My wife said...Looking for opinions from f or m

[smithers22]

Hi, I've been reading this site for a while, but never actually posted before. So here goes, I'm a 31 year old married man, my wife is 33, she's blonde, pretty and has a great ass! Anyway, a few years ago I cheated on her with an older woman, when she found out she was of course upset, but forgave me, and we stayed together. During this time we talked a little more openly about our sexuality with each other, and I confided that I am kinda bi curious, and she admitted the same. We had a couple of incredibly hot sessions fucking each other while we talked about swinging, or having a man or woman join us.

Then that talk sort of stopped. We're both just busy with work and kids was all I made of it, and we still have sex 4 times a week or so, so I really can't complain. Then out of nowhere last week she told me that she's considering fucking someone else to feel what I felt and switch roles.

I was a little shocked and didn't really know how to respond, although I will say the thought got me rock hard. On the one hand I kinda think she's entitled to her revenge, the other side makes me think maybe she want's to get my attention back on our previous conversations about having another guy join us.

So I guess I'm looking for opinions. My wife says bi guys and her in a 3some is huge turn for her, Are other women turned on by that too?

 

[wishywashy]

I know that would be a turn for both of us here in ohio hoping u will hav a open relationship when this goes into process.

 

[smithers22]

Thanks wishywashy. I think it sounds fun, just not sure what to do with the current situation.

 

[southern_accent]

I would say this topic deserves a lot more discussion with your wife, particularly when you're not beneath the sheets. Reality is so much messier than fantasy; there are so many factors to consider.

How will you meet potential partners?
How will you screen them?
How and where would you meet?
What, if anything, is off limits with another person?
Protection- besides screening partners for STIs/STDs, will you and your potential partners wear condoms or go bare?
Are you looking for one-night partners or a consistent friend(s) with benefits?
If jealousy becomes a problem for either of you, how will you (as a couple) react?
What will you do if one of you gets emotionally invested with a partner?
What if one of you wants to end the arrangement but the other does not?
What will you do if one of you wants to leave the marriage altogether?

But hey, I hate being a debbie downer, so suggestions! Have you considered involving a third party in a less corporeal way? What about involving a third party in a three-way phone sex convo? What about having a third-party watch you on cam (in whatever capacity you two are comfortable with)? What about just sharing photos of yourselves for others to admire? There's more than one way to share your relationship with other people.

 

[smithers22]

Thanks for all the considerations to take into account. We actually have discussed quite a vit of what you've listed.

She's not really the online type, so I don't think that suggestion will work, but if I can convince her, that definitely sounds like an interesting starting point.

We've been to parties, or the bar a couple of times and I've let her make out with other guys, but she's never taken it past kissing, and a little petting. She has also let me kiss other girls a couple of times and jealousy was never an issue in those situations.