Need a little oral help here

[SexxyLady]

Okay everyone, I have a little problem. I've been totally and completely sexually ignored for a long time. My husband, is a wonderful man, but sexually, he is boring. I unfortunately, I have very little experience...so I need your help.

Prior to sexual relations with my husband, I had sex once and not by choice. When we first met I was having terrible nightmares, and he would lay in bed holding me while I screamed out in terror. 8 years later, he's still afraid he'll hurt me and won't explore anything new.

I'm over the bad experience, I want excitement. I want him to go down on me untill I scream. He told me once he does not like the taste of women's pussy. Heres my question: Is there anything I can do to change his mind? I get oral sex once everysix months (very quickly), I give it almost nightly(for hours). I want my turn. Sounds selfish I know. But I want an orgasms for a change. I love giving him pleasure, but I want to go wild with excitement too.

He tells the guys all about my inventiveness, I spend hours researching things I think he would enjoy...I'm usually successful. It should be my turn. Sorry enough bitching. You get the idea. Any helpful suggestion would be appreciated.

SL

 

[It'sasecret]

Hi Sexxylady. I can totaly relate. Did you read my post "Help Me Please!!!!!!!"? My husband is very boring too. Although I must say I was never forced to have sex so I don't have problems there. And my husband will go down on me.(lucky me!!) Have you tried having him go down on you in the shower or right after you shower, so you "taste" better. YOU are NOT selfish for wanting pleasure at all. It seems your husband is at least willing to try new things since he tells the guys about his adventures. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Good Luck! YOU deserve pleasure too!!!!!!!!

 

[SexxyLady]

Hi It'sasecret, yes I read your post and I sympathize with you. I may have over exagerated his willingness to try new things. He is willing to have me use my mouth on him in anyway I choose, that's all. I tried a new thing this week with an orange and massage oil he loved it, he told all the guys at work about it. If you want details email me amthomassprint@earthlink.net and I will share maybe it will help you. He does not like to step out of the box with me. He gets his pleasure and leaves it at that. I would love to have him take a shower with, and he talks about it all the time but he won't follow threw. I got in the shower with him once, and he acted like I was invading his space.

Thanks for the idea though, maybe I'll try it again.
SL

 

[Guest]

If your clean, and well groomed, I would tend to doubt that "taste" is the issue. To be sure, follow It'sasecrets excellent advice.

Sounds to me like he might have a hangup with performing oral sex. He may have issues that you are not aware of. It sounds like he is very caring in many other ways, and it would suprise me to learn that your satisfaction is of no concern to him.

Try opening up a conversation on the subject again. Not while in bed, or each others arms, but in some neutral location. See if you can find out the real reasons behind his holding back. He might be dealing with old issues that he has not shared with you.

Communication is generally the solution. Best of luck!

 

[SexxyLady]

If your clean, and well groomed, I would tend to doubt that "taste" is the issue. To be sure, follow It'sasecrets excellent advice.

I personally take offense to this statement, I shower twice a day and always before I know were going to have sex

 

[Mr. Bootie]

I may have some advice

To Sexxy Lady,

I may have a few ideas for you. However, let me just say that I agree with the other replies. Your husband DOES sound like he cares for you very much. Let me also take this time to thank you for replying to my threads. From what I know about you, it sounds as though we could have a good time together. I love a girl with sensitive nipples. Anyway, maybe your husband just has a problem with the idea of giving oral sex. He may have religious or other issues with it. Have you discussed it with him. I too was once turned off about giving oral sex to a woman, but know it is one of my favorite things tp do. I mean you just can't beat the response. (HMMMM....Maybe that's your answer) Does he know how wonderful your response would be if he did pleasure you orally? If you'd like to know what turned me into an oral-addict, write me, and I'll tell you.

kgboot@hotmail.com

 

[Juliet]

Maybe a little too aggressive....

