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Some people don't enjoy sex. It's rare for guys but it happens... and plenty of gay guys love sex, so that's not it.
My advice... ask him if it's okay for you to have sex with someone else while you're with him. If it isn't, then decide which is more important to you: having sex, or being with him.
My advice... ask him if it's okay for you to have sex with someone else while you're with him. If it isn't, then decide which is more important to you: having sex, or being with him.
VelvetDarkness
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He's a selfish asshole who's too lazy to get off his ass and fuck you. Dump him. Failing that, refuse to suck his cock until you get some pleasure for yourself. Who the hell does he think he is and why are you pandering to this bullshit?
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A friend of mine was in a similar situation as you are now. She and her bf had sex about once a year, if at all but he loved to cuddle, kiss etc. As it was the first man she was with she thought for a long time this might be normal, but when she found out how it is supposed to be, they talked about it. He had a problem to penetrate her because it felt for him like he'd violate her. It turned out that he was abused as a kid and that was why he couldn't enjoy or better said detested intercourse.
She is now married to another guy, has two kids and he married about a year ago and intends to adopt a child.
All I want to say is, there might be a deeper reason for him acting like that.
She is now married to another guy, has two kids and he married about a year ago and intends to adopt a child.
All I want to say is, there might be a deeper reason for him acting like that.
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It's possible there is an underlying reason behind his not liking intercourse. Also possible he's just lazy, though lazy guys generally won't mind if you ride them so most likely there is something in his past creating a blockage of sorts.
The problem lies in, if he isn't willing to discuss it you can't make him. So basically your only recourse is to decide if you can wait for him to seek help or dump him now tell him why and look for another guy.
The problem lies in, if he isn't willing to discuss it you can't make him. So basically your only recourse is to decide if you can wait for him to seek help or dump him now tell him why and look for another guy.
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Woha! Lazy? The OP at no point said that he wasn't "returning the favor", either
Not that I'm standing up for him, but there are some guys that just don't like intercourse. Some of them have been through some kind of sexual trauma (and, yes, there are men who are victims of rape). There are medical conditions which make having sex for men painful, as well. Maybe it's a matter of taste, and he should be with one of those women who dislike intercourse. Either way, making the leap to gay is kind of a stretch. And so is saying he's lazy
Of course, if it's lazy we're talking about, can I make some snide comments about diction?
Pleez?
Not that I'm standing up for him, but there are some guys that just don't like intercourse. Some of them have been through some kind of sexual trauma (and, yes, there are men who are victims of rape). There are medical conditions which make having sex for men painful, as well. Maybe it's a matter of taste, and he should be with one of those women who dislike intercourse. Either way, making the leap to gay is kind of a stretch. And so is saying he's lazy
Of course, if it's lazy we're talking about, can I make some snide comments about diction?
Pleez?
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Buh bye!
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Does he enjoy performing oral on you also or he just likes to receive only? the answer to this question is key because if he does not reciprocate he is a selfish asshole. Sorry!
Well, that certainly is ur right. I am here for the most part to have fun. But u know what? I have a real problem that i wanted some advice on. And i got it. If u cant take it seriously, oh well. U have a nice day.
I certainly will. In fact, I daresay that anybody's day would be improved not having to witness your verbal sludge any more.
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You mean he can't even lay back with a hard on and let you bounce up and down on it?
He is only a boyfriend.
I assure you there are lots males out there that would be happy have all kinds of sex with you until you beg for mercy.
Surly you can find one of them that you like and treats you well.
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$.02 worth...
I'm not an relationship expert by any means, but I AM a guy. This is definitely not normal behavior! If he doesn't want to talk about something that bothers you, then it's most likely time to move on to greener pastures.
Best of luck to you!
I'm not an relationship expert by any means, but I AM a guy. This is definitely not normal behavior! If he doesn't want to talk about something that bothers you, then it's most likely time to move on to greener pastures.
Best of luck to you!
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Lay off the quiet guys! It's hard enough being shy without people thinking you're a psycho.
*Goes back to sharpening his axe*
VelvetDarkness
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Indeedy.
I could call people on this shit... if I could be bothered to check back through their inane posts.
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Well, if we judge by your other posts, maybe it's because your "boyfriend" is actually your dad, and he's (thank God, a spark of hope!) starting to feel guilty about taking advantage of a daughter who has obvious developmental disabilities.
Alternately, maybe he's cheating on you with your mom. Maybe he gets all the sexings he needs from her. You'd better do something about that other woman. Bump her off, maybe. The mafia might be able to help you.
(God, I'm feeling crabby today. Must be that time of the month.)
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CWatson has a very good point. Shoot, kill two birds with one stone and offer to pay for the hit with sex.
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ya know, its possible that he's really horrible and bed and is trying to keep you from knowing... again, it could be self-esteem... either way, communication is key. have a non-threatening talk with many compliments, i.e. 'oh baby ive missed your lovin so much! i need you!'
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