Naughty Slave

[Goddess_S]

Hi all.

I am posting this on behalf of Goddess_S. I am slaveboy and she is my wife. We have been married for 12 happy years. The last three we have been having fun experimenting with a female led relationship. It has been incredible so far.

Since we started the FLR, Goddess S has been in control of my orgasms. I am not allowed to masturbate and she controls when and how I orgasm. She enjoys teasing and denying me orgasm. Usually I go three or four weeks with out an orgasm. The time in between I serve her, pleasure her, and she frequently teases me to the brink of orgasm and then stops.

I've been doing good with this until recently. Within the last two weeks I have had two orgasms without her permssion. Once while she was teasing me and most recently while we were having sex and she specifically ordered me not to orgasm. I don't know what came over me, but it was really bad that I did not hold back or pull out so that I did not have an orgasm.

This is where you all come in. We are not experienced with punishments and so I am asking that you suggest punishments to Goddess S for me. She does not know that I have posted this, but tommorrow I will leave her a note asking her to login and check this post. I want her to know that I am committed to this FLR and that I admit my wrong doing and should be punished appropriately. Please respond as if your are responding to her and not me, as I will not be checking this post again. Also, feel free to e-mail her directly with advice or suggestions (e-mail is in the profile).

By doing this I am hoping that she gets fair ideas on how to punish me and I am also hoping she reads other posts here and gets ideas on how to continue to dominate me. I have read posts here before and know that there is great feedback and that the people here will take this seriously. Thanks in advance for your help!

 

[Byakuya]

hehe, from what I've seen, people on here don't like recommending punishments for others..

maybe you could get a male chastity device or something..

 

[nh23]

Well I guess that all depends on what you like too doesn't it? Like some PYL's will use spanking, etc.. as a punishment. That wouldn't work with me because I take pleasure from those things. What is something that you really don't enjoy?

 

[Etoile]

Byakuya is right. Most people here aren't keen on providing punishments for others. The main reason is because we are not part of your relationship.

In other words, I don't know Goddess_S or slaveboy. I don't know what they consider appropriate and what is crossing the line. Maybe Goddess_S has never thought of a penectomy before, and I suggest it and she finds it a great idea. Or maybe they're horrified by my suggestion and they run screaming.

Additionally, I don't like being made an instrument of someone else's relationship. It's not my job to serve Goddess_S. She has asked slaveboy to find potential punishments, which means he is the one supposed to be doing it. It's like doing somebody else's homework. For all I know, when she finds out he asked here, she WILL chop off his winkie for insubordination. I'm not going to be a party to that by "helping" think of ideas.

Those are some reasons why I don't like being asked about punishments in general. Furthermore, in this specific case, I think the "crime" is pretty silly. The idea that somebody can control an autonomic reaction merely by thinking about it just doesn't jive with me. In fact, I see this as the teaser's fault. Goddess_S should have been more aware of slaveboy's level of arousal, and not pushed him into "misbehaving" (unless that was the intent of the game, but it doesn't sound that way to me). It's slaveboy's responsibility to communicate what he's feeling, and it's her responsibility to react appropriately.

In other words: once you start an orgasm, you can't stop it. Bringing somebody "to the brink" automatically carries the risk that they will be pushed over the edge. It's impossible to know if you've crossed that line until it's too late. There's no way to say "wait semen, go back in my prostate, I'm not ready for you yet!" What's done is done, and unless this is a mindfuck, I don't see how it could be slaveboy's fault. If she said "don't come until I tell you" but didn't specify "do what you need to so you avoid it" then how could he have pulled out?

Goddess_S, if you read this, I hope you'll consider what I've said seriously. I would consider it perfectly appropriate to punish him based on asking for help with his homework, if that's your preferred way to go. But I don't think punishing him for not stopping something unstoppable makes much sense.

Best wishes.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hi all.

