My wife and my co-worker

[hubbyalwayshrny]

Would love it if someone could write a story about a wife who regularly sleeps with her hubby's male co-worker. Like most story ideas, this one is based on a real life event, which I won't go into the details here, but let's just say that a rather sexually charged situation began during a business trip that turned into a vacation with my wife and I, and one of my co-workers. A really good sexual relationship developed over the next few months, but my co-worker had to move to another city. Unfortunately, these things happen, and we have been searching for a similar arrangement every since, but it's just not easy to find that right person. Anyway, for the story, I was thinking about a long term sexual relationship, with plenty of lust, possibly even some non-sexual emotional involvment. Definitely not a one night thing. Also, if possible, some kind of live-in arrangement might be nice, even if the hubby has to share his bedroom. These are all things that we had been talking about before my co-worker moved away.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Can I ask more about your point of view? What did you get out of your wife sleeping with another man? Was it a series of threesomes in your case?

 

[sunandshadow]

Yeah that was my immediate question too. The most challenging part about writing a threesome fic is making the relationship seem fair and satisfying to all 3 parties, so it's extremely important to understand what each gets out of it.

 

[pecan_pie_68]

wife and co worker

I've been married for 12 years and my wife Sarah who at 37 is quite a bit younger than me is regarded by everyone who knows her as a thoroughly sexy woman. Petite yet curvy where it matters with huge brown eyes she is envied by girls and lusted after by blokes alike.
Her occupation is as a manager in a retail firm which typically employs low paid graduate workers and Sarah has run a unit of about 25 staff for the past ten years with no problems. To spice up our sex life I've often jokingly asked to tell me who she fancied of her young workforce and imagined her fucking them which usually sends me over the edge to a shuddering climax. She has never and would never cheat on me and just played along with it to fuel my fantasies.
However, recently she has taken on a lad who is working at the firm to supplement his college grant as he studies to be a fitness trainer. I immediately detected a difference in Sarah's attitude towards Gavin than previously and when pressed, she admitted that she did really fancy him and wanted to fuck him but couldn't do it for fear of ruining our relationship. of course, this has only made me more determined to set something up and last week I met him for the first time at a works' party. He was polite and deferential and I am getting more hell bent on setting something up - perhaps even a session where Sarah doesn't know Gavin will be joining us as I think that will be the best way for her to overcome her fears. What do you think about 'tricking' my gorgeous wife and what ideas do you have about making it happen ??

 

[OnHarry]

I rarely come to this forum, but perhaps I could offer you some advice pecan. I am in a marriage where we swing and no problem there, but I have seen others over the years and of course myself and I would advise you to get it very clear in your haed what you want to get out of this.

Fantasy is one thing but until the actual event you have no idea how you will react, or feel. You might think you do but trust me you don't. It is odd to what sets people off. I would avise you go slow and talk it out very thorougly withyour spouse before she ever trys anything, and understand the limits whatever they might be.

Don't want to be a wet blanket but be careful what you wish for, think it through carefully.

One other thing, unless you know the guy in question is transient, it is rarely a good idea to do, this sort of thing with a coworker who you will see on a daily basis, it might go wrong and there she is facing him every day, or it might go very very right from her perspective, and again she is facing him every day.

 

[xssve]

Can I ask more about your point of view? What did you get out of your wife sleeping with another man? Was it a series of threesomes in your case?

The OP doesn't mention whether it was man of a woman. But to answer your question, there are any number of reasons a man might wnat to share his SO with another man: to please her, MMF's are common female fantasy, and generally speaking what gets her hot is... hot.

Voyeurism is another possibility, it's a step up from watching a movie - human sexuality is fascinating in itself, and it could reignite fading passions - ranging from your basic depraved lust to sort of controlled jealousy.

Competing for a womans attention tends to spur men to greater efforts - it can also increase testosterone levels. In fact, competition for women tends to literally increase the size of the testes, and can lead to an increased incidence of gonadal behaviors - like violent jealousy.

