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[radepor]

OH Shit! This sounds serious

This sounds awful. It's got nothing to do with BDSM, I think.

If I'm wrong, I apologize for being alarmist. If I'm right you need to psychologically prepare for more independence. It can be hard.

I hope I'm wrong; if I'm not, please accept my hope you that you push through the difficulty. Good luck.

Been together for 2 years. Really into the BDSM in the beginning. I was the slave, he the master. I loved it. Now he wants nothing to do with it. He says its becasue he "sees" me differently. He fell in love with me blah blah blah. But yet he hardly wants to have sex at all. Says he jacks off alot when I'm gone. (we only see eachother everyother weekend) I dont thing he's cheating, but maybe he has a porn issue I should be concerned about or maybe he didnt just "turn" off the BDSM switch and is doing it somewhere else. I doubt it, but Its hard to think you can just drop it. What do you think?
Thanks!

 

[radepor]

A PURE opinion

I haven't read any replies - thats what I mean by pure.

Simply reading your post -- I'm sorry to say, I think your relationship is over. If he/she/or it is masturbating instead of having sex with you -- well, please draw some rational conclusions.

I don't mean to be mean. Ask yourself, ask him/her/it are either/both of you happy with yourselves?

I'll let you answer the question and act on the the answer. Good luck; I wish you happiness.

Been together for 2 years. Really into the BDSM in the beginning. I was the slave, he the master. I loved it. Now he wants nothing to do with it. He says its becasue he "sees" me differently. He fell in love with me blah blah blah. But yet he hardly wants to have sex at all. Says he jacks off alot when I'm gone. (we only see eachother everyother weekend) I dont thing he's cheating, but maybe he has a porn issue I should be concerned about or maybe he didnt just "turn" off the BDSM switch and is doing it somewhere else. I doubt it, but Its hard to think you can just drop it. What do you think?
Thanks!

 

[subwannabe]

Sorry but I didn't have time to read all of your responses. Someone must have said you can't force him into bdsm if he doesn't want to go down that road and you are not going to be happy turning the switch off. In fact, you can't turn the switch off. My opinion is you are going to have to find a new partner. This one has reached the end of the road.