Need Exhibitionist Advice

[muffalo]

So I have a FWB and we are looking to be exhibitionists for a day, and we don't know how or where to have fun :/
Can anyone with experience give us some help on places we could, well, maybe tease others...maybe even put on a nice show...?
We are new to this but I'm excited to try. I'm not sure what else to ask, but I can give more details if needed. We live in a city, so plenty of fun places I'm sure, I just can't think of them. AND it's winter, so outside, which seems to always be a great option, is off the table.
Ok, thanks for reading
Muff

 

[joan658]

Well, since you don't want to be outside because of the cold weather, why not try large stores like Sams Club or Walmart, or better yet Ikea? Find a an aisle that's empty or behind a display and PLAY. Best if 'she' wears a short skirt and NO PANTIES for easy access. Perhaps 'he' could wear sweatpants that are easily pulled down (and back up in a hurry if someone cums along).

Another idea for her to display herself is to go to a shoe store (Short skirt and NO PANTIES) and try on shoes. Of course, you need a shoe store where they wait on you and bring out the shoes and help you try them on ... that way she can display her sweet pussy by just spreading her knees a bit.

Go to a dept store where they have fitting rooms (try a somewhat upscale store where they aren't "attended", Kohls or Macys are usually good). Have her pick out something to try on and have him go back in with her ... you could have lots of fun in a changing room I bet.

Even a grocery store could be fun ... have her wear a very low cut top, maybe without a bra. Find an aisle wear there's a guy shopping and then she can bend over and look for something on the bottom shelf and let the guy have a nice look at her breasts ... hmmmm, sounds yummy.

Hope these ideas are the type of thing you're looking for ....

Joan

 

[muffalo]

Thanks Joan! Great help so far!

A couple problems we face are that she has A cup titties, which I LOVE, but won't allow for cleavage or fun breast play.

The other issues, which kind of goes along with letting her pull her shirt down, she gets cold really easily :/ I guess that's an overall exhibitionist dilemma, although I like the sweat pants Idea for me.

I realliy like the suggestions so far, but I'm also curious about what we could DO. And perhaps what we could get away with.

Stroking my cock in Ikea...straight up flashing in a supermarket? How about fingering and bjs...

I guess we'll have to be creative and assess the situations. Some stories or sharing experiences would be great

 

[Marci_M]

Be careful in dressing rooms, some are monitored.

 

[muffalo]

Be careful in dressing rooms, some are monitored.

Thanks

 

[Eilan]

You should look for a swingers' club or similar (and safer) location to fulfill this fantasy. It's considered extremely bad form to subject the unsuspecting public to your kink.

 

[muffalo]

You should look for a swingers' club or similar (and safer) location to fulfill this fantasy. It's considered extremely bad form to subject the unsuspecting public to your kink.

Well, I understand that, but my first response is that I don't think the things we end up doing would traumatize anyone. This culture is way more accepting of hatred, racism, and violence to be worried about a horny couple trying to control themselves in public.

My second point is that we wouldn't "subject" a family or underage kids to our kink. That is why I'm asking advice for location and ideas.

I appreciate your concern anyway.

 

[GaryMary]

Exhibitionist Fun

Try going shoe shopping with her wearing a short skirt and no panties. You pretend not to be with her and observe the lucky salesman being treated and teased by her as she tries on some sexy high heels .

You can do the same at a Starbucks where she sits across from some lucky gentleman.

 

[muffalo]

Try going shoe shopping with her wearing a short skirt and no panties. You pretend not to be with her and observe the lucky salesman being treated and teased by her as she tries on some sexy high heels .

You can do the same at a Starbucks where she sits across from some lucky gentleman.

I like the skirt ideas, but there are very few places that will fit a girl for a shoe, and if they do, for heels, it would most likely be a woman.

She doesn't wear skirts, and it is winter, so wearing a mini skirt and no panties would be weird.
What I have thought of is some sort of see through lacy stockings, or just real thin ones, and a miniskirt. I would love to let a lucky stranger see me pull up her skirt to reveal a tight little but in sleek pantyhose...