But emotionally, the level of trust required to bring another man into your bed is level of trust that is not all that common in many monogamous relationships and that can probobly be very sexy itself - the emotional responce to cheating often has less to do with following some other guy in as it does to do with the betrayal of trust - being end run is an insult on a very personal level, it's indicitive of a lack of basic respect for you as a person, whereas in a more open situation, it's an affirmation that you can act like an adult with a sense of proportion.

I suppose it's probobly the same for women, except in terms of a dyad bringing in another woman, it's generally assumed that there is some bi-interest involved between the women, which typically doesn't apply between men

Anyway, it sounds like a good story idea, though like a lot of ideas in here, it's sort of short on the details needed to really personalize it.

 

[subwannabe]

I agree with the "be careful what you wish for". You say you are much older than her. She might wind up realizing not only how much she likes fucking a younger guy, but that maybe as time goes by, you are getting too old for her. I also agree that if you trick her into this it is very possible that she will not react the way you expect. There are also several other bad variables including STD's and the fact this could go down bad and she could wind up losing her job over sexual harrassment issues. Many of these "affairs" go just fine - until someone gets pissed off or she has to fire him due to poor job performance - then the shit hits the fan. I know how hot this seems to you but it could wind up being a lot hotter than you ever imagined.

 

[hubbyalwayshrny]

Can I ask more about your point of view? What did you get out of your wife sleeping with another man? Was it a series of threesomes in your case?

Well, I'm not exactly sure what you are asking, except for that last question, which the answer is yes, we had many threesomes together for nearly 10 months before he had to move away. Toward the end, there were weeks when he would sleep over nearly every night. Hence my request/thoughts about a live-in arrangement.

Looking back at my initial posting, and the responses that followed, I'm beginning to realized that I should have given a few more details, but at the time I didn't think it was necessary since I was really looking for fiction and didn't want to muddy the waters too much. However, a few facts shouldn't hurt that much, so I've decided to try to describe that first experience on the beach that, without a doubt, completely changed our lives. Please realize that I am not a writer and don't pretend to be. This is why I'm requesting stories, hopefully from real authors. Anyway, for whatever it's worth, here is my recollection of that first threesome. It is as true as I can make it, of course I cannot say for certain what everyone was thinking and feeling, so some of this is simply my guess/intuition.

