my newest friend

[gochiefs]

i never really knew somebody who was gay before, my girlfriends nephew is, and i workked with a few when i was in high school, but until i went back to college and met this person, i never really knew one. she is in several of my classes, and is my lab partner in one of them. we study together, go to lunch and dinner together, and generally just shoot the shit about not only our love lives but also just regular stuff too. i had no idea she was gay, and even before i knew that, the age difference was enough for us both to know we would just be friends. (18 years, btw). we got to be friends before she came out to me, and i love the fact that she was able to trust me enough with that, and know that i wouldn't discuss that or anything else we talk about with others. being gay has nothing to do with who you are or what kind of person they are. i'm so glad to have met her, and i cherish any time we get to spend together.

this post is just for me to get this out of my head and out to where people can see it.

 

[gochiefs]

i would like to add a few things, maybe get some replies going here.

my friendship with this girl is one of the best male-female relationships i have ever had, she's probably my best female friend i have ever had, in fact, with the in-common things we have between us (i.e. studies in school), i get along better with her than i do with my own girlfriend. maybe it's because the is absolutely zero sexual tension there? i think so, because all my other female friends, and this is going back to the when harry met sally movie, there was always that chance of something hapopening (sometimes, it did, matter of fact!). all i know is that we can talk about ANYTHING and not get embarrassed or self-conscious about any subject. i hope we'll always be friends, and i think we will.

ok, how about your thoughts?

 

[oo0_boo_0oo]

I can understand where your coming from. I have a male friend who is gay and as you have said there aren't any sexual tensions at all. You know that person spends time with you because she wants to, not because she secretly wants something from you. I'm not saying that every male/female relationship is like that, but with someone who is gay and the opposite sex to you its blatantly obvious nothing will happen, you relax totally...

True friendship is as rare as a black diamond... looks like you found it.

 

[AvatarsQueen]

Totally concur..the lack of sexual tension allows you to be completely at ease and build a trust that is extremely rare.
I have a first cousin who is gay. We see each other only every couple of years, but when we get together it's like we just saw each other the week before. Why can't my friendships with guys be like that? I met somebody who lives a couple of towns over from me, but I'm not attracted to him. Unfortunately, he definitely would like for the friendship to be more than it is, and I'm thinking I'm going to have to end the friendship because I don't want him coming back at me and saying I was using him or something. "cause i'M not, I want to be friends but I ain't going to bed with him.
Well, thanks for letting me vent!
The Queen

 

[gochiefs]

thanks for your responses. anyone else with anything to say or add?

 

[John Doe]

I disgree that being gay has nothing to do with who you are. I'm bisexual and I consider my sexual preferences and sexuality in general to be a part of who I am. It's an aspect of my personality. I don't think it's completely seperate whether you're gay or straight or whatever.