My first ogling experience in years...

[BustyTheClown]

As many of you can imagine, a college student with large breasts (male *or* female) will get many stares if dressed the right way. That was me yesterday afternoon.

It's hot and humid here -- it was in the upper 80s yesterday and I had some errands to run in the late afternoon. So I put on shorts, birkenstocks, and a white spaghetti strap tank-top and set out. At first I was happy as could be because I was soooo comfortable.

Then the ogling started. It wasn't bad on campus because people were busy, but when I went onto the Ave it was much worse. Most of the roads are closed for construction, but the few cars that did pass contained rubbernecking, sometimes slack-jawed drivers, as if I was a gory car accident or a dead animal on the side of the road.

I forgot what it felt like to be stared at. I forgot how much I disliked it. Maybe I should be flattered, but I'm not. I haven't had a crude gesture since high school, but I was far less prepared to deal with it then. I kind of wish someone would do it now so my more mature vocal chords could tell them exactly what I thought about it. But I digress.

Wait, let me digress a bit more. I have another issue -- when I went to go get some supper at a local cafe, the young woman working behind the counter looked at me as if I was a whore and didn't have much of a right to be in the cafe, but since she was a good Christian woman, she wouldn't kick me out. I've hardly ever been looked at like that before, and I hate it even more than being stared at.

My breasts are not a statement about my sexuality! I am not promiscuous just because I pull shirts taut at the chest. I am not a slut because I can't hide my nipples when they get erect. I am a sexual person, but I hate being judged as overtly hyper-sexual because of my breast size -- which isn't that huge, anyway.

So, ladies -- or men, if you are also stared at wherever you go -- how do you feel when you're ogled? Do people seem to think you're promiscuous or even slutty? Does it bother you at all? What do you do/say when you catch people taking too long glances or making crude gestures?

 

[Tyrael]

I dunno. At first I would be flattered cuz people think I'm hot shit. then after a while I'll be like....didn't you get a good look when you were staring at me all day yesterday and the day before that?

 

[MissTaken]

Some tactful glances are flattering.

However, it turns my stomach when I am talking to someone and they literally cannot lift their eyes from my chest I had an employee with that problem. It didn't matter how conservatively I was dressed, my breasts were an ocular magnet.


Drove me nuts!

 

[Tyrael]

Some tactful glances are flattering.

However, it turns my stomach when I am talking to someone and they literally cannot lift their eyes from my chest I had an employee with that problem. It didn't matter how conservatively I was dressed, my breasts were an ocular magnet.


Drove me nuts!

I bet it was... oh wait your eyes are up there!

 

[Wiggles]

If it's polite appreciation, it doesn't bother me. If it's just one guy, sitting on a bench, with his eyes glued to my ass, I can deal.

But if it's a group of men (isn't it always?), and they're all staring and saying lewd things, I get pissed. It makes you feel like a piece of meat.

It's horrifying if you aren't used to it. I've learned to keep my eyes forward, my back straight, and just walk on by. They might think I'm an uptight bitch, but not a slut.

Be proud of your body, do what you want. Don't let other people control what you do, who you are, with their reactions.

Look that Christian lady straight in the eye and give her the most honest good hearted smile you have. Because it really doesn't matter what you're wearing, it's who you are. Just because they don't know that doesn't mean it's not true.

 

[CarolineOh]

Some tactful glances are flattering.

However, it turns my stomach when I am talking to someone and they literally cannot lift their eyes from my chest I had an employee with that problem. It didn't matter how conservatively I was dressed, my breasts were an ocular magnet.


Drove me nuts!

I'm with Miss T. It's nice to feel appreciated, but I don't think it ought to be that hard for guys to know when they've crossed the line. No one wants to feel uncomfortable, or worse, threatened.

 

[sabbathstorm]

I don't mind being logled all that much. I've never been accused of being slutty or promiscuous by the way I dress. I tend to keep covered up a lot but I do wear tank tops and vinyl. I dress for me and I don't really give a shit what someone else thinks.

I guess no one bothers me because I give them the "death stare" I don't need to say a word...got the glare perfected now

 

[BustyTheClown]

I guess no one bothers me because I give them the "death stare" I don't need to say a word...got the glare perfected now

Is it anything like the one in your av? I'd run away crying.

 

[truegentleman]

There is a difference between flirting and making someone feel uncomfortable. People need to understand the meaning of the word "tact".