Before this extramarital relationship began, my wife (Jen) and I had obsessively talked about her "sleeping" with other men. Of course, like most men, I was the initiator of these discussions, and for a number of years it was purely a fantasy. However, as time went by and age crept up on us, we began to talk about it REALLY happening. The business trip/vacation was something that we had talked about for weeks, so it was definitely a planned event. In reality, some would say that my co-worker (Brian) was seduced, although at times I often wonder who seduced whom. Before that trip, we had started meeting him occasionally after work and on weekends, socially of course. He was also discussed quite frequently, as Jen found him quite attractive. The business trip was simply good timing, so we had both agreed that it was a good opportunity to test the waters, so to speak. And of course, it went swimmingly. Jen met me on the last day of the business portion, but we stayed for another 4 days to relax and enjoy the weather and the beach. It had already been pre-arranged that Brian would stay as well, and share the expenses with us, so we all shared the same hotel room. The hotel was right on the beach, so we all hung out on or near the beach during day, and at night we would find a nice place for dinner then head back to the beach for a late night walk. As you might imagine, the relaxed vacation atmosphere, the beautiful weather, and the skimpy beachwear all combined to create plenty of sexually charged situations. In addition, we occasionally steered some of those situations with some sexual banter. The beach was quite busy, so there was plenty of dreamy eye candy to watch, including Jen of course. At times these discussions got rather flirty as well. This type of thing went on for two days, then on the second night (around 11 o'clock or so), as we walked along the beach, we (I) made the move. It began as a somewhat innocent and playful event that didn't stop where most would expect it to. I initiated it all when I simply started pulling the strings on Jen's bikini top. There was plenty of silly laughing as Jen pretended to be surprised and shy. It was basically a test to see how Brian would react, and he passed the test beautifully. Within minutes of what I had initiated, he had also joined in. Each time Jen got the strings tied up again, one of us would pull them loose again. Of course, after a good 10 to 15 minutes of this, and several nice, yet brief, booby flashes, I decided to go all the way and I caught her totally off guard, and completely whipped off her top. She pretended to be embarrassed of course, desperately trying to convince me to give-it-back. Her hands where covering the goodies of course, but the whole situation was very sexual. But that was just the beginning, as I continued to tease her, pretending that I had lost her top at one point, or threatening to give it to Brian to hide down the front of his shorts, or telling her that we were going to tickle her so that she wouldn't be able to hide her naughty bits. After a bit of this type of silly play, I realized that she was wearing her string bikini bottoms. I must have been easy to read with my evil grin, because she immediately screamed "NOOOOOO!" This was not something that she had expected, so she truly did look panicked. But she knows me well, and immediately started to plead with me not to pull THOSE strings. Of course I decided to savor the moment by simply grabbing a string on one side and telling her that I was not going to pull it, but reminded her that if she tried to run away, the string would magically come untied. She immediately pleaded with me, claiming that it was not fair. Brian was grinning from ear to ear, so it didn't take much to persuade him to hold the string on the other side her bottoms. At that point, she really was pleading with us, and to the untrained eye, it may have looked like we were being a bit mean. But she knew what we were getting into, and we were all adults. There she was, her hands covering her boobs, and a guy on each side holding one of her bikini bottom strings, taunting her that if she pulls away then it's her own fault (Brian played along perfectly). I remember thinking two things: one, Brian is probably not going to actually go through with this, and two, I am. So, without any further warning, I did it. I quickly reached around and grabbed the string that Brian was holding, and then pulled hard, and well, the rest was history at that point. I guess it was a little unreal for her at first, because she didn't have time to think about it REALLY happening, and as I discovered later, she didn't think that I was really going to go all the way like that. So, after a very brief moment of disbelieve, she began to squeal, running toward me, hugging me in an attempt to hide herself. Fully exposed and giggling, with her back towards Brian, I innocently inquired if there was something wrong. I remember her squealing and saying "I can't believe you did that!" Of course I immediately pretended to not know what she was talking about, and asked Brian if he knew what she was talking about. Of course he played dumb as well, saying something about how bright the moon was. At this point, Brian and I had a little chat about her as if she couldn't hear us. I remember agreeing with him about the moon, and asking if the moon had any tan lines. As he was several feet away from us, I remember suggesting that he might want to take a closer look to check for tan lines. This suggestion got another big squeal out of Jen of course. At that point I also remember whispering to her that she looked beautiful and that everything was perfect. Steve had moved a bit closer, but I could tell that he was a little unsure of the situation and how far it had gone, so I suggested