My hello thread, and a quick question.

[GhEtToBoY]

Hello everyone.


Im a 20 year old male from Ohio, and after 7 months of lurking here, reading the stories, i figure i may as well sign up for you wonderful forums. But, I have a question. Umm, this may not be the right place for this, but, im with this girl, whom is pregant, not by me, but by her ex, and she just recently decided to keep the kid, umm, but i've been worried that this would bring the biological dad back into the picture, but, she kept reassuring me that Im not going to lose her once she has the kid. So am i worrying about losing her to much and about the baby? I mean its not mine, but eh, oh well, anyways, Hello to the Lit crowd

 

[RawHumor]

First, welcome to Lit.

To answer your question, you DO have a right to worry. Things will probably be very messy for everyone involved.

My question to you is, would you really want her to end her child's life just to satisfy your own insecurities?

 

[GhEtToBoY]

First, welcome to Lit.

To answer your question, you DO have a right to worry. Things will probably be very messy for everyone involved.

My question to you is, would you really want her to end her child's life just to satisfy your own insecurities?

I never wanted her to end the childs life anyways. I will be supportive of her, and hope she doesn't lose the kid or anything, but what if her parents were to kick her out? Should i tell her she can live with me?

 

[Shaq]

Hello everyone.


Im a 20 year old male from Ohio, and after 7 months of lurking here, reading the stories, i figure i may as well sign up for you wonderful forums. But, I have a question. Umm, this may not be the right place for this, but, im with this girl, whom is pregant, not by me, but by her ex, and she just recently decided to keep the kid, umm, but i've been worried that this would bring the biological dad back into the picture, but, she kept reassuring me that Im not going to lose her once she has the kid. So am i worrying about losing her to much and about the baby? I mean its not mine, but eh, oh well, anyways, Hello to the Lit crowd

I can see why you would be worried. Honestly you should be. If you and her are in a relationship it's understandable why you may feel as though the relationship will change. Cause face it when she has that kid her ex IS going to be in her life and yours if he wants to be. That you just have to deal with.

Just ask yourself if she loves you as much as you love her...if the answer is yes stick it out...if you're just her rebound guy (which is interesting considering tho you didn't say how far along she is that she slept with someone at least 6 months ago. I say six because I get the impression keeping the baby was a recent decision and you're only to make that decision early on).

Anyway, it depends mainly how you feel she feels about you....

 

[Vilac]

I never wanted her to end the childs life anyways. I will be supportive of her, and hope she doesn't lose the kid or anything, but what if her parents were to kick her out? Should i tell her she can live with me?

That's a question only you can answer.

And...your initial, gut reaction to that question should be the right answer.

Best of luck and welcome to Lit.
V~

 

[Guest]

welcome to lit....

 

[Shaq]

I never wanted her to end the childs life anyways. I will be supportive of her, and hope she doesn't lose the kid or anything, but what if her parents were to kick her out? Should i tell her she can live with me?

How long have you been together?

How has the relationship been?

What will be the role of the father once the baby is born?

How committed are you to this relationship?

How committed is she?

 

[juicylips]

Welcome to Lit from a fellow Buckeye.

If you decide to keep her as your g/f, then the baby will be part of your life right along with the biological father. It's a package whether you like it or not.

Best of Luck.
JL

 

[Monazwx]

Again, welcome to Lit; the plethora of answers.

But now I have a question, why did her and ex split?
This is going to play a major role in the pregnancy.

 

[GhEtToBoY]

Well, her ex split with her, because of her bitching at him, and he was basically not liking that, the thing is we hooked up about 5 days ago, so, its rather sudden about this.


I guess i just need to watch out for myself.


thanks for the welcome greetings also.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

5 days?!!! 5 whole days?!?! Well I gotta admit you sure think about stuff way ahead of its time. How do you even know this relationship will last very long? All you can do is go with the flow and see what happens, no need to worry just yet about the future. Wait to worry once both of you are SURE of your feelings for each other. Enjoy yourselves now like you would at the begining of any relationship, save the worrying for a later time.

 

[GhEtToBoY]

5 days?!!! 5 whole days?!?! Well I gotta admit you sure think about stuff way ahead of its time. How do you even know this relationship will last very long? All you can do is go with the flow and see what happens, no need to worry just yet about the future. Wait to worry once both of you are SURE of your feelings for each other. Enjoy yourselves now like you would at the begining of any relationship, save the worrying for a later time.

Okay, I will do that then, Im sorry to those of you whom thought my question was a stupid one.

 

[Monazwx]

I'd advise that you wait a week or two.

Their 'argument' may have been cause for a separation rather than a split. Don't offer lodging this soon. See what her parents have to say, after they've cooled down.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Don't take my post the wrong way. I in no way think its a stupid question. I just think you should enjoy your life with her before starting to worry about something. Just roll with the punches is all I am trying to say.

 

[Shaq]

Well, her ex split with her, because of her bitching at him, and he was basically not liking that, the thing is we hooked up about 5 days ago, so, its rather sudden about this.


I guess i just need to watch out for myself.


thanks for the welcome greetings also.

I think you need to take a step back for a while...there is NO way you can be sure she's committed to your relationship after 5 days....

 

[Latinababe]

Hiya and Welcome to lit also

 

[Astro]

welcome to Lit GhEtToBoY, after 5 days she told you she was pregnant wit hher ex's baby and you are enough of a man to think about letting her move in with you. U sound like a good man but I wouldnt worry about it yet and wait a while.

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Welcome aboard!

Not to be cold hearted or cruel, GB, but you are 22 years old. Don't even think of taking on the burden of someone elses child and leftovers!!!!

Somewhere out there is the girl you will truely want to be with and have your own children.

RhumbRunner

 

[GhEtToBoY]

Re: Welcome aboard!

Not to be cold hearted or cruel, GB, but you are 22 years old. Don't even think of taking on the burden of someone elses child and leftovers!!!!

Somewhere out there is the girl you will truely want to be with and have your own children.

RhumbRunner

Thanks for the kind insights everyone.


Well if anyone wants to add me to their AIM, my screen name is in my profile, but im not expecting that to happen.

 

[DevilBoy79]

You have a right to worry, just dont forget to have some trust in what she tells you also, if you are that serious concerning how you feel about her, give it all sometime and talk with her more about it

 

[Sillyman]

If you like her, continue your relationship with her. It's still soon. You need to explore your relationship a little more first. See what her other options turn out to be before offering lodging though.