my problem

[kraft]

I had a good sex life with my partner but from last 2 weeks there r some changes in my stamina.Previously i was able to last about 45minuts(just peneration) and able to cum her an average of 7 to 9 times in most of our sex sessions.But these days my stamina is reduced sometimes now just after oral sex(i was doing it earlier also) when i go for penetration i just cum in 3 minutes.and sometimes it goes for 10 to 15 minutes but not like earlier and now she is cumming an average of 2 to 4 times. i just want to know why my stamina is getting decreased now?or is there any solution for it?perhaps in future it can happen i cum and she didnt reach even her single orgasm.btw we do sex everyday or sometimes 2 to 4 times in a day. Is too much sex can also leads to this problem?

 

[Malaria]

Maybe just physical exhaustion!!! phew! Are there any outside factors like a change in lifestyle or an increase in stress? do you have lots of other things on your mind?

 

[Vixandra]

I may get flammed, but there's more to life and a relationship then just sex.

Its a wonder you're both not dehydrated and exhausted.

Have you told your partner you're feeling a decrease in stamina? Could be stress from work or other aspects of your life. Talk to her, take a break for a couple of days and jump back in the saddle.

And drink lotsa fluids, like water.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I may be reading you wrong but you sound very focused on penetration. Maybe you should spend more time enjoying each other generally in a more relaxed, romantic way rather than banging her mercilessly and adding up the climaxes.

I could not withstand a guy who ideally wanted 45mins of sex 3 times a day.

Your woman must be raw Sir

 

[Flora]

45 mins of just penetration, seems excessive. You should spend time exploring the joys of oral together.

 

[VampireD]

agree

VelvetDarkness
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I may be reading you wrong but you sound very focused on penetration. Maybe you should spend more time enjoying each other generally in a more relaxed, romantic way rather than banging her mercilessly and adding up the climaxes.

I could not withstand a guy who ideally wanted 45mins of sex 3 times a day.

Your woman must be raw Sir

Perhaps you should try foreplay..that really gets a woman all hot and ready, so relax and things will continue to unfold in your favor grass hoppper

 

[Eilan]

I may get flammed, but there's more to life and a relationship then just sex.

You're not going to get any flaming from me.

I may be reading you wrong but you sound very focused on penetration. Maybe you should spend more time enjoying each other generally in a more relaxed, romantic way rather than banging her mercilessly and adding up the climaxes.

I could not withstand a guy who ideally wanted 45mins of sex 3 times a day.

Your woman must be raw Sir

I know I'd be raw.

When my husband and I have 45-minute sex sessions, it's not 45 minutes of him thrusting on top of me until he cums. That would make both of us raw! It's generally lots of foreplay (including oral) and position changes and quite a bit of grinding, as opposed to thrusting, which I much prefer to thrusting, anyway.

perhaps in future it can happen i cum and she didnt reach even her single orgasm

You don't stop until she cums, then.

 

[kraft]

btw i tell u guys if u hav any doubt.maybe i hav expressesd my self in a wrong way.first i hav lot of oral sex (and im perfect with my tounge and fingers) most of the time before penetration.the only problem is that i was controling my self cumming at anytime(means if i want to cum in 5 minutes or 50 minutes).but now since 2 weeks just in fucking(in oral sex i can still control) im loosing my control.like if i want to continue for 30 minutes(fucking after oral) but it happen that i cum in 3 minutes. is there any way get my controling power back??
hm ya a bit stress is going on in life we r shifting to other town in few days and job stress also there.but i guess these stress can only delay in orgasm not making ur orgasm fast.
We r not get exhausted just if someday its too much we make it other day just one time.

 

[kraft]

I could not withstand a guy who ideally wanted 45mins of sex 3 times a day.

Your woman must be raw Sir

dear its depends how the other guy is making sex to u.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

btw i tell u guys if u hav any doubt.maybe i hav expressesd my self in a wrong way.first i hav lot of oral sex (and im perfect with my tounge and fingers) most of the time before penetration.

I'm happy to stand corrected kraft.

Do you have a brother?

 

[kraft]

I'm happy to stand corrected kraft.

Do you have a brother?

No dear but my sex hunger is very big

 

[Saucyminx]

I'm happy to stand corrected kraft.

Do you have a brother?

I was thinking the exact same thing.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I was thinking the exact same thing.

Oh no you don't, I asked first!

 

[Saucyminx]

*pout* i would have shared with you.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

*pout* i would have shared with you.

*tosses a coin*

OK, heads says you get to go first.

 

[Chicklet]

My question would be how long you two have been together?

I know that when I get a new partner (which, no, is not frequent) during the first month or so our sex is much, much hotter and heavier than after that first month mark. When I started dating my most recent partner, we would have sex nearly twenty minutes of each hour of each day we were together (and yes, I was very, VERY raw, and we had to use lots of lube) and both of us would cum many, many times. Now we're down to a somewhat easier (on me) routine of one or two sexual encounters a weekend, with one or two orgasms each if we're lucky.

 

[sexy_dancer]

Wow!!!

Sex everyday...sometimes twice wow! My opinion would be that you are physicaly exhausted and that your sex is to routine. It sounds to me (and I could be wrong) like you are obsessed with good penetration and making your partner cum a zillion times! Here is what I would do. Start out by just gently massaging her. (Both of you should be naked while doing this btw) Heres the thing though. Don't just use your hands, use things like feathers, silk material, fur, and if she has long hair she can use it when she massages you. You need to explore new ways to sense eachother, introduce new smells into sex, like lavender or something like that. You need to use all five of your senses to have great sex! Dont even do oral until you get to the taste part of your senses. Touch can be the massage, smell can be aromatherapy, sight can be just watching eachother be erotic, listen to eachother breathe and hear eachothers heartbeat as you do these things, then you can taste eachother. By then you will be relaxed and ready to enjoy sex. And then try the sets of 9. Just put the head in 9 times then penitrate on the 10th time, then do 8 head thrusts and 2 full penitrations, then 7 head 3 full, 6 head 4 full, 5 head 5 full, 4 head 6 full, 3 head 7 full, 2 head 8 full, 1 head 9 full, then 10 full. Most dont make it without cumming past 6 head and 4 full, but its something to shoot for. TRUST ME this works!!! I hope that I have helped you in some way. Have fun love!