My girfriend's fanatsy

[bigrain]

My girlfriend and I are going to get married this summer. While over the years we have enjoyed sex very much and we have a strong relationship. During sex on of her biggest fanasty's is to have a threesome with another man. This fanasty comes from years of us acting it out with vibrators and dildos while watching porn. Recently she has brought it to my attention that she might like to try it on a one shot deal and maybe also with a woman afterwards. When I am horny I am all for it and think it is hot, but when I am not horny I am so-so on the subject. We have two plans 1) go out and just find somebody attractive and do it. 2) work up to it by going out dancing one night and letting her stray, then if comfortable another night with maybe light sex to make sure we feel comfortable with the situation. My girlfriend has never sleep with anybody but me and would like to try after we are married. So what is the best plan and if anybody else has done this what should I expect after. We both said after we would talk about how we felt to see if it enhances the relationship, but we do not want to ruin our relationship. Let me know your opinion

 

[Ms_Lilith]

trust me on this: do it BEFORE you get married.

 

[SweetGACpl_4Fem]

I don't know you or your wife but hunny it sounds like your a little worried and I would not recomend waiting until after your married if your having doubts already. If you do it before it will still give you the ablity to make the right decision for both of you and it would show you truly that you are the only one she wants in the long run. Because if you are the only one she's ever know it might start a chain reaction. But if you are both up for it.....It's a wonderful thing, although it is a little awkard the first time my best advise is to talk it over at breakfast in the morning with the 3rd party present.

 

[redrock911]

Just wanted to say a few things. Im a guy, been married to my wife for 7 months. We had gone through the same exact thing, role playing it with vibrators and dildos, and talking alot about it. We even had planned a trip to a club in Miami called Miami Velvet Swing, a swing club. That was before we were married though. we chick3ened out at the last minute. I would always get excited at the thought of it before and during sex, but afterwards would get a little nervous. Recently we had talked about a friend of ours, how it would be, role playing acting as he were the dildo and such. Eventually we decided to try it out she kind of broke it to him bit by bit. Eventually giving him a link to her pictures here on Lit. He got the message and we started talking about it with him. I really had to actually come out and say it. It had to be said out loud to him. Which i think is understandable. To me that was the most ackward part of the whole situation. I was very nervous up to that point. Once me and him talked about it things went smoothly. It was understood what was wanted and he was all for it. Long story short, we drank some that night to calm the nerves and everything went well. I still had to kind of tell him to start. Have to think for the person on the outside of the realationship it is a little nerve racking too. During the whole process it was good, she helped me out alot the whole time. I had all the normal emotions and fear that she would go after him and just let me sit there. She didnt do that though, she made sure i was part of the evenings activities. That helped ALOT! the next day was fine, the next night i got a little bummed out about it. Though i talked to her about my feelings to her and again she helped out alot. We have done it again with the same person, this time was easier, i always worried that he would get all the attention after it would happen. Or that i couldn't be as good of a lover, but i have been with her for a long time. I know what she liked, what she doesnt like. I have experience with her, so i believe that makes me the better lover. He was just something extra thrown in the mix. Oh one thing, figures that this guy had to have a huge cock! But it hasnt been an issue... Anyway enough rambling. Just make sure your comfortable, you should be nervous. I thought a stranger might be the way to go, but i think a friend worked out better. I know she isnt going to run off with him, and he is someone i can trust. I dont know if any of this helps, i just read what you posted and it was the same exact thing we were going through. If you have any questions let me know. I will tell you what i know from our experiences. I am glad we waited until we were married, i think that there is a better bond then. We lived with each other for 2 years before getting married, i didnt think it was going to be a bigh differance. There is though, i think so anyway. Ok hope this helps in some way...

 

[77Cobra]

My wife and I been married over 10 years and we had the same fantasy.We finally ended up having a threesome with my best friend and we were both hooked.It was so exciting to see my wife with two cocks in her.We got together about once a week for about 6 months then suddenly the wife said no more.She felt she was cheating by doing this.Damn!!!I was having the greatest sex ever and so was she.I think she got scared because she loved it so much and was thinking of adding more men in the bedroom than me and my friend.So we no longer do it and our sex life has started to get a little stale.So I say go for it .

 

[bigrain]

we will probably try but we want to wait till we are married. we are trying to work into slow or just go for it. seeing her with toys and having her talk about it gets me horny as hell, I want to see how you feel afterwards, that has me a little worried. we are thinking about going to a swing club where there is no pressure

 

[Layne]

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Is the other guy for her or for both of you? Will there be any sex between him and you?

Layne

 

[Ms_Lilith]

we will probably try but we want to wait till we are married. we are trying to work into slow or just go for it. seeing her with toys and having her talk about it gets me horny as hell, I want to see how you feel afterwards, that has me a little worried. we are thinking about going to a swing club where there is no pressure

TRUST ME, do it before you're married.

Doing it after you're married may open her eyes to the variety out there, and considering you're the only person she's been with, she might want the freedom to explore other options after she's had a taste.

I know you want to wait, to make it something special, or something, but be realistic. This is the kind of thing that should be tried before "till death do us part", cus it COULD be the thing that makes you part. Wedding rings are no sure insurance that either of you will remain in the relationship after an experience like that.

 

[redrock911]

TRUST ME, do it before you're married.

Doing it after you're married may open her eyes to the variety out there, and considering you're the only person she's been with, she might want the freedom to explore other options after she's had a taste.

I know you want to wait, to make it something special, or something, but be realistic. This is the kind of thing that should be tried before "till death do us part", cus it COULD be the thing that makes you part. Wedding rings are no sure insurance that either of you will remain in the relationship after an experience like that.

I would wait, i think a sexual experience like this could try the bonds of a realationship a bit. Once you do it the first time everything gets easier. But i think having the bond of being married would be good to have. Also i would not go out and let her roam to pick up a guy. Well for me that would be a little tough to handle. A friend would be much easier to see her with in my opinion. Again this is just how i feel from my experiences.

 

[KingDingaling]

do it b4 you get married ..... don't be an idiot