that we all continue the walk along the beach, reminding Jen that it was dark and we were all alone. It took a bit of coaxing but we slowly started to make our way along the beach. Of course, after nearly every step or two, she reminded us that she was naked, as if we didn't know. I just kept reminding her that she was perfect, but she still held her boobs in her hands and walked on the side of me away from Brian. I could tell that Brian was also still a little uneasy, so I told him that we were just having fun and that Jen was not as shy or embarrassed as she seemed. It didn't take long for most of the awkwardness to subside, but I continued to do most of the talking, asking Brian if the moon was still out, and if he saw any puppies running around. Jen also began to relax, and I got a few good punches in the arm as she reminded me that I was a bad boy. But as we walked along, she began to relax and her hands eventually fell to her side, and we held hands again. It really was pretty dark, so much so that I could barely see the darkness of her nipples. I told her this and Brian admitted to her that he could not see anything that clearly. We continued to chat about her nudity for awhile, both Brian and I complimenting her on her good nature, and Jen assuring us (mostly Brian) that she actually enjoyed the silliness. She also complimented both of us, telling us that she thought she was very lucky girl to be able to walk nude like this on the beach with two very attractive guys. Although she was very relaxed, it still surprised me a little when Brain joked that she could hold his hand too if she wanted, and without saying a word, she just moved between the two of us and held both our hands. Even Brian chuckled a little and said how he was pleasantly surprised by her openness. I could tell Jen was smiling when she suggested that Brian and I could shed our clothes too if they wanted. I guess that suggestion was a bit of a surprise to both of us because we both chucked at the same time. Of course, Jen claimed how it was only fair. Brian laughed again, and Jen released his hand and put her arm around him as we continued to walk, trying to persuade him to at least loose the t-shirt. A short time later, she stopped and began to help me remove my t-shirt. Once off, she turned to Brian and did the same. She immediately told us how nice our chests looked and immediately gave Brian a hug, which got another chuckle out of him. After the hug, she let her hand run down his chest, and I could see that Brian was a little unsure about what to do, so I figured that I better lighten things up with a comment about how Jen looks like she’s horny. It may have seemed like a crude statement at first, but I was going for a bit of shock value to ease the tension, and it did work because they both laughed. Jen really was horny of course, and she openly admitted it, and told Brian that she had NEVER done anything like this before. At this point her hand was still caressing his chest, moving down to his abs. He also admitted that he couldn't remember anything like this either, stating that he was very surprised how far the nudity had gone. He then went on to say that Jen was being a naughty girl now, and I noticed that her hand was at the top of his shorts and her fingers were slipping inside the waist band. I could see that he was in unknown territory again, so I decided to just go for it and put it all out there. I told him that although we had NEVER done anything like this before, we had talked about it. I then went on to explain how we both enjoy being playful like this, and admitted that we have also talked about including him in this type of thing. I could still see that he was not sure what I meant, so I explained that I guess I'm just one of those guys who enjoys the thought of his wife entertaining men. As I said this, I could see him nodding. He told me that he had read and heard about these kind of situations. Then I guess it was his turn to be up front, and he asked me if this is what was happening now. I could see that his mind was racing, wondering if he was reading us correctly, so I simply admitted that yes, if this was something that he was also comfortable with, then we were very interested to see where this would lead. He nodded again, and smiled this time and looked at Jen and told her that his attraction to her must have been a little too obvious. Jen told him that she did sense the attraction, and then went on to explain how we had talked about getting together like this for quite some time now. With that, she pressed up against him, and I could see that he was much more relaxed now. I slowly moved up behind her and pressed my chest against her back. Although it was extremely dark, I could see her hand slipping inside his shorts. We all seem to stop talking at this point, and you could hear and sense the sexual tension. She was pressing back into me quite hard, wiggling hard bare butt against the front of my shorts. I could also see her other hand reach around Brian and slip down the back of his shorts. I could only guess that she was squeezing his ass. Brian's hands were caressing her face, and mine were caressing her back. After a few minutes, Jen asked Brian if she could remove his shorts. It was obvious by his nod that her hands had already been working hard. She slowly backed her hands out of his shorts and grabbed the waistband and then slowly pulled them all the way down. I didn't notice at first because her head was blocking my view, but once I saw him, I was rather surprised. He was extremely erect, and extremely BIG. I had no idea of course. He looked like an average guy with his pants on, but I guess these thinks are like that. It was not like this was something that we really talked about, other than to say that size wasn't really that