I appreciate the advice, I think a lot of it comes from just going out and doing it, but we have to set up dates ahead of time, so I'd like to prepare as much as possible. I will definitely update when we try something. We are supposed to meet up monday

So far I really like the Ikea idea, but might not see to many solo guys there, and it seems like it would be an invasion of people's personal space the way the store is set up. I think the mall or grocery store could be fun places. We can choose a little better who gets to see us being naughty.

Any other ideas or experiences are welcome. I think a place like home depot could be fun because of the amount of guys, but again, walking around in a miniskirt and pantyhose in the winter seems like it would draw too much attention.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, I understand that, but my first response is that I don't think the things we end up doing would traumatize anyone. This culture is way more accepting of hatred, racism, and violence to be worried about a horny couple trying to control themselves in public.

My second point is that we wouldn't "subject" a family or underage kids to our kink. That is why I'm asking advice for location and ideas.

I appreciate your concern anyway.

And your first and second responses are totally wrong. You're considering playing out your fantasy in public, where there are people who will probably not be OK with seeing you and your gf do whatever it is you plan to do. IKEA, Walmart, the grocery store...these are all places where there are not only kids, but also adults who have no desire to see sexual acts. By expressing your kink in public, you're forcing yourselves on other people, and there's nothing right about that.

And, FWIW, the law agrees with us on this. If you're found out/reported, at best you'll get a stern warning or ticket, and at worst, you'll be in serious legal trouble and/or potentially have to carry around a "sex offender" status for the rest of your lives.

So, why wouldn't you limit your activities to places where you can be assured they're acceptable to all who might see them? What's wrong with attending a club or party where you can let your exhibitionist flag fly without harming kids and/or offending other adults? Why put yourselves in jeopardy of getting in trouble when you don't have to by simply exhibiting in appropriate places?

 

[muffalo]

And your first and second responses are totally wrong. You're considering playing out your fantasy in public, where there are people who will probably not be OK with seeing you and your gf do whatever it is you plan to do. IKEA, Walmart, the grocery store...these are all places where there are not only kids, but also adults who have no desire to see sexual acts. By expressing your kink in public, you're forcing yourselves on other people, and there's nothing right about that.

And, FWIW, the law agrees with us on this. If you're found out/reported, at best you'll get a stern warning or ticket, and at worst, you'll be in serious legal trouble and/or potentially have to carry around a "sex offender" status for the rest of your lives.

So, why wouldn't you limit your activities to places where you can be assured they're acceptable to all who might see them? What's wrong with attending a club or party where you can let your exhibitionist flag fly without harming kids and/or offending other adults? Why put yourselves in jeopardy of getting in trouble when you don't have to by simply exhibiting in appropriate places?

Well, we don't have time or money to be a part of a membership swingers club, and I'm not sure there are any around us.

My first point is absolutely correct and it scares me that you think it's not. Our culture is more accepting of violence then sex and that's a fact you should know. I'm sorry you haven't been lucky enough to live in an urban poor neighborhood or city, but I have. You will be "subjected" to homeless people, drugheads and whinos, uproaring arguements, and often enough abuse and mistreatment of kids, if not all out violent fights.
I don't know why you assume the majority of the population would be so horribly offended at seeing my girl's bum, or seeing her with her hand down my pants for a split second. It certainly sounds like you would make a big deal about it, but your assumption is just that. You haven't gone out and taken a survey. You have a problem with it, but my opinion, just as valid as yours, says most people would brush it off. Mainly because I am the one who is concerned with what we will be doing, which I'm pretty sure is a fraction of the gratuitous acts you are imagining we will be doing.
I told you, CLEARLY, that the whole point is to make sure we are not in a place that will disrupt families or children. We are not freakin morons. We know exposing yourself is illegal, but let me ask, why are you all of the sudden concerned for us in that regard? Wouldn't you just want the dirty creeps like us get arrested? The streets would be so much cleaner without such scum like us, EXPOSING OUR KINK.
I did not start this thread to debate the morals of exhibitionism, but that seems like what it has turned into. In that case let's just switch the topic to breast feeding in public, gay marriage, and transgenders. Oh sorry, you're probably too grossed out just thinking about those things.

