My Response to Sexual Assault

[rexfelis]

I just got back from reading what I could handle of the sexual assault thread.

As it turns out, every woman I have ever met, online or in real life, has been raped, or sexually assaulted against her will in some way.

THIS REALLY FUCKING PISSES ME OFF!

Every time I hear this, I get so mad I could kill with my bare hands.

What the FUCK is wrong with people? If I ever meet one of these people and I know they have committed such an act, they bad better damned run faster than I can, because they'll be wishing they had never been born when I get done with them!

RRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I just cannot describe how fucking PISSED this makes me!

I am by nature a gentle, kind and loving person, but this is injustice to such a degree that it makes me fucking NUTS!

*stomps off breathing flames from his nostrils*

 

[RawHumor]

Exactly!

I agree totally... and it KILLS me when I hear a man say that she was asking for it and it SLAYS me when I hear a woman say that she deserved it...

 

[krista_kisses]

*gives you the name and address* go get them killer!

*muahs* for you because more people need to be defenders of women, too often we are taken control of. thank you!

 

[rexfelis]

*gives you the name and address* go get them killer!

*muahs* for you because more people need to be defenders of women, too often we are taken control of. thank you!

Not just women. Sexual assault and rape happens to men as well. I am living proof of that.

 

[MissTaken]

I am glad you started this thread.

Several of my male lit friends have expressed many of the same feelings after reading the thread, in pm's and things. A good forum for men to share their feelings is a benefit to us all.

 

[NoRegrets]

More Rage

Then I get more furious to think that there are sexual predators free to walk the steets because the jails are over crowded with non-violent drugies. Who care what people do in the privacy of the own homes?

At least keep the jail full of those animals before you arrest anyone else!

 

[PainSlut]

i wish it was so easy to do something... if you report what happened.. no one believes you... if it by some means does make it to trial you are the one on trial not the person who did it to you... you are a slut.. a whore... no matter what was going on.. actions count for more than words.. no matter how many times you screamed no.. if you were wearing thong panties you wanted it... you were begging for it.... *cries* thats why so very few people say a word....

 

[rexfelis]

i wish it was so easy to do something... if you report what happened.. no one believes you... if it by some means does make it to trial you are the one on trial not the person who did it to you... you are a slut.. a whore... no matter what was going on.. actions count for more than words.. no matter how many times you screamed no.. if you were wearing thong panties you wanted it... you were begging for it.... *cries* thats why so very few people say a word....

I am so sorry, PainSlut. I wish there were something I could to to make those things not have happened. If there's anything I can do that will help or make you feel better, please let me know. *hugs*

Unfortunately, that is all too true in a lot of cases.

 

[sigh]

everyone in my town knew that i'd been raped...it was in the papers...the court case was the town sensation

everyone also knew that my son was conceived during that rape and yet i was not allowed on my high school's swim team because i was a single mom

i was told it "just wouldn't look right"

when my dad reacted with the sort of fury i see here i told him not to sue the school district...i just didn't want to get on the team that way

but you know what? i'm a damn good swimmer...it's very possible that i could have gone to a major university on a full scholarship...instead, my loans are still a couple of years from being paid off

there's something very wrong about that...thanks all of you for being pissed off...sometimes it seems only righteous rage will be able to counter the violence

but then, that doesn't seem right either...there are no easy answers

 

[rexfelis]

everyone in my town knew that i'd been raped...it was in the papers...the court case was the town sensation

everyone also knew that my son was conceived during that rape and yet i was not allowed on my high school's swim team because i was a single mom

i was told it "just wouldn't look right"

when my dad reacted with the sort of fury i see here i told him not to sue the school district...i just didn't want to get on the team that way

but you know what? i'm a damn good swimmer...it's very possible that i could have gone to a major university on a full scholarship...instead, my loans are still a couple of years from being paid off

there's something very wrong about that...thanks all of you for being pissed off...sometimes it seems only righteous rage will be able to counter the violence

but then, that doesn't seem right either...there are no easy answers

I don't know if you decided to keep the child, but I hope that if you did, you spend each day making the world a better place by making love come from what happened to you. Children of rape are a chance at making a beautiful thing out of something horrible.

*hugs*

 

[sigh]

I don't know if you decided to keep the child, but I hope that if you did, you spend each day making the world a better place by making love come from what happened to you. Children of rape are a chance at making a beautiful thing out of something horrible.

*hugs*

he turned ten years old last month, and he's asleep in his room right down the hall

a beautiful thing indeed

 

[rexfelis]

he turned ten years old last month, and he's asleep in his room right down the hall

a beautiful thing indeed

That, at least, is something to be thankful for. Love will always overcome.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Ya know....
There is not a just punishment for these people. I have thought about this long and hard. My life will never ever be the same. Some nights I'm afraid to even take my dog outside to go the bathroom. I knew my attacker in every instance yet I am still afraid. I went to the police but it never did any good. It seldom does. They have more rights than we do. At least they can go about their normal lives while we deal with the aftermath.

