My son is bi because ..

[lindahotstuff]

I think I turned my son bi.
I was going through a bad patch after my divorce when he was in his late teens. I don't know what made me do it, but I went into his bedroom, he was fast asleep, naked. I uncovered him and just looked at his cock. I touched it gently and it came to life. I started to gently stroke it and it got harder. My hand wrapped around him and pumped him slowly but firmly. He thought he was having a wet dream. he awoke, his first look of surprise gave way to a 'dont stop' and I pulled him to my breasts where he buried his face whilst I continued to masturbate him until he came.
After that we often tsalked about sex and wasted porno movies together. He would often ask me to masturbate him whilse we watched and he would suck on my breasts as I did so. he never fingered me and we never actually had sex but although he is now married, I know he is in a bisexual relationship and I think that I must have caused that.

 

[Filly Gal]

What ever happened between you and your son hardly made him bi!!
We are all drawn to things, people and places and in the end are entirely responsible for our own choices..
He is bi because it works for him and NOT because you 2 blurred the boundaries betwen mum and son!!

 

[lindahotstuff]

I hope you're right but I can't admit to anyone else what happened. My son doesn't hold it against me, we both enjoyed the release at a time when we were both lonely. But I suppose it was incest of a kind, although I just wish someone would tell me it wasn't as evil as I believe.

 

[Filly Gal]

I hope you're right but I can't admit to anyone else what happened. My son doesn't hold it against me, we both enjoyed the release at a time when we were both lonely. But I suppose it was incest of a kind, although I just wish someone would tell me it wasn't as evil as I believe.

Until you can let t go and step bak from all the "labels" about what happened it will eat at you!!
Your son has moved on and perhaps so should you, it happened in a time long ago and I bet you would not repeat what happened knowing what you do and feel now!!

 

[lindahotstuff]

I'd like to let go as you say but I still think about it. I masturbate thinking about him on top of me, but of course I'd never suggest it to him. But I do like younger guys, which is probably linked.

 

[Filly Gal]

I'd like to let go as you say but I still think about it. I masturbate thinking about him on top of me, but of course I'd never suggest it to him. But I do like younger guys, which is probably linked.

Fantasy is always so distracting!!

 

[lindahotstuff]

and naughty and enticing and exciting and erotic and arousing

 

[sunandshadow]

Personally I think being bi is better than being straight (or gay). If you think about it, there are more 6 billion people in the world, isn't kind of sad to say that half of them you would never ever be attracted to just because they're the wrong gender? Or if one is an artist, art is built on appreciating the beauty of the human form, you're almost handicapped as an artist if you can only understand one variety of that form.

 

[AussieAngel]

Personally I think being bi is better than being straight (or gay). If you think about it, there are more 6 billion people in the world, isn't kind of sad to say that half of them you would never ever be attracted to just because they're the wrong gender? Or if on is an artist, art is built on appreciating the beauty of the human form, you're almost handicapped as an artist if you can only understand one variety of that form.

well said

 

[Missouribiguy]

Um,

Doesn't anybody else feel a little weirded out by this?

 

[txnrude]

Um,

Doesn't anybody else feel a little weirded out by this?

probably just some fake troll

 

[Etoile]

I agree that this is probably a troll. But whether it is or not, it's highly unlikely that a couple of incidents of mother/son incest would turn someone bisexual.

 

[wild175133]

First off, most of sexual behavior is learned behavior, we develop our sexual taste as we go through life. As for your sons sexual interest why don't you just invite him over some afternoon and talk about it. Just say you want a frank and detailed discussion with him and leave it at that.

You said he is married and having a bisexual affair, does his wife know about it and do they have kids? If she does know what does she think of it? Your son needs to know he is playing with the worst kind of fire here. If his wife does not know then your son has a pretty good idea of what she thinks of this behavior. He also knows consequences of her finding out could be devasting for the entire family in that she would end up filing for divorce and taking the kids away from him and poisoning the relationship between him and his kids and you and your grand kids. If she does know and he is doing it anyway then no harm no foul up to this point.

Many boys start experimenting with same sex activity in early purberty or just before puberty starts it could be your son was sexually activie long before your divorce with your ex husband. It could also be your activities with your son taught him how to be loving and nurturing towards women so if you turned him bi it could be you turned him from being gay to bi. If that is the case what is wrong with that?

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Um,

Doesn't anybody else feel a little weirded out by this?

You're not the only one. Of course, incest is a 'squick' point for me too.

 

[Lydia24]

bi isnt caused....