 

[NightL]

Well, we don't have time or money to be a part of a membership swingers club, and I'm not sure there are any around us.

Research

We are not freakin morons.

???

We know exposing yourself is illegal, but let me ask, why are you all of the sudden concerned for us in that regard?

...just maybe Eilan and SweetErika are concerned for others...

...and back to research... get off your arse and make some enquiries... there will be clubs and groups probably right under your nose... and they probably won't cost any more than going out dancing at any other club. Compare that to going before courts...

 

[muffalo]

Research

???

...just maybe Eilan and SweetErika are concerned for others...

...and back to research... get off your arse and make some enquiries... there will be clubs and groups probably right under your nose... and they probably won't cost any more than going out dancing at any other club. Compare that to going before courts...

I have done research, why did you assume I haven't? If you know all about swingers clubs, then go to the thread about swingers clubs. The last time I checked the only clubs were far away and we don't have time or money to do that, you okay with that?

I'm not sure where this "concern for others" comes from. It's actually very strange to me.
This thread was sort of in jest. Exhibitionism is not that big of a deal for me, yet those who chime in on this thread act as though I'm a sexual deviant constantly on the prowl for more unsuspecting victims. Lol

Get a life if you don't want to talk about it, or if it grosses you out. But the idea that you should be concerned for others is frankly, odd. We are a normal couple, just curious about it. You all have painted this picture in your head of a couple outlaws looking to get off at other people's expense. I apologize if the thread came off that way when I set it up, but you're looking for a soapbox and it's not here. Just because I ask others from Lit about this topic, doesn't make me lower than you. And that's the way I've been treated. DON'T comment on MY THREAD if you're going to say the same thing as the last person and not bring up the points that I made.

 

[muffalo]

If you were to see two teenagers making out in a movie theatre, you'd say, "kids...psh" Probably because you either couldn't admit to your jealousy, or more likely you would be weary of having a teenager talk back to you if you said something.
If you saw two adults you'd say, "Jeez, they should KNOW better"
And you would feel more confident, as though you are now on the same moral ground as they are and you have the right to say something.

Here's the problem you have. The "kids" DO know better, they just don't give a crap. The adults that do it are in the same boat. They don't care about your sensitivity.

Not everybody "grows up" and conforms to what YOU deem an "appropriate" society. And sometimes that sucks, but most often, that's life.
That is not to say that those same people step it up with lude sexual behavior, but they are self actualized enough to understand that a poke and jab at society's rules is what keeps this world from turning into the stepford wives.
Some cheeky behavior in public is NOT that big of a deal unless it is focused on in a thread or scrutinized under a microscope.

Manage your priorities.

 

[Eilan]

...just maybe Eilan and SweetErika are concerned for others...

Yeah, this. I don't give a fuck about the OP's dumb ass, but if I'm at a grocery store and some fucking yahoo is letting his dick hang out up and down the aisles, then, yeah, there's a problem. If y'all want to be exhibitionists, knock yourselves out. Just exercise caution and common sense, both of which seem to be sorely lacking in this thread.

Some cheeky behavior in public is NOT that big of a deal unless it is focused on in a thread or scrutinized under a microscope.

Manage your priorities.

We clearly have differing ideas about what "cheeky behavior" is. Making out in a movie theater isn't even remotely close to being the same thing as flashing tits and cock to people who haven't consented to be a part of your kink. If you can't see the difference between the two, then you're probably not smart enough to be interacting with the public.

As for managing priorities, I think you'd do well to follow your own advice. You're not some special snowflake who doesn't have to follow the rules. And just because this is a "porn board" doesn't mean that you're going to get validation for all your shit-brained ideas.