Geez... I'm sorry... I guess I just needed to get it out. I shouldn't post this but I am anyways maybe it will validate someone's feelings

Hey Sigh... I applaud you for keeping your precious child.

 

[rexfelis]

Ya know....
There is not a just punishment for these people. I have thought about this long and hard. My life will never ever be the same. Some nights I'm afraid to even take my dog outside to go the bathroom. I knew my attacker in every instance yet I am still afraid. I went to the police but it never did any good. It seldom does. They have more rights than we do. At least they can go about their normal lives while we deal with the aftermath.

Geez... I'm sorry... I guess I just needed to get it out. I shouldn't post this but I am anyways maybe it will validate someone's feelings

Hey Sigh... I applaud you for keeping your precious child.

I am glad you did post it. It's true, and it needs to be said. It's also good to share, and yes, help validate someone else's feelings. Sexual assault and rape are crimes that have been committed for all of human history, and it's time we started changing the mindset that generates these actions. Everyone who makes an effort helps do that. Your contribution is a good one, Dusty, and I appreciate it. I am sure someone else will too.

Maybe we need an organization like "People Against Sexual Assault and Rape", or PASAR... this seems to be a crime that has come to be accepted and people are complacent about it.

 

[Sabineteas]

Ya know....
There is not a just punishment for these people. I have thought about this long and hard. My life will never ever be the same. Some nights I'm afraid to even take my dog outside to go the bathroom. I knew my attacker in every instance yet I am still afraid. I went to the police but it never did any good. It seldom does. They have more rights than we do. At least they can go about their normal lives while we deal with the aftermath.

Geez... I'm sorry... I guess I just needed to get it out. I shouldn't post this but I am anyways maybe it will validate someone's feelings

Hey Sigh... I applaud you for keeping your precious child.

Sigh, I applaud you too. I could never have done what you did. And Dustygirl, I understand all too well how you feel.

There is no just punishment for a rapist. And it isn't that they have more rights, but that people's belief's about rape are not realistic. A victim's sex life before the rape is fair game to show that she "asked for it". Ah, this thread and others make me want to cry.

 

[rexfelis]

I believe that some how, some way, there really is punishment for the rapist. Whether it is judgement by God, or repayment via karmic response, or some other means.

I happen to believe that it's karma, and that it may not be a punishment in this life. But I do believe that, sooner or later, the cost of ones actions must be paid for, in full.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Sabine Teas, your right.. They don't have more rights than us.. It's just that... I don't know.. It upsets me that I my whole life has been turned upside down.
I was bi when this last incident happened but now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I can never be with a man. Which is fine, I can accept that. But many women can't. What really kills me is that he is living a normal life. He's a nurse practitioner now. He can really mess up people's lives if he wants to and I would not put it past him but he never got in trouble. I've moved on several occassions just to get away from him. Chances are though that I might run into him again. I ran into him once... literally at Starbucks. He was nice of course.. Makes me sick. He asked how I was doing and I told him I was a lesbian lol. He looked hurt... He actually looked hurt. I laughed... It was really funny...

By the way... I love your av Sabine

 

[rexfelis]

Is that why all my female friends are bi or lesbian? I had suspected as much.

 

[petrel]

I just got back from reading what I could handle of the sexual assault thread.

As it turns out, every woman I have ever met, online or in real life, has been raped, or sexually assaulted against her will in some way.

THIS REALLY FUCKING PISSES ME OFF!

Every time I hear this, I get so mad I could kill with my bare hands.

What the FUCK is wrong with people? If I ever meet one of these people and I know they have committed such an act, they bad better damned run faster than I can, because they'll be wishing they had never been born when I get done with them!

RRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I just cannot describe how fucking PISSED this makes me!

I am by nature a gentle, kind and loving person, but this is injustice to such a degree that it makes me fucking NUTS!

*stomps off breathing flames from his nostrils*

rex you are a sweetie and i love you for it and i ain't been sexually assulted so there's at least one you know who i free from that horrer

 

[DustyWolfe]

Is that why all my female friends are bi or lesbian? I had suspected as much.

Nah.. I'm just special... I was really fighting the whole gay issue when I met him. I wasn't really attracted to him but I dated him more to get my parents off my back. That was a mistake... It's not his fault that I'm gay. I just think that what he did made me realize it faster? I dunno.

Dusty

 

[Sabineteas]

Help for you

I just finished watching a program on assault and abuse of women on the Lifetime channel.

The title of the program is "Fear no More".

It gave some places for those of us who may need help in dealing with assault or abuse, which can be physical, mental and so on.

You can call 1-800-656-help or 1-800-789-safe
or
you can find agencies at Lifetimetv.com

It was a good program, hilighting five women who have gone through what many of you have talked about so openly here. If you can get Lifetime<it's a woman's channel>, look for the schedule and see if it will be on again. Eve Enstler is on it talking about abuse of women along with the five featured women.

I recommend it to all.

 

[Sabineteas]

Bumping this for the information I saw last night. Hope people read and find some good from it.