My first ever thread. How do you deal with sexual mystique?

[Guest]

As I said this is the first thread I've started. Please forgive me if it's not one that suits all of you.

What I was wondering is, do you ever get so drawn to someone, there seems to be something about them, something you can't put your finger on, but they have you in their grasp, so much so that you just have to get to know them better?

You sit and wonder how to approach them, you are shy and yet they are very well liked and respected. Then they contact you, and you find that they are perfect, everything they say or do is what you are drawn too. You are able to open up to them straight away, tell them things that you've never told anyone, or share things with them that you've only shared with a selected few.

Has this happened to anyone else at all? How did you deal with it and did you like what you saw? Do you think it's too good to be true or do you enjoy it while it lasts?

I've just met and am getting to know someone that has caught my eye, and I haven't felt this alive in months now ... Thank-you to that person.

I just wonder how others deal with a situation like this?

Again sorry if this doesn't suit everyone or has been done before.

 

[Innocencefound]

Shit, Damn, Fuck ... That was me everyone.

I'm gonna go change my settings I think LOL.

 

[Guest]

yep sure have

 

[pabloback]

sounds like love at first sight to me ? is that what you mean ?

 

[Innocencefound]

No, because there is no way of knowing what this person is like inside, you have to know a person before you can love, also I don't believe in love at first sight, sorry but I don't.

I mean that no matter what they say you are guided to them, but you don't really know what they are like because they don't open up enough for you to know that just yet, there is just "something" there, something that makes you feel as closeness to this person.

I dunno really what I'm asking, I just know that if you feel to shy to talk to someone, but they draw you in ... write to them, or talk to them, build up the courage to do that, you might be pleasantly surprised. I know I was and am

 

[Guest]

A feeling that everytime their name pops up online... or they post something... you feel compelled to look or just type 'Hi' That no matter what they say... it just seems as if they have touched your soul. Your face flushes when they say something nice about you.... you ache with the need to touch them....... just to feel that they are real underneath your hand...



ooooooh wait... I am blubbering hehe

 

[april-wine]

sure do know what you are talking about....you just can't get enough, just want to spend every moment possible with them....

 

[Innocencefound]

No, your not.

Your words were exactly what I was looking for, so I'm not the only one then

Thanks Jaded, you just let me know that I'm not alone. I haven't felt this way for so long, and it feels sooooooooo good too.

 

[Guest]

you are welcome..

just letting go of some of my own thoughts

 

[Innocencefound]

Okay Jaded, now could you tell me what you do when you loose that feeling for someone?

How do you let go? It hurts too much to cut all ties, but how do you let go?

 

[Guest]

its sad...

but you just let go... you cut all ties.. and if you have to... all forms of communication.... it hurts... but then it heals.

 

[Mustang Sally]

Oh yes, it hurts so much...

 

[Innocencefound]

I agree Sally, but right now I'm sick of being walked all over by people.

Pain gives pleasure right?

Who really knows, all I do know is that I've had the best day today talking to someone new and finding out that I can be happy, even if only for one day.

So to that person that has made me feel good today, again Thank-you.

 

[april-wine]

innocencefound

sometimes walking away is the hardest thing, but you have to worry about your own happiness....cut all ties if you must, and get out there and explore, be happy, have fun

 

[Lord Wolf]

The French have a term for it ; "Un Coup de Foudre" although the term I like best, which matches it as far as men are concerned, is "cunt-struck". Having been a victim of this phenomenon and the scars to prove it, my advice would be to walk, if not run, away.

I sometimes think it is really a case of convergent pathologies, and to be avoided at all costs.

But I'm cynical.

 

[Renegade]

Innocencefound

It looks like you've been given some good advice and that you know what to do about things now. Not really much I can add but to say good luck and that I hope things turn out for the best for the both of you. *Hugs*

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

The French have a term for it ; "Un Coup de Foudre" although the term I like best, which matches it as far as men are concerned, is "cunt-struck". Having been a victim of this phenomenon and the scars to prove it, my advice would be to walk, if not run, away.

I think a nicer way to describe the phenomena is infatuation. It is important to be very careful while experiencing such emotions, at least until infatuation grows to either true love, disillusionment, or the simple realization that you are not as compatible as you initially thought you might be.

Infatuation feels good, but it can lead you to do very stupid things if you go too fast.

If you run away every time you are infatuated with someone you are going to be giving up a lot of opportunities to enter into a loving relationship.

STG

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I like to refer to it as intrigue. You go with it, not knowing where it's going to lead and how the mystery unfolds...

I think intrigue comes before infatuation (if infatuation is ever involved) - to me it says you are interested in someone. The way "Un Coup de Foudre" was described it sounded more along the lines of a stronger emotion like infatuation - an emotional state where a person could make mistakes, or not, depending on their control.

STG