My First Lesbian Experience

[SexySecretary]

Oh, what should I do? It's every man's fantasy, and I tried ti a couple nights ago, as a favor to my friends I was with. It was all right, but I'm not so sure I want to do it again, even to give the guy I'm sort of dating a thrill.

 

[Amused]

What?
No pictures?

 

[Starfish]

I am sorry but this is not a good thing.

You should only do sexual things because you want to do them for you. Because it gives you pleasure, only. If you did it for them because you wanted to please them and you didn't enjoy it or want to do it ever again, then you didn't do it out of real love for them, because you don't really love them.
Maybe you need to reprioritize your self confidence and needs.

I think that you shouldn't do it again if you don't like it.
Simple as that.

 

[StudMuffinLondon]

Starfish you got it all wrong = again.....
Never mind about 'prioritize' you should not 'moralize' - Recently, at a party, I was offered an item of food that I had never tasted before and which did not look particularly appetizing. Never the less I tried it - simply because 'looks' can sometimes be deceiving and I 'may' have been pleasantly surprised. I wasn't. It tasted as grotesque as it looked.
The only reason I can now comment on that is that I tried it and it was not to my liking. Sexy Secretary tried her first bi session and says she doubts whether she would repeat it. The only basis for her reasoning is that she tried it in the first place. Any inclusion of crap like doing it for the love of others is immaterial. I figure she wanted to try it anyway irrespective of her misguided excuses.

 

[april-wine]

Oh, what should I do? It's every man's fantasy, and I tried ti a couple nights ago, as a favor to my friends I was with. It was all right, but I'm not so sure I want to do it again, even to give the guy I'm sort of dating a thrill.

As a favour to your friends????? You really need to take a look at what pleases you......You SHOULD not do it again for someone else.....

 

[lobito]

studmuffinlondon, you obviously don't read posts correctly. If you had, you'd see why Fishie said what she said.

It's common sense, DF!

 

[cymbidia]

If you're not comfy with what you're doing sexually, whether or not you've tried it before, then don't do it. It's not like party canapes; this is about your emotional well-being.

If you want to try a thing and you get into the middle and it doesn't feel right - scary or not fun or something - then stop. Yeh, right in the middle.

Wanting to stop doing something, or not wanting to do it in the first place, are the methods our body and mind use to tell us when we're going someplace we're not ready to go.

Don't do it, whatever "it" is, if it's not feeling really good and/or taking you someplace that will end up feeling really good.

And for gods sakes, don't fuck around in sexual matters cuz someone else wants you to. That's an easy and quick ticket to Screwed-Up-Headsville.

Do what's best and right and wonderful for you.
In the end, you'll get a lot more from whatever it is you're doing, and so will your partner.

If you're associated with someone who's pushing you into doing sexual stuff you don't want to do (1) talk to him and explain your hesitancies and/or (2) kick his ass to the curb and go find someone more compatible.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I am sorry but this is not a good thing.

You should only do sexual things because you want to do them for you. Because it gives you pleasure, only.

If we did sexual things because they only please us then there would be a lot of frustrated sexual partners out there.

My response would be that doing things for others is often both desireable and pleasureable, but if you find it unenjoyable (or whatever) and don't want to do it again, then don't do something just to please someone else.

Not everything I do with a woman is highly enjoyable for me alone, but I get great enjoyment from pleasing and exciting a woman. If the act didn't give her pleasure then I probably wouldn't be doing it for just my own sake. It is a two way street. I have my limits (no male gay sex, no scat/watersports, no animals, etc.) and I wouldn't do those things even if my partner would enjoy it.

SS sounds like she is not sure of what she wants - she didn't say it was disagreeable, she didn't say that it was highly enjoyable, she said it was "all right" which sounds like she didn't find it objectionable, just not that enjoyable.

SS, give it some time to roll around in your mind, but don't let anyone pressure you into do it again as a "favor". Trying it once is okay to see if you liked it, but now you have some experience to base your opinion on.

 

[Starfish]

What in the fuck is this "You've got it all wrong=again" shit?

It is merely my opinion.

I just thought that if this person had a higher content of self confidance she'd not concern herself with whether she'd have to do it again for some third party friends or boyfriend sake.

Also, I understand that it isn't stated anywhere in my post, but I didn't disclude the idea of doing something you don't really like for you lover as being important for lovers.. but being lovers is key. I just don't think that if someone really cares about you, that they'd push you to do something that you don't like, just for their pleasure.

She said she did it for friends who wanted her to. Not because she wanted to try it. I just think that if she would have cared more about what she wants and not her friends, then she maybe wouldn't have in the first place, and if she did want to try it, and now doesn't like it... well... there is your answer... Don't do it again.

She is acting like she can't decide if she'd do it again or not.


I've had sex with another woman who was into it, and one that wasn't and I must say that if you arn't into it, why bother?
You're lover is going to notice and maybe get turned off.

 

[Rambling Rose]

What the hell kind of favour is that? Why aren't my friends so generous with their favours?