A glance or a smile is enough, you don't need to stare, or worse yet "the cat calls".

 

[BustyTheClown]

If it's polite appreciation, it doesn't bother me. If it's just one guy, sitting on a bench, with his eyes glued to my ass, I can deal.
But if it's a group of men (isn't it always?), and they're all staring and saying lewd things, I get pissed. It makes you feel like a piece of meat.
It's horrifying if you aren't used to it. I've learned to keep my eyes forward, my back straight, and just walk on by. They might think I'm an uptight bitch, but not a slut.
Be proud of your body, do what you want. Don't let other people control what you do, who you are, with their reactions.
Look that Christian lady straight in the eye and give her the most honest good hearted smile you have. Because it really doesn't matter what you're wearing, it's who you are. Just because they don't know that doesn't mean it's not true.

You offer some excellent insight. Especially the bit about not letting others control what you do. I must admit, though, the reason I get so upset about it is not so much that I'm being ogled, it's that I feel ashamed of myself when I'm stared at. I found myself walking to my bank with my head hung, adjusting myself to make sure I wasn't showing any cleavage. I hate that more than the staring. That "piece of meat" feeling. I usually love my body and who I am, but when I'm looked at like that -- in the lewd rather than the appreciatory way -- I just feel ashamed of myself when in all reality I shouldn't.

 

[Wave_Rider]

Interesting question......for a few reasons to me.

First, as a "MALE" who is 'easy on the eyes" I've been "ogled" for many years.........however.....living in Los Angeles, it doesn't happen as much as when I'm traveling........when I was younger, it bothered me when males would stare me 'up and down" lingering on the "bulge" but now, I chuckle inwardly and walk on.

Perhaps I'm in the minority as far as being one to 'appreciate' a woman. Given a choice of beautiful eyes and smile.......as compared to breasts.........and give me the former.......

I'd much rather see a reaction on her face......than from her body. I can admire her with a glance.........and not stand there "slack-jawed" objectifying her........

Truthfully, for you, and other ladies........I'm sorry that you have to consider how you dress when you leave your homes........its a sad reflection on our society.....in general

 

[sabbathstorm]

Is it anything like the one in your av? I'd run away crying.

LOL..it's worse and can be accompanied by a grumble/growl (especially during finals).

 

[BustyTheClown]

LOL..it's worse and can be accompanied by a grumble/growl (especially during finals).

LOL at the finals comment. I dig it!

 

[Coven911]

Sorry for your experience

Busty,

I am sorry you felt "PAWED". I know when I see a nice looking lady, I try NOT to offend her by staring. But I DO thoroughly enjoy a woman who is sensual and knows it. The presence she projects is phenomenal!

PLEASE continue to dress as YOU wish.

 

[Jimi]

Ocular is NOT jocular!!

Some tactful glances are flattering.

However, it turns my stomach when I am talking to someone and they literally cannot lift their eyes from my chest I had an employee with that problem. It didn't matter how conservatively I was dressed, my breasts were an ocular magnet.


Drove me nuts!

You KNOW how much I love boobs - my other half digs me in the ribs if I miss a paticularly good pair... Or if I'm being more than the usual PITA, she tells me later...

I love all parts and all shapes of women... except obviously "plastic", but try to keep my eyes where they belong in a conversation - on the other individual's!

Great thread, Busty...

 

[Ice Princess]

Do you find lots of cars will stop to let you walk across the street in front of them, just to watch you? Some days when it's hard to get across the road, I consider that a perk.


I found myself wondering today as I walked around why it is that on some days, I get honked at, ogled, get all the bizarre pick up lines from strangers on the street (sometimes in a couple of different languages) a lot more than usual. It's like there's something in the air that brings them on all at once. I feel ok about the number of catcalls and comments I get on a regular day, but on those very bizarre days when it seems to be every man I pass, I start to feel a little weird about it and find it harder to ignore.

 

[BustyTheClown]

Do you find lots of cars will stop to let you walk across the street in front of them, just to watch you? Some days when it's hard to get across the road, I consider that a perk.

Knowing me, it's happened and I just thought they were being nice, lol.

Thanks for the compliment on the thread, jimi. I'm sure there are a lot of breast-loving men out there (and handsome men-loving women) who will be very happy reminiscing about some of the hot bodies they've seen out there on the streets.