Ok girlfriend here's my advice.......in bed if you are not getting what you want...take charge of the situation and steer him in the right direction.

Since you already know he enjoys you going down on him, push him back on the bed and while sucking his cock slowly move around to where you are in a 69 with him, straddle his face and lower your pussy to his mouth. This not only will leave no doubt what it is you want him to do but it will also give you full control of the movement. hhmmmmm I can just imagine it now......

 

[SexxyLady]

Thanks for the suggestion

Thanks for the suggestion Juliet, this may seem old fasioned but since he's told me he doesn't like it I don't want to force it on him. He's always been patient with me so I feel.....I owe it to him.

I would like a way to encourage him to like it more...without just taking over. I take everything else over in the poor man's life. I guess, I want him to take over here.

Sound so wimpy when I put it like that, but that's how I feel.

 

[Juliet]

Not Wimpy at all.......

Not Wimpy at all Sexy Lady! Just remember that the road to a happy healthy sex life is a two way street. You have to both give and take to please each other. He can't always have it exactly his way unless this also makes you happy. If it always goes the way of one, then obviously the other one will almost always be left out in the cold. I feel certain you would not actually be "forcing" anything on him that he doesn't want. From what I've heard there is nothing more erotic to a man than to know he is pleasing his partner.

If you are not comfortable with my first suggestion have you tried bringing this subject up during pillow talk? I'm not sure how welcome he would find the subject of him "not" satisfying you sexually....could be a real blow to his ego but sometimes this may be what it takes to wake them up. He is not the only one to be satisfied here......Is he???

 

[SexxyLady]

Thanks Juliet,

I will try a little of both of your suggestions. You are right the satisfaction needs to be two-way street.

SL

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Did you get my message?

SL,

Did you get my answer? I sent you a private message. I'm just making sure that you have received it. Happy Eating!!

 

[Guest]

Here's the Short Version

To SL,

Sorry hon', I gave you the wrong e-mail address. It is
kgboot29@hotmail.com

I tried to send you a PM, but for some reason, it wouldn't post. If you'd like to here the full story e-mail me. Here's the short version

I was over to my lover's house one evening for dinner. I had told her that I didn't want to stay out too late because I had a busy day coming up. She said that was fine with her, we'll just talk for a little while and watch t.v. After we finished dinner we went into her living room and we turned on the t.v. We couldn't find anything good to watch, so all of a sudden.......my girl starts kissing me. It doesn't take much to get me going, and soon we are making out on the couch. After some heavy kissing, fondling , and petting. She suggests we go into her bedroom. I go , but she goes back into the kitchen. She comes into the bedroom with only her bra and panties on. She also has a container of Cool Whip in her hands. We first exchange Cool Whip kisses. Then she applies the Cool Whip to the body parts she would like me to visit. She starts on her neck, and leads downward. Her instructions to me are that I can only "play" where there is Cool Whip. She was in complete control. So after I had mucho...MUCHO Fun "playing" with her upper body. (If you want the details e-mail me and ask for them) She removed her panties and applied the Cool Whip in between her legs. You can probably guess what I did next?...................................................................YES!!!!! You guessed it,............... I dove straight in. I stayed there untill my tounge got tired. She tried several times to push me away, but I was on a mission. She didn't force me to do anything, she just stacked the deck in her favor. She did what she needed to, to get the results that she wanted.

So...What does your husband like to eat? Turn it around and use it to your advantage. By the way, Ice Cream can be fun also, but cake can be messy. Breast of.....I mean, Best of Luck to you. Let me know if this helps.

Bon Appetite,


kgboot

 

[Mr. Bootie]

The last post was mine

SL,

Just to let you know, that last post was mine.

 

[It'sasecret]

Hmmmmmmmmmm kgboot, do you want to helpme out too? What is your favorite food? Yummy!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi sexxylady, how are things going? Not much different for me, although I did get it twice yesterday so I guess I can't complain. Have you tried talking to him at all? I hope things are getting better.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

You Naughty Girl!!!!!