 

[muffalo]

Yeah, this. I don't give a fuck about the OP's dumb ass, but if I'm at a grocery store and some fucking yahoo is letting his dick hang out up and down the aisles, then, yeah, there's a problem. If y'all want to be exhibitionists, knock yourselves out. Just exercise caution and common sense, both of which seem to be sorely lacking in this thread.We clearly have differing ideas about what "cheeky behavior" is. Making out in a movie theater isn't even remotely close to being the same thing as flashing tits and cock to people who haven't consented to be a part of your kink. If you can't see the difference between the two, then you're probably not smart enough to be interacting with the public.

As for managing priorities, I think you'd do well to follow your own advice. You're not some special snowflake who doesn't have to follow the rules. And just because this is a "porn board" doesn't mean that you're going to get validation for all your shit-brained ideas.

Have fun on the other threads. I'm glad you've figured out we're a bunch of shit-brained idiots that can't interact in public.
You have an ego problem, and I'm sure you're a selfish fucking bitch to be around.
I'm not asking for validation, I'm asking you to shut the fuck up and spend your time somewhere else. Do you realize the only reason this thread is bumped is because you feel empowered by lecturing on it? Nothing you say will change how I feel, or what I do. The whole point-that is, outside your blinders- was that I was asking what people do, flash cocks, make out, etc.
Aside from all this shit, which has gotten WAY out of hand, you don't know how to make a proper argument aside from just interrupting an already slow moving thread to sit on your high horse and tell people how you feel, when nobody is going to care. Maybe on the other threads, but not here.

 

[muffalo]

If any of the assholes that have decided to pick a fight on here ever catch me "flashing my dick"- although it is highly unlikely I would ever do that in reality- you are welcome to come over to me and swiftly and powerfully kick me in the nuts.
I am not here to brag out being an exhibitionist. I am NOT one. I was curious, and still am, about how naughty people get in public. If you don't care, take your bullshit somewhere else. This is the internet, not your fucking living room.

 

[bailadora]

The thing is, if you truly intend to honor your promise not to disrupt/disturb families and kids, then that pretty much leaves out MOST public places. I quite frequently have my kids in tow in most of the aforementioned suggestions (Ikea, the grocery store, the shoe/department store, etc) and I would most definitely not welcome exhibitionist behavior at these locales.

The only place(s) I can think of where you MIGHT be able to get away with showing off, as it were, is in a bar, a nightclub or other spaces where only adults are allowed.

 

[thongman8]

Go to a Starbucks or a place that has an eating area that looks out the front of the store. Sit on a high stool wearing a short skirt. Have your legs crossed. If you see someone you think might like to see your goods, then, when they are looking, uncross your legs so they can see.

You said she has A-cup breasts. Are they small or very small? If they are very small, why not try going out as a guy with their shirt off. During the summer of course. Tuck her hair into a ball cap, put on a pair of raggedy old cut offs and flip slops. Throw on a pair of sunglasses and she could pass as a guy.

A lot of dressing room areas have a place where there are a lot of mirrors. Like a small room/booth with 5 - 6 walls that has a mirror on each wall. These areas are usually visible to people near by. Have her put on something revealing and go to the mirror area to look at it. If there is someone close, then they will get a nice show. If she is caught by a sales person, then they will ask her not to wear it out there but look at it in her dressing room. No harm no foul.

As far as public displays of affection, try an adult book store or toy store. Find a place like the Lion's Den.

 

[bailadora]

No harm no foul.

Not exactly. Have you considered that in all the scenarios you mentioned, minors could unwittingly be involved? IMO, a short term thrill is NOT worth carrying around a lifetime label of sex offender.

And honestly, minors aside, it's just plain disrespectful to involve others in your kink without their express consent and approval.

I'm not against people being exhibitionists, but I AM against people doing it in places where nudity is neither expected nor welcomed.