I am posting this on behalf of Goddess_S. I am slaveboy and she is my wife. We have been married for 12 happy years. The last three we have been having fun experimenting with a female led relationship. It has been incredible so far.

Since we started the FLR, Goddess S has been in control of my orgasms. I am not allowed to masturbate and she controls when and how I orgasm. She enjoys teasing and denying me orgasm. Usually I go three or four weeks with out an orgasm. The time in between I serve her, pleasure her, and she frequently teases me to the brink of orgasm and then stops.

I've been doing good with this until recently. Within the last two weeks I have had two orgasms without her permssion. Once while she was teasing me and most recently while we were having sex and she specifically ordered me not to orgasm. I don't know what came over me, but it was really bad that I did not hold back or pull out so that I did not have an orgasm.

This is where you all come in. We are not experienced with punishments and so I am asking that you suggest punishments to Goddess S for me. She does not know that I have posted this, but tommorrow I will leave her a note asking her to login and check this post. I want her to know that I am committed to this FLR and that I admit my wrong doing and should be punished appropriately. Please respond as if your are responding to her and not me, as I will not be checking this post again. Also, feel free to e-mail her directly with advice or suggestions (e-mail is in the profile).

By doing this I am hoping that she gets fair ideas on how to punish me and I am also hoping she reads other posts here and gets ideas on how to continue to dominate me. I have read posts here before and know that there is great feedback and that the people here will take this seriously. Thanks in advance for your help!

*shrugs* it's not up to us what a punishment should be. and i'm thinking if she wanted to punish you, she would. i also know this is not something my Master would be happy about me posting without Him knowing...*shrugs* i guess i'll go lurk elsewhere *skips out of the thread and into another*

 

[CuteBrat]

((By doing this I am hoping that she gets fair ideas on how to punish me and I am also hoping she reads other posts here and gets ideas on how to continue to dominate me.))

um....exactly where did you get the concept punishment should be fair? I've had my tits caned hard because i hesitated A SECOND before obeying some command i didnt want to....or seemed less enthusiastic about it than Masters thought i should. was that fair? probably not. Did they have a right to do it? absolutely.

she should punish you as she wants...without worry whether it is fair or not. it sounds to me like you WANT to be punished...its a fantasy of yours...and you are trying to goad her into it. i suspect if i did something like that, i would be released pretty quickly. but, barring that, i would be placed in a corner and ignored.

punishment isnt what you WANT...thats play. punishment is what makes you change your behavior.

hmmm...apparently i woke up cranky today.

 

[Homburg]

She should take away your computer access.

Problem solved, at least on our end

 

[Netzach]

Please respond as if your are responding to her and not me

I'm sorry dear. I'd buy you a glass of wine and lend you my slave for a week in theory.

 

[shy slave]

I admit I had too look up the word 'penectomy'

I now feel sick,

Thanks Etoile

 

[Etoile]

I admit I had too look up the word 'penectomy'

I now feel sick,

Thanks Etoile

I mentioned chopping off his winkie later in the post, I thought that would give it away in a non-threatening manner, LOL!

 

[shy slave]

I mentioned chopping off his winkie later in the post, I thought that would give it away in a non-threatening manner, LOL!

Nope, the penny did not drop (unlike his winkie!)

Now off to bed to have nightmares.

I will read your posts with much more caution in future lol

 

[Etoile]

It just occurred to me that my long post was probably pointless. He claims he won't be coming back, and who knows if she'll show up to read it. Oh well, it was a good outline, I can probably use it again later.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Hi all.

I am posting this on behalf of Goddess_S. I am slaveboy and she is my wife. We have been married for 12 happy years. The last three we have been having fun experimenting with a female led relationship. It has been incredible so far.

Since we started the FLR, Goddess S has been in control of my orgasms. I am not allowed to masturbate and she controls when and how I orgasm. She enjoys teasing and denying me orgasm. Usually I go three or four weeks with out an orgasm. The time in between I serve her, pleasure her, and she frequently teases me to the brink of orgasm and then stops.