important, unless it was extremely small of course. But Brian really did surprise us, and Jen kind of laughed when she looked back at me. She wasn't the first to mention it though, I was. When I saw him, it just came out without any kind of proper thought. I just said something like "God Brian, you have a really big one!" Of course I immediately realized how crude I was and started to apologize. Brian just laughed though and thanked me for the compliment. But nothing else was said for a while, as Jen began to touch him, squeeze him, massage him, and stroke him. His eyes were closed but you could see the pleasure in his face. When Jen had removed his shorts, she had gotten down on her knees and she was still down there, it was only a matter of time before she began to lick him. When she started to lick, I could see how big he really was. And I'm not just referring to his length, he was extremely thick too. I couldn't help but think that she would never get him in her mouth. But the licking was obviously working just fine, and I would see that both of them were in a very heightened state of arousal. Feeling a little unsure about what I should do myself, I decided to just keep caressing Jen's back, neck, and hair, and occasionally reached around to caress her chest. Of course I totally lost track of time, but it was probably a good 10 to 15 minutes when Jen slowly stood up and began kissing him directly on the lips. Rather than follow her up, I decided to just sit and look up at them, close enough to see that his hands were now roaming all over her. I could also see that she was melting into him. As her back was towards me, I couldn't really see how HE was positioned against her, but the sounds they were making told me that he must be pressing hard against her tummy. After a little while, I also noticed that she was standing on her toes, stretching up to match his height, as he was about 5 inches taller than Jen. It was also becoming obvious that she was stretching for another reason, and it didn't take long before it was confirmed. Her breathing had become very audible now, and I noticed her left leg was rising up the outside of Brian's right leg. I also noticed how Brian was bending his knees a little to lower himself to better match Jen's height. Then, when Jen's leg was all the way up to Brian's waist, I noticed it. Brian was beginning to become visible between Jen's legs. I could see his erection moving closer and closer to its destination. His hips were also beginning to move back and forth, slowly thrusting as he continued to search for it. Jen was stretching all the way up now, and was also moving her hips. Then it happened. Brian had found what he was looking for. Jen let out a little gasp, and they both immediately stopped moving their hips. I must have been in the perfect position to see it too. He had slipped inside her only about an inch, but I could tell by his thickness that he was really stretching her a lot. I'm not exactly sure why i did this, perhaps it was simply my own state of arousal, but at that point I moaned and reached up and caressed Jen's ass. Perhaps I also did this to signal to both of them that I wanted them to continue. Either way, that's the effect it had, as shortly after I started caressing Jen's ass, Brian's hip began moving again, very slowly. And with each thrust I could see him slowly slip inside, inch by inch. Jen was obviously feeling no pain either. I could see her body moving to match Brian's advances, and I could hear her breathing become louder and louder, and occasionally hips would jerk forward and I would hear her moan. At this point, I also notice that Brian had been holding her leg up quite high and as such, he was pulling her closer. And it didn't take long before he was buried all the way inside. Once in like this, I could see him slowly back out, and then in a single motion, slowly sliding all the way back inside. These long slow strokes were obviously taking their toll on Jen, as she was now becoming verbal, saying things like "oh my god" and "oh yes", sometimes repeating them over and over as if she was in some kind of trance. What I didn't realize at the time was how long this was going to continue. Although I could see the pleasure on Brian's face, he was very quiet, and there was no sign that he was going to finish any time soon. In fact, I was very surprised to see this, especially as time went by, and he began to move fast and faster. Even after what seemed like a good 15 or 20 minutes (not that I could accurately tell of course) the only thing I heard was my wife breathing, moaning, and attempting to verbalize her pleasure. I was also rather amazed at how long and fast he could continue this without getting tired. He was after all standing up the whole time, and holding Jen's leg, so was really begging to wonder how much more he could take. I guess, being in my own aroused state, it was not something that I was going to bring up though, so I simply kept quiet and watched what was obviously taking it's toll on Jen's ability to keep control of her own body. And as I suspected it didn't take much longer before something gave. Although I shouldn't have been surprised after what I had been witnessing, Jen was the first to go. And oh boy, did she ever go. It all started with her rapidly repeating "ohmygod ohmygod ohmygod" over and over and over. Then she suddenly became deathly quiet and her body stopped moving and became completely stiff, just for a few seconds though. After those few short seconds, she began to cry, softly at first, then it became louder and louder as her cry turned into more of a scream or bawl, and her body began to shake, short rapid spasms at first, followed by what appeared to be more exaggerated and uncontrolled flailing. I must have had a very surprised and