 

[thongman8]

Not exactly. Have you considered that in all the scenarios you mentioned, minors could unwittingly be involved? IMO, a short term thrill is NOT worth carrying around a lifetime label of sex offender.

And honestly, minors aside, it's just plain disrespectful to involve others in your kink without their express consent and approval.

I'm not against people being exhibitionists, but I AM against people doing it in places where nudity is neither expected nor welcomed.

I think that if someone is caught by the opening of the dressing room looking at them self in the mirrors that they will not be labeled for life as a sex offender. Play it off as a naive mistake on her part and the sales people will politely ask you to not wear that certain garmet there.

As far as the other places, selectively flashing people as they walk by a restaurant won't get you thrown in jail either.

Both situations can be played off as a naive mistake on the flashers behalf. "Oh, I didn't realize that I was doing that" Or "I didn't realize this top was so sheer until I got out here"

I mean, really, I know ladies that go out braless wearing something slightly sheer and no one bats an eye at them.

As far as children go, not that I'm condoning flashing them, I'm not at all, but, they don't think anything of it. They only react the way they have been taught to react. If a mother and her child are outside a dressing room area and a lady walks to the mirror area to look at herself in what she has on, and it happens to be sheer or revealing, the child is not going to look at her and think anything about it. It is a dressing room and she is simply looking at herself in the new clothes.

Sorry, I don't mean to get on my soapbox, its just that I find certain response to be, lets say, silly!

 

[bailadora]

As far as the other places, selectively flashing people as they walk by a restaurant won't get you thrown in jail either.

Depends on the jurisdiction. I seem to recall reading something fairly recently about a couple who got tossed into the clink for playing out their abduction fantasy in public....even after it was made clear to police that the woman was fully on board with said scenario.

Both situations can be played off as a naive mistake on the flashers behalf. "Oh, I didn't realize that I was doing that" Or "I didn't realize this top was so sheer until I got out here"

Seriously? Who in their right mind would honestly believe such a story? I'm far from being a clothes horse or fashion slave, but I do a mirror check before leaving my house to make sure everything is in order. And most women I know possess enough vanity to do the same.

As far as children go, not that I'm condoning flashing them, I'm not at all, but, they don't think anything of it. They only react the way they have been taught to react. Sorry, I don't mean to get on my soapbox, its just that I find certain response to be, lets say, silly!

Children notice and react to much more than people give them credit for. And since most of us are taught from a very young age that certain areas of the body are considered private and not for public viewing, that reaction is not at all unreasonable or silly. Laws, mores and standards are in place for a (usually) good reason.

I guess I'm just struggling to understand why some people would WANT to do something like this when there is the chance of involving someone who did not want to be a participant, however unwittingly it may or may not have occurred.

Unless that's the the whole point - the thrill of possibly shocking or offending someone who'd rather not be involved. In which case, the people doing the flashing are prioritizing their kink over respect for others.

 

[Holley]

Thanks Joan! Great help so far!

A couple problems we face are that she has A cup titties, which I LOVE, but won't allow for cleavage or fun breast play.

The other issues, which kind of goes along with letting her pull her shirt down, she gets cold really easily :/ I guess that's an overall exhibitionist dilemma, although I like the sweat pants Idea for me.

I realliy like the suggestions so far, but I'm also curious about what we could DO. And perhaps what we could get away with.

Stroking my cock in Ikea...straight up flashing in a supermarket? How about fingering and bjs...

I guess we'll have to be creative and assess the situations. Some stories or sharing experiences would be great

Just gotta say something
One thing for sure keep your cock in your pants or go to jail
"A" cups are perfect for flashing, she doesn't have to wear a bra, put some on like medical scrubs, that low V ther's no way to bend over with showing everything.
Have her dress sexy and classy, no slut skirts. makeup, hair fixed, every thing classy.
I feel it's not always that your showing, it's that someone is seeing apart of another mans wife that he shouldn't. Its a big turn on for myself and hubby and we keep score.