I've been doing good with this until recently. Within the last two weeks I have had two orgasms without her permssion. Once while she was teasing me and most recently while we were having sex and she specifically ordered me not to orgasm. I don't know what came over me, but it was really bad that I did not hold back or pull out so that I did not have an orgasm.

This is where you all come in. We are not experienced with punishments and so I am asking that you suggest punishments to Goddess S for me. She does not know that I have posted this, but tommorrow I will leave her a note asking her to login and check this post. I want her to know that I am committed to this FLR and that I admit my wrong doing and should be punished appropriately. Please respond as if your are responding to her and not me, as I will not be checking this post again. Also, feel free to e-mail her directly with advice or suggestions (e-mail is in the profile).

By doing this I am hoping that she gets fair ideas on how to punish me and I am also hoping she reads other posts here and gets ideas on how to continue to dominate me. I have read posts here before and know that there is great feedback and that the people here will take this seriously. Thanks in advance for your help!

Is it me or is the HNG alert going off again?

 

[Puman]

Is it me or is the HNG alert going off again?

..mmmmm....

 

[Etoile]

Is it me or is the HNG alert going off again?

I don't really get that vibe from this, it seems as legitimate as any other first-time advice post. I could be wrong.

 

[Softouch911]

Well, assuming this is for real ---

your dick may be the original source for the ol' sayin' "Use it or lose it."

It's not for no reason that urologists recommend optimum time between male orgasms is every other day.

Not necessary. And you sound youngish. But as you age, you wouldn't be the only guy left yankin' a soft banana.

Maybe if you DON'T come the punishment will be worse .... hail nada, full of nada, nada is with thee.

Just saying.
ST

 

[oneguy4fun]

Goddes S,

It's great the you are leading a femal led relationship. From my own experience, I know it's very rewarding for both the husband and wife. Your slave is definitely due for a punishment. Two orgasms without permission is unacceptable. He is undermining your control. YOu need to let him know who the boss is.

Aside from some of the traditional punishments you may want to focus on his orgasm since this is where the problem is. Some ideas:

>extend his normal denial period by a week or two. You can increase the teasing during this time to make it more torturuous. You could also make him give you more orgasms and rub it in that he is not allowed to have an orgasm.

> You could do the opposite extreme and require him to orgasm every day for a week, but he has to do it in a humiliating way. Some ideas include - while wearing panties and stockings or while he is sucking on a dildo. You could make him wear the dirty panties to bed each night and then hand wash them in the morning. You could require him to cum into a cup each night and then drink it up.

>In addition to the punishment I'd reccommend having some type a rule for future accidents so he has a strong incentive not to disobey you. If he cums without permission he must lick it all up. Reiterate this rule every session you have with him so it's fresh in his mind. When the "crime occurs" immediately push his head down to the mess and order him to lick it up (or if it happens while having sex sit on his face and make him clean you out). Then when he's done cleaning up he get's punished on top of that. Other ideas include telling him a specific humiliating task he will have to do if he cums without permisison.

I did not get a chance to read the other posts so I apologize if I repeated something. Just remember, everyone is different so pick the punishment that you think will work the best for you. Good luck! PLease let us know how it goes.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Funny how some people's ideas of 'punishement' are my ideas of a good time.

 

[snowy ciara]

Yes, funny that, Deserving... I got the same warning "HNG" tingles from both the OP and one guy. Punishment isn't supposed to be fun, or good, and oneguy's reads like a typical HNG fantasy. But in answer to the original questions...

Personally, my Mistress would not require me to comply with something so silly as a rule about whether or not I'm allowed to come or not. She understands that a person's orgasm is a weird combination between the psychological and physiological and that we rarely have fully conscious control over them. As Shank said elsewhere, sometimes mine doesn't work right, either. And She won't punish about something so asinine as that. Sorry, but that's the way She is.

