Need advice from exp top!

[prosserelizabeth]

I am a woman lol. I really do need some advice though. My husband wants me to buy a strap-on and of course use it . I love anal play rimming ect....but I am absolutly terrified of hurting him or not doing it good enough. I really want to make it good for him because this is a fantasy come true for me. Someone please give me some real ideas on how to do this.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I am a woman lol. I really do need some advice though. My husband wants me to buy a strap-on and of course use it . I love anal play rimming ect....but I am absolutly terrified of hurting him or not doing it good enough. I really want to make it good for him because this is a fantasy come true for me. Someone please give me some real ideas on how to do this.

Well, hmm.

You can start by using the dildo in your hand a few times-- hold it loosely enough that it will guide itself. That will give you an idea of what he can take, how fast, which way his innards point and like that.

You'll find that a harness can have a little bit of wobble in it, enough to achieve the same kind of guidance. And he can shift around some to get maximum comfort and pleasure, just the way you do when he fucks you.

meanwhile, let me point out that a woman pegging her beloved husband is hetero sex. Buttfucking is something that lots of men like, certainly, but not all gay men like buttfucking.

 

[prosserelizabeth]

Not a complete idiot.

Well I thank you for replying I have to point out I am not a complete idiot I do know the I do know the basics. I want some ideas on preparation and such. To the best of my knowledge not a finger has gone in him.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Then-- get a finger in him!

Sooner the better.

And then another finger. Maybe three. Helps him learn to relax.

Oh-- lube? is good. Lots of lube is really good.

 

[TheLM]

Then-- get a finger in him!

Sooner the better.

And then another finger. Maybe three. Helps him learn to relax.

Oh-- lube? is good. Lots of lube is really good.

This.

The lucky b******!

 

[Safe_Bet]

meanwhile, let me point out that a woman pegging her beloved husband is hetero sex.

THIS!


What possessed you to post a question about a str8 chick sticking something in the ass of a str8 man in the GLBT forum as opposed to the BDSM Forum?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Or the how to forum or the fetish and sexuality forum.

Pegging isn't particularly BDSM. It's just one more way to have sex.

 

[1sickbastard]

Then-- get a finger in him!

Sooner the better.

And then another finger. Maybe three. Helps him learn to relax.

Oh-- lube? is good. Lots of lube is really good.

What Stella said-

Lots and lots of lube and lots of patience.

Recommend starting in the shower-warm water is relaxing. Combine with massage of the anal sphincter, and some rimming once his ass is clean enough for you to feel comfortable with it.

When you two are actually going to get into it, start with a thinner diameter dildo and work up.

The tissues of the colon can be very easily damaged. Tearring can result in bleeding and lead to infection.

Again, just be patient and go slow. Neither one of you should expect that he'll be able to take a 12inch long 4in diameter strapon the first time out, at least not without serious injury.
Remember that lube is his best friend!

Good luck!