shocked look on my face, because I guess I had not really believed that I would ever witness such an intense experience. Although I had thought about it many times, it was something that almost surreal. Of course this is what I RELLY wanted, yet I could help but wonder why. After all, Jen and I had never done anything THAT intense, in fact based on what I had just witnessed, the few times when I had patted my ego, thinking that Jen had crossed the threshold before me, well, suddenly I was left feeling much more humble about my abilities. Of course, Jen and I had discussed many such scenarios before, during, and after being in the throws of passion, and this is exactly what I wanted for her. So, why was I questioning my performance? After all, this was initially my idea. This was something that I longed for. Could I been feeling a pang of jealousy? Then I suddenly realized that this kind of thinking totally went against what I wanted. It was as if I pinched myself. I could feel a big grin growing across my face, and I suddenly snapped back into what I can only describe as my better than fantasy world. Except this wasn't fantasy at all now, it was real, very real. And then I also realized that it wasn't over yet. Jen had started to come down from her HIGH, and Brian was all but stopped, so I stood up and moved up behind her, barely touching her, yet she could feel me pressing against her ass. Completely out of breath, and sweating from the long intense sexual workout, I could tell that she was relieved to find me so aroused. Her hand, which had been clinging to Brian for all her life just moments ago, was now reaching behind her, n my shorts, stroking me hard and fast. My own breathing was now becoming quite audible, and I was starting to feel some control issues coming on. In fact, I was starting to wonder if I should just let Jen finish me now, or should I say something before it's too late. Now, I'm not sure if Brian also sensed my thoughts or not, but what he did next was definitely good timing. Just as I was about to reach that point of no return, Brian reached out and stopped Jen's hypnotizing hand shake. As he held her arm and pulled it back to his chest, he began to resume what he had suspended just after Jen had lost it. This time however, there was no slow, gradual, gentle build up. In fact he really did resume, exactly were he left off, quite fast and with long strokes too. And the effect on Jen was immediate. Jen and I had been looking into each other's eyes, grinning like teenagers, but now, Jens eyes were closed, and her smile was long gone. In it's place was something extremely intense, something overpowering, and I realized that this was not something that she had any control over. Brian had the control, and he must have known it. I wondered if he knew this, if he was more experienced with this type of thing than I had thought. I couldn't help but wonder if this was something that he had also thought about, and dreamed about. Perhaps this wasn't the first time that he was deep inside Jen. Perhaps, in his mind, he had been here many times before. Perhaps Jen and I weren't the only ones living out a fantasy. I couldn't help by wonder whether or not Brian had somehow seduced us somehow, without our realizing it. After all, here I was, standing behind my naked wife, holding, caressing, and encouraging her to fuck my co-worker. Both of them with there eyes closed, and extreme pleasure plastered all over their faces. How could I be so naive? Brian probably does this all the time. Who know how many wives and husbands he has seduced. But then Jen started again. As before, she was becoming verbal. Those words "oh my god". I didn't care if he had seduced us. I just wanted to see, hear, and feel it again. And I got what I wanted. It was much faster this time. Without any warning or delay, it just happened. She immediately began to scream, louder this time. And her body was shaking more, trembling. Also, this time, Brian didn't stop either. He kept thrusting, not slowing down at all. Also, because I was behind Jen, I was able to help hold her up, so her hands were freer. Her hands were grabbing at him, almost hitting him, her fingers gripping his shoulders, her whole body bucking violently. I kept feeling her relying on me more and more to hold her. Brian was still holding her leg up high and wide, and still quiet, and no signs of him slowing down. In fact, there were a few moments there when I was certain that he was going faster and harder. And Jen's reaction to such a long hard experience was new to both of us. She was totally under his spell now, and in a way, I was as well. Each time Jen seemed like she was beginning to come down from the uncontrolled pleasure, Brian's persistence took her away again. It reminded me of the beach that day, watching the ocean waves come ashore, over and over again. With no sense of time or the number of waves that had crashed before me, I began to feel my own sexual tension begin to take over. The pressure and movement of Jen's ass against me was just too much, and I think that Brian could see it too, or perhaps it was simply the overload of stimulation that we were all feeling. All I remember is Brian opening his eyes extremely wide, and Jen loosing it one more time. That was it for me, and as it turned out, that was it for Brian too. I still don't remember if Brian remained quiet that night. All I remember hearing was Jen's familiar screams, as I began to loose it in my shorts. So many firsts that night, as I had never finished that way before. As you can probably imagine, things quickly finished up after that, as we all collapsed on to the beach together, looking up at the stars, not saying a word for the longest time. Occasionally laughing though, as we all played back the experience in our minds.