Now then, as for airing our "dirty laundry" on a public forum without her permission, I would lose all contact with her, including email, telephone and face time for at least 3 days. Basically, Ms. T (not to be mistaken with MissTaken, former fine moderator of this here forum.) can be a bit old-fashioned that way. The original settlers of the US used shunning as an effective means of punishing non-conformists. Seriously, the Pilgrims totally shunned people if their misdeeds were bad enough. Some conservative religious groups (like the Amish and some Mennonite communities) still do this.

Asking a group of strangers for ideas on how to punish me without her permission would get me shunned for at least a week. We're talking total shunning: NO contact with her, her other three submissives, NO club functions. This includes munches, organizational meetings for our club, NO contact with any of her/our friends. If I am contacted by an of the above I would have to explain that I've done something wrong (with no details; it's really none of their business) and I am not allowed contact with anyone for the time period specified.

The OP didn't make it clear if this is supposed to be her account, that he accessed without her consent, or if he made it for her as some sort of "gift". But it doesn't matter. If I accessed any of her accounts without her permission, or if I made an account in her name without permission, so that she could get "ideas" as in how to handle me (topping from the bottom anyone?) I would be dismissed with no further discussion. I would not be restricted from contacting mutual friends and acquaintances, or her subs (though they may not be allowed to contact me) or from any club activities because the relationship would be over and She would not have the authority to restrict me in this.

But none of these punishments are exciting enough for the average HNG, so I expect they'll be ignored, too. Personally, I don't think we'll hear from Goddess_S or her "sub" again because the original post pinged my HNG buttons. But hey, if we do, I had full permission from Ms. T to post this.

ETA: I'd like to add that these punishments were explained to me in detail before we formalized our aggreement.

 

[marieR19]

Wonderful response, snowy ciara.

I have just one question: What does HNG stand for?


Heather

 

[snowy ciara]

Thanks Marie!

HNG stands for "Horny Net Geek" which are usually guys who don't date, and troll sex forums by posting their fantasies as "real" to get responses in order to get more fantasy material. Like a guy who posts "help! My mistress needs to punish me and has no idea how!". Then he gets ideas like Oneguy's that feed into his punishment fantasy and that becomes stroke material too. I don't know if the OP and Oneguy are HNG, but both of their posts seem that way to me.

You may also find HNGs in places like Lit Chat, impersonating females (no idea why) or annoying people with one line PM's and whining when they get turned down.

 

[Goddess_S]

Thank you for defining HNG as I was wondering what it meant as well....

Slave_boy is not an HNG, but my husband and slave. Without my permission he posted his request for punishment suggestions. He meant well, but ultimately it was not is place. I will deal with that as well.

If I make it very clear that a specific evenings’ activities are for my pleasure only – I don’t care if I’m sitting on his face or if he’s inside me – an orgasm should not occur (from him, of course). Yes, I understand that he needs time and throughout the evening I generously gave him breaks to allow him to calm down. The last time – he neglected to tell me he needed another break and subsequently came inside of me. I think that’s a punishable act. You are all right – it is up to me to determine the consequences.

I’m building my confidence everyday in this dynamic relationship. To some of you that may seem lame, but it’s where I am.

Thank you for you postings.

 

[NaughtySlave]

She needs to have you lick her asshole for about an hour

 

[Netzach]

An hour?

That is punishment, not for him though. Anything gets old after an hour.

 

[snowy ciara]

Thank you for defining HNG as I was wondering what it meant as well....

Slave_boy is not an HNG, but my husband and slave. Without my permission he posted his request for punishment suggestions. He meant well, but ultimately it was not is place. I will deal with that as well.

<<snipped for brevity>>

I’m building my confidence everyday in this dynamic relationship. To some of you that may seem lame, but it’s where I am.

Thank you for you postings.

No problem on the HNG thing. I'm glad the two of you worked it out. You may want to sit down and set up a guideline for punishment with him, like Ms. T does with her Tribe.