If you'd said you were his father..or brother...maybe that might have addedto his desires to be bi.....what makes you thinki he is bi anyway? If i had to guess...Id say he was happy in what you did for him....you were happy in it....it was intimacy of the highest degree between two people that love each other...who happen to be related....maybe...you need to talk with him....see how he feels about it..maybe he (and you) want more..but think the other doesnt....Good Luck

 

[lindahotstuff]

Well for those of you who siad I am a troll, well I'm not. This happened. Most of the replies were very supportive and non-judgmental. My daughter in law does not know my son is bi, and you are right this is dangerous territory. I have told him this but he doesn't want to tell her and destroy his marriage as he loves her very much - there are no kids.
Anyway, after this messgae exchange I spoke with my son last night for the first time about what happened. He was a little embarrassed at first but ended up saying that it was one of the most erotic experiences he had ever had. He thought about it a lot but rather than be ashamed about what i had done, he said that it had made him come out of his shell and explore sexuality with several women, and much later, with men. He said he had always found me very attractive when he was young and still did. That cleared the air a little more, I just can't get out of my head what it would have been like if we had actually made love together.

 

[Missouribiguy]

Lady,

I don't know about my fellow posters, but you sound like you need some serious pscyhological help.

I'm not for incest, but it happens. I accept it.

I don't know, I'm still trying to wrap my little finger around this.

 

[chris5vx]

Um,

Doesn't anybody else feel a little weirded out by this?

I'm having a little trouble with this being something she regrets so much and feels like was evil but has masturbation fantasies linked to it.

This is a sex positive site and I think we can remain sex positive and still not have to approve of things like this. Incest aside I view it as sex with someone not old enough to give consent. I don't think we have to be supportive of such things and I am certainly not.

Assuming this is a serious post, I would agree that you need to put this out of your head or consider talking to a professional about why you're so fixated on this fantasy of sex with your son. If you were truly had remorse for your actions I don't believe you'd be discussing it with him today with what sounds like "ohh wank material" running through the back of your mind.

 

[Etoile]

I'm having a little trouble with this being something she regrets so much and feels like was evil but has masturbation fantasies linked to it.

(Snip)

Assuming this is a serious post, I would agree that you need to put this out of your head or consider talking to a professional about why you're so fixated on this fantasy of sex with your son. If you were truly had remorse for your actions I don't believe you'd be discussing it with him today with what sounds like "ohh wank material" running through the back of your mind.

Yes indeed, I agree with everything you have said.

The reason I suspected this might be a troll was the writing style, and the fact that she'd only posted once. Her second post sounded more real.

But again, I agree with chris5vx. Incest itself may not be evil, I can think of situations where it's not, but obsessing on it when the family member is grown and married sounds like something a therapist should be involved in.

For me, the major issue here is not incest, it's the fact that he's married. He's sleeping around (from what I can tell), and he doesn't want to tell his wife. Hopefully he's using condoms and not risking her health, but cheating is cheating no matter who it's with.

Oh, and I agree with Lydia24, too. It's highly unlikely that an event, or a series of similar events, would make someone bi. Sexual orientation is not something that one can be forced into or even pushed into. So please do not worry, I am quite certain that sexual encounters with your son did not make him bi.

 

[blueblood]

talk about a lack of boundaries...

What troubles me about the mother's posts is not that the guy is cheating on his wife with another man, but that a mother who had an incestious relationship with her son is still sexually obssessed with him, his wife and his male lover. Where does it end? The poster either needs therapy, or a life. Get someone of either gender to take of that itch down below and stay out of your son's affairs, in every sense of the word.

 

[KING KOOPA]

fake or not..i think its hot!

 

[Alexandra1979]

Don't know about incest, but I am pretty sure that bisexuality is permanent and innate. (Big words courtesy of my psych course of late.)

 

[jaga7337]

god made me bi,,,my fam is supportive but not the cause

 

[none2_none2]

First off, most of sexual behavior is learned behavior, we develop our sexual taste as we go through life...

I don't think that is totally true. My first non-solo sexual encounter wasn't until I was around 21.5 years of age. As a child I seemed to have a strong attraction to body hair. (My first strong sexual longing was when I was about 4.5 years old and a hairy uncle [by marriage] got out of bed and was only wearing his white underware which contrasted with his very hairy body.) Another strong attraction when I was a kid was men's asses. I was never molested as a child nor did I have sex with boys or girls then. When I did finally start sexual relationships with other men as an adult, for the first two years all the sex was oral, j/o or a couple of times I did bottom. I didn't want to do bottom, but I was brainwashed into thinking that only hung guys could be top. Sex was so unsatisfying that I thought perhaps I was a closet straight.

Finally, two years or so into my sex life, I finally got to top. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I took to it like a duck takes to water. In hindsight, what I enjoyed was what my "wiring" seemed to point to years ago when I was just a child. My sexual enjoyment of fucking masculine, muscular, hairy guys wasn't something that I learned to like. I liked it from the very beginning. While I've had many "lessons" on j/o, oral, etc, my tastes never did change.

 

[none2_none2]

oops, accidentally posted twice...