So, there it is. Again, please remember that I am not a writer, so it's pretty rough around the edges, but I do think that it is a very accurate account of our first threesome.

Now, any writers out there able to take this experience and extrapolate something more, such as a live-in threesome relationship?

Thanks for reading, and sorry about the length and the lack of paragraphs (one of my weaknesses when I try to describe something).

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I have a graduate degree in psychology plus years of experience working with couples, and I think some guys get-off from watching their wives with other men. They genuinely like it. Others have different reasons for wanting it.

I like married women. That is, I like to cuckold their husbands. It's a dominance thing with me. Maybe a death wish. But years ago I discovered many of these men like it when I fuck their wives. And my theory is: These guys are all what I call "Devoted Types" eager to please their wives, and the sexual variety keeps the wife in the marriage. She can get more cock married than single. So, in a bizarre way, I'm doing the guy a service.

I've also known one or two guys who are pragmatic. I was friends with a couple and the husband had to go overseas for 18 months. Before he left he approached me and made it clear that he wanted me to take his wife out while he was gone.

 

[Dyno Dave]

Great story hubbyalwayshrny. I've had quite a few fantasies about my girlfriend and I and another that are similar to your story. I don't think I'd ever want it to actually happen, but it's a great fantasy and keeps the motor running.

 

[hubbyalwayshrny]

Although my wife has only been with one other man, it's definitely something that we both enjoy. Looking back at when I introduced her to the concept, it was obviously always something that we both craved, in fact once we got over the initial awkwardness, it was difficult to imagine what it was like before. We've both tried to understand the reasons, but it's really difficult to explain how and why it works for us. I've read quite a bit about it, and the enjoyment and reasons really do seem to vary from man to man and couple to couple. As for actually realizing the fantasy, I can sure understand how it can be a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. My wife and I are extremely close, absolutely crazy about each other, so we were able to avoid those nasty issues that I've read about. It does take a lot of work though. Seeing your wife with another man does take some getting used to. And knowing how much she was thinking about him really tested my discipline. But she knows me really well, and she has always been sensitive to my desires and limits.

As for being pragmatic, that's where I think a live-in "boyfriend" would be good for both of us. And because we did get a taste for this during the few weeks when Brian was spending nearly every night at our house, it's been something that we've talked about in great detail.

I have a graduate degree in psychology plus years of experience working with couples, and I think some guys get-off from watching their wives with other men. They genuinely like it. Others have different reasons for wanting it.

I like married women. That is, I like to cuckold their husbands. It's a dominance thing with me. Maybe a death wish. But years ago I discovered many of these men like it when I fuck their wives. And my theory is: These guys are all what I call "Devoted Types" eager to please their wives, and the sexual variety keeps the wife in the marriage. She can get more cock married than single. So, in a bizarre way, I'm doing the guy a service.

I've also known one or two guys who are pragmatic. I was friends with a couple and the husband had to go overseas for 18 months. Before he left he approached me and made it clear that he wanted me to take his wife out while he was gone.

 

[hubbyalwayshrny]

Great story hubbyalwayshrny. I've had quite a few fantasies about my girlfriend and I and another that are similar to your story. I don't think I'd ever want it to actually happen, but it's a great fantasy and keeps the motor running.

Absolutely agree that it's not for everyone, BUT if you can endure some of this initial silly feelings, it can really work. Of course it also requires a very healthy relationship, although I'm sure that some would say that there is nothing healthy about this kind of arrangment, but to each his own.

Should you ever have the desire and opertunity to head down this road though, I'm sure there is someway that you could explore it without "going all the way". Perhaps after you are happily married of course.