*looking around* Well???

 

[Renegade]

What the hell kind of favour is that? Why aren't my friends so generous with their favours?

*looking around* Well???

If I was a woman, I'd do you. How's that??

 

[Rambling Rose]

Oh.

(only if you were a woman? )

 

[Never]

Blushing Rose.. If I were a woman I'd do you.

 

[Renegade]

Oh.

(only if you were a woman? )

Oh, I would do you as a man or even if I was a woman. Just give me a place and time to be there.

 

[StudMuffinLondon]

Starfish - apologies for upsetting you with my opinion without considering that you too have an opinion - which I accept.

I guess Shy Tall Guy got the gist of what I was trying to convey only he did it far better than me.

It's just in these so called liberated days, where people are considered adult enough to make up their own minds about things, there are still too many people willing and eager to condemn certain sexual behaviour as being wrong - without ever having any experience to base their prejudices on. (No Starfish I am NOT referring to you). I too caught the mood of SS when she said 'it was OK, but I dont think I will do it again'. As STG so eloquently put it.....she was only able to base that on a factual experience leading to an informed decision.

Take care and be happy in whatever you choose to do.

 

[Starfish]

That's cool. I am not really offended, I just don't really think of anyone as wrong so to speak, when conveying an opinion, but that is obviously not really the issue, and not a problem here.

I can understand that someone may think that I was condeming, when in fact I was only encouraging a healtiher approach to the matter, than it seemed that SS was taking on it.

Hey, Lick away, I say.... if you dig it. Can you dig it?


Hey, BR, get over here and fuck me.... NOW! Our friends want to watch and I want to participate. You?

 

[batter]

Oh, what should I do? It's every man's fantasy, and I tried ti a couple nights ago, as a favor to my friends I was with. It was all right, but I'm not so sure I want to do it again, even to give the guy I'm sort of dating a thrill.

first of all, i think you were brave to go through with it. not everyone would have done it. dont feel embarrased or guilty about having done it.
your comment of "it was alll right but i'm not sure i want to do it again, event to give the guy i'm sort of dating a thrill" says it all.
it obviously didnt rock your world.
my wife tried it a year ago as well and had the same reaction as you. it didnt do anything for her, in fact, she didnt really enjoy it as much as i or our female friend. she just chocked it up as one of lifes experiences.
i would agree with cymbidia as well. i respect her knowledge and that of starfish as well. if you are not comfortable doing something that doesnt feel right....dont do it.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I know everybody is different, but it's so hard for me to understand how anybody can resist the female body!

Women are so soft and sensuous. They hold so many mysteries within their bodies and their souls.

I love the feel of a woman's soft shape next to me in bed. Her skin, her lips, her hair.

The swell of her belly and hips. That beautiful dip at the base of her spine before her ass starts to curve up.

Breasts! So soft and pliable. Nipples so sensitive to the touch, swelling beneith my fingers as I pinch them.

That sweet, sweet fruit between her legs. Puffy outer lips, silky and delicate inner. Wetness and sex scent overcoming my senses.

Women. *sigh*

Ruby

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Damn it Ruby!!! You are trying to turn me on!!

Stop teasing THE TEASE. I can only handle so much. lol


kgboot

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: Damn it Ruby!!! You are trying to turn me on!!

Stop teasing THE TEASE. I can only handle so much

I forgot to mention that spot where her thighs meet her lovely ass. How you have the choice of moving your hand up and over her ass, or down into the hidden valley between her legs.

Moist and hot, it almost seems as if she could be on fire as you touch her in her sweet spot.

Ruby

 

[Siren]

 

[Rubyfruit]

If we did sexual things because they only please us then there would be a lot of frustrated sexual partners out there...

I completely agree with you STG.

Sexual exploration isn't just something you do alone, on your own time. It frequently involves being open to input from other people, lovers.

Being open does not equal being led down a path not of your desire. Most people will not do things that go against their moral code or even something that is unappealing.

In being open to a lover's suggestion, we are being open to ourselves.

Ruby

 

[Sabineteas]

Been listening and thinking

I have read all of this stuff and I really don't know what to think. I have been with three female friends in my life. Once was a lark a game. Twice we were sort of loaded. So I have never really gone into a female/female thing with my eyes open completely.

Now having said that I do not believe "If it feels good, do it"

Or "Do it to make me happy."

Or any of that kind of stuff. If two people consent, then the good or bad of the act is up to them. Obviously the partner did not help Sexy. Or the partners I should say.

I still have some repressed feelings and guilt about sexuality so all this was hard for me to say.

Sexy, inn some sense the goodness of what you did was partly up to you. Not saying it was your fault or problem, but take some responsibility.

I also heard here that if it was with the right woman, it would be different. That I will agree with entirely.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

We do not choose who we love - love chooses us.







Now, who was it that said that? Perhaps me? Perhaps someone else? No matter

 

[Rubyfruit]

We do not choose who we love - love chooses us.

So true, Madame.

Ruby