.

Write your own vows. Only the two of you know what is in your heart. My ex and I wrote two sets of vows...the ones we recited that night at the wedding, and the one we said to each other, in complete privacy, before we walked down the aisle. The ones we recited were for the benefit of those witnessing...the private ones were private, and meant the most. Even though we are now divorced, those vows still matter. It involved honor through everything, even pain...respect above all else...and remembering the knowledge that love never fades, it only changes. I know it sounds strange...but the 'cherish and love forever' vows were the ones that were broken...the ones we spoke to each other, in private, were the ones that last to this day, despite the divorce. That is a tangent and I hope it made sense! lol

Ummm...little gifts to one another. Things that really, truly matter. I gave him my grandfather's watch...he knew what it meant to me, and to this day, he still wears it. He gave me something I cannot mention here, but that I still have and cherish deeply. Those were things that lasted beyond the gold bands.

I'm rambling now, so I'm going to stop.

Can you mention more specifics about what you want? You might get more help from pointing us all in the right direction.

And congratulations.

S.

 

[SweetErika]

Congratulations! You've made a great choice in shaping the wedding around your wants, not those of everyone else. We did something similar...a small, intimate gathering of our closest friends and family, and we wouldn't have changed a thing. We chose a spiritual (not religious) minister, and wrote the entire ceremony ourselves. We did follow a general format (you can find these online), but we made it our own. One thing we did was a wine ceremony, which had special meaning to us.
So my advice would be to make a list of what's important to both of you (activities, faith, places, cultural heritage, etc.), and look for ceremonies or create your own based on one or more of the things on your list. Most ceremonies involve "binding" the couple together in some way or having them share something. As long as you do something that has significance to both of you, you really can't go wrong.
Best of luck to both of you!

 

[Lust Engine]

No matter how you guys choose to celebrate it, it'll be uniquely yours.

Congrats.

 

[thmpdark]

Thanks for all the replies
As far as incorporating BDSM into the ceremony thats a definite no but while searching the internet the only types of ceremonies i could find were for BDSM thats why I brought it up
There was one I belive called 'The ceremony of the rose' where we both liked the idea of where you prick your finger with a rose and drip a drop of blood on the rose and then you put your fingers together and make your vows
A wedding is important to us and is something that we will have but we just want to have something different then what everyone else does and something we can share with each other