To IAS,

(HA! HA! HA!) You Naughty little minx. So what can I do for you? Ask....and you SHALL receive. I'm always willing to help out a nice lady. What is my favorite food? HMMM.... Are you asking what I like to eat?, or what is my favorite food to eat off your body?
I am a meat and potatoes kind of guy. However I LOVE a home cooked meal. I'm not too picky as long as it is prepared with love. (Otherwise I really like Chinese Food) My favorite foods to eat off of you would probably be fruit. You know....strawberries. cantalope, bananas, honey dew melon...etc. You can never go wrong with Cool Whip. If you take care of my tummy, I'll take care of you. (Yes.... I'LL especially take care of you) Care to join me for a late night meal?

kgboot

 

[upinsmoke]

drink alot of pineapple juice. this will help you female juices taste sweeter. and get him to try it again. this should change his mind. that is all we drink now....

 

[SexxyLady]

So many ideas....hmmmm

KGboot:

Thank you, Thank you. I will give your suggestion a try.

It'sasecret:

I have sort of...<<cringe>> well maybe <<looking down>>. I'll keep trying. But yes things, are getting better. I was writing a fantasy story this weekend, and he kept trying to read it over my shoulder. I think he read some good parts because sex was GREAT saturday. He actually, went down on me for 30 hole seconds...(maybe longer I was distracted). Anyway, the story is actually called 'A Letter to My Husband', and it's my favorite fantasy. He want's me to let him read it, yes my masters in counseling is telling me..."duh, you idiot print it off, turn the pages for him, make sure he gets the point." But the rest of me cringes at the idea.

If glimpses make the sex that good though, my horny nature will win out, and he's going to get to read it. Maybe after I've numbed my senses with a little(lot) of alcohol Wednesday...

Anyway, I'll quit babbling...btw, twice this weekend--you lucky women

Upinsmoke:

Thanks I'll try your idea with KG's, that way once the wipped cream is gone maybe he'll stay. <<Big Smile>>

SL

 

[upinsmoke]

you can always post the story up for all of us to read...

 

[SexxyLady]

UIP,

I just may do that...A little constructive criticism(sp?) never hurt anybody...Did it?

SL

 

[SexxyLady]

You wanted it, you got it.

Go easy on me guys, I'm not a writer... I was just relieving sexual frustration. I couldn't even bring myself to proof read it. I kept blushing as I tried to. Be Nice....

PS. Sorry it's so long.

A Letter for My Husband

I’m sitting in my chair waiting for you to come home. My mind is wondering to how the evening will go. Will you come home kiss me, have dinner and go to bed? Or will this be a special night. I so hope it will. I’m so hot; I want a long night of loving. If you only knew what I really want. How I fantasize our love making will actually be. How I want you to tie me to the bed and tease me until I beg. Or take me passionately in your arms instead of always so gentle. How just once, I would like for you to look me in the eyes while you make love to me, and tell me how hot I make you feel.

My dear lover you’re always so silent, I can never tell what’s in your soul. I can’t tell how you really feel. We are close so rarely; I would love just once a passionate loving. I wish you would come in the door, walk to me and just look in my eyes as you ran your hands through my hair and kissed me hard and full. I want you to stand me up from my chair, and whisper in my ear, “I’m going to make you cum until your begging for me to fill you. This night is just for you.” I want all of our worries from the outside world to disappear, as you walk me to the bedroom, and tell me to take my clothes off for you.

I want to see the pride and excitement on your face as I remove my clothes. As I slowly pull my shirt off at your request, I want to feel that tingle of uncertainty, only to be reassured by the look on your face when you see by body covered only by my shorts and lacey bra. As I start to remove my bra, I want to here your breath catch and have you say, “Wait, I want to enjoy you as you are. Take your shorts off first. Let me see that gorgeous body a piece at a time.” I would slowly unbutton my shorts and pull them down to my ankle and delicately step out of them. I want to hear your breath catch, as I stand there before you almost but not quite naked. I would feel so self-conscious, but the adoring look on your face would reassure me that you love what you see. The heaviness of your breathing would show me your excitement. As I finally began to remove the remainder of my clothing, you would tell me stop and begin to remove them yourself.

