mutual masterbation

[BigJay136]

My wife is fairly reserved and will occasionally masterbate for me when requested, but it usually takes some alcohol to get her to do it for me. I would like to have a mutual masterbation session with her, but am unsure how she would respond to me masterbating for her while she simulatenously masterbates for me.

Any suggestions on how to accomplish this?

 

[Limbhugger]

Masturbation is a very personal thing, especially for women.

Has she ever watched you masturbate? Did she enjoy it if she has?

My suggestions would be:

Make her feel utmost comfortable.

Be sensuous and pleasing in foreplay. Explore her body and talk to her in subtle sexy tones. Not nasty and dirty. Just whisper how her body excites you and the thought of her pleasing herself excites you. If she wants nasty and dirty you'll know and can go from there.

Tell her how you fantasize about her when she isn't there and you touch yourself. If the two of you enjoy it, you can describe your other fatansies as well.

The key is to seduce her mind. Work on her mind and forget your cock and see where that gets you.

I love mutual masturbation but my wife will almost always require me to enter her before she is done. Now that may be after the first orgasm or after just depends. She also loves to watch me stroke myself.

 

[BigJay136]

No, she has never seen me masterbate. This is why I am unsure on how to approach the situation. I love watching her touch herslef, and it is such a turn on. I would like to return the favor for her, but I am unsure how she would react.

What is the general consensus among the ladies? Do you prefer to watch your man stroke it for you? If so, were your mutual masterbation session inititated the first time?

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

well said limb

 

[delitednu]

I love it!

Watching my husband masturbate is such a turn on. I love doing it together matching my moves to his as I play with myself. The sights and sounds are wonderful.
Maybe as you are watching her you could rub yourself slightly when she looks at you and see how she responds?

 

[Vixandra]

I've watched hubby "spank the monkey" though that's normally when I'm too sick/sore/tired to want it myself but still want to watch him get off.
He's watched me masturbate before- lotsa fun.

 

[wornoutkeyboard]

No, she has never seen me masterbate. This is why I am unsure on how to approach the situation. I love watching her touch herslef, and it is such a turn on. I would like to return the favor for her, but I am unsure how she would react.

What is the general consensus among the ladies? Do you prefer to watch your man stroke it for you? If so, were your mutual masterbation session inititated the first time?

Hmmm.... I can't remember the first time with my husband... but I am a pretty upfront person. If I want you to stick ur finger in my ass... I'll ask the first time and not wait until you get around to deciding it was your idea.

Anyhoo... I absolutely love to watch my husband (and men in general) jerk off. A very resounding "Hell