With my clothes lying in a pile on the floor, you would gently move me toward the bed and tell my to lye down. As I lay on the bed you would gently caress my face and tell me you loved me so much, and your going to show me how much tonight. I feel a blush come over my face and nuzzle your hand. I feel so loved and cared for, I loose myself in you touch. You would move your hand from my face, and gently caress my shoulders—making sure to gently caress my shoulder at the base of my neck, knowing it sends shivers through my body. You would replace your hand with your mouth, and begin to kiss and nibble my neck and shoulders. You would gently kiss my mouth as I moaned from the pleasure, return to my neck and shoulder to enjoy the smooth skin there. Ever so slowly after minutes of pleasure to my neck you would move down and kiss a path to between my breasts. Circling each mound with kisses and nibbles but never quite making to the tips that were begging to be kissed.

You would begin a path downward kissing sucking a hot path down my body. Passing the mound crying out for attention. Kissing down to my knees, and you begin to move back up my body, you tell me to spread my thighs for you. I gasp uncertainly; you’ve never asked me to do anything like this before. You gently, but firmly move my legs apart. You’re so close I can feel your breath; it makes me so hot I squirm under you. I’m embarrassed, but it feels so good. I want your mouth there so bad; I want to feel your tongue on my clit… My mind is racing, I barely hear you tell me to touch myself. I’m thinking I can’t, but my hand slowly moves down. I begin a dance with my fingers that I’ve done many times by myself, but the sensations are so different. Knowing your there watching my hand move. Everything is intensified. I’m so wet; I begin to feel an orgasm start. Deep within myself, I begin to quiver. You gently, lay your hand over mine, and tell me not to cum yet. You move my hand away, and kiss my inner thighs until I begin to calm down.

You begin to move back up my body, and I sigh knowing you won’t return. I won’t be getting that pleasure tonight. You lay on me, and I hug you close scratching you back because I know you love that. Assuming your going slide in I shift around so you can reach me easier. You whisper in my ear that you’re not done yet. Reaching in your table, you pull out something I can’t see, but I assume it’s a condom. Closing my eyes I relax and enjoy the feeling of you lying on top of me.

I feel you move your hand up my arms and secure my hands above my head. MMMM, that feels so good. And you kiss me deeply while my hands are held securely above my head. I moan loudly and grind against you. I can’t believe the pleasure I feel, or how hot that makes me. As you roll over to my side you release one hand and I reach for your head and pull you down and kiss you sliding my tongue in your mouth. I feel you move my other hand to the corner of the bed and tie something soft around my wrist and secure it to the bed. A shock of pleasure moves threw my body, and I feel you move to bind my other wrist to other corner of the bed.

You move back over me and I raise my hips to try to pull you in, but you tell me to be patient. You begin to kiss my neck and shoulders again. Slowly you move toward my breasts, once again you circle the globes with your tongue and teeth. Not quite touching my nipples. You slowly lick from one side of my breast, this time lightly grazing my nipples on each breast sending a shock through my whole body. I moan and rock my hips on the bed. You continue this for what seems like forever. I roll the wave, of an orgasm, and you stop and just hold me while it rocks my body.

Gently, you brush my hair away from my face and tell me, “Next time keep your eyes open, I want to look in your eyes when you cum.”

That sends another roll of pleasure through me. As I start to relax, you begin to gently brush your hand up and down my body. Not touching me in anyplace specific just running your hands over my body. It feels wonderful. You begin kissing my neck and shoulders again, and then you slide your hand in my hair at the base of my neck and tighten your hold and pull my head back into the pillow. As you begin to kiss and suck on my breasts. Moving to my swollen nipples. You nibble gently, on my nipples and waves of pleasure shoot threw me to my clit. My hips begin to rock again. I climb again to the peak of another Orgasm. Remembering what you said, I tried to keep my eyes open and look into yours, but it made the feeling so intense. I cried out louder and closed my eyes, as I did you whisper in my ear “ Look at me baby.” I opened my eyes and looked into yours and another wave an intense pleasure shot threw me. The waves of pleasure slowly fade. Knowingly, you hold me realizing the intense feelings that are rushing through me.

Finally, you would resume the gentle caresses that are so heavenly. Your hands run the length of my body. Soon you begin to trail wet kisses in the path of your hands. Mmmm, it feels so wonderful. Once again, you’ve kissed my body from shoulders to knees without touching the spot that cries out for your touch. I feel you begin to move back up my thighs with your open mouthed kisses. As you reach that one spot of heaven I feel you pause.

First you use your fingertips to gently caress the lips that conceal the heat of my body. Then I feel your breath so close….

Moaning, “Please…”

“’Please’ what honey, what do you want me to do,” you say next my body.

“mmm,” moaning I lift my hips towards you.

“Say it,” you say holding me down from your mouth.

“Please… touch me there.”

“Where do you want me to touch you, and what do want me to touch you with?” I can hear the smile in your voice. You’re enjoying yourself. You are touching my clit with my finger, just enough to keep me excited. But that not what I want.

Moaning, and trying to lift myself toward your mouth; “please put your… m-mouth….Ohhh… on my… clit.” Finally you lower you mouth to me. I would feel your mouth press to me, and your tongue circle my clit. Eventually, you would place one finger, and then two inside me. Sucking, and thrusting at my clit until I cum. I would beg you to and fuck me hard, but you would continue your work building up orgasm after orgasm. Until I couldn’t think coherently, and then you would lie on top of me and ask me what I wanted. My only response would be, please fuck me now.

I love you my darling husband.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Please Pass the Ice....I'm getting HOT!!

If he didn't get the message by that letter, than shame on him. What was your address? What time do you want me to come over? You must have been thinking about me, because that is the way that I like to make love. Screwing is Okay? But having long, slow passionate sex is where it's at. Damn!!! You got me all hard and I don't have anyone here with me. I guess I better call Rosy Palm and her Four Sisters. Damn You SL (Just Kidding). That was an AWESOME letter. So how was the love making that night? With letters like that, you may get more than you bargained for!!

 

[Maria]

WOW

WOW!!! What man wouldn't love to receive a letter like that one. I am very impressed and honestly think that your hubby would be too. I see no reason what so ever for you not to take advantage of the situation that now has presented itself. Print the letter. At this point you have choices.......One: Let him read the letter, and Two: READ the letter to him, I can almost guarantee that you will not get through the entire letter before he is all over you. Your voice coupled with the written word can be a very powerful thing. My vote is obviously for number 2. I have spent many a night "reading" to my lover. It is great foreplay for both of us, and also on occasion has given us a new idea here and there to try. Sure keeps things "not boring."

At this point, and after reading all of the above posts, what would you really have to lose by giving this a try.

Also........ the Coolwhip is a great idea - the ice cream too. My preference...........HOT FUDGE!!! Slide a couple of sliced "cling" peaches IN, drizzle with hot fudge...... and send him after them MMMMMMM!!!!!

 

[SexxyLady]

Thanks...

Well Maria and KG, I haven't actually given it to him, yet. I probably will tonight. We have to tomorrow off . We'll see if he gets as hot as KG did. Oh I hope so.

SL

 

[Maria]

DETAILS....DETAILS

Please SL - don't thank me - just remember all the details and be sure and pass them along....SOON!!!

 

[SexxyLady]

No problem Maria... I'll let ya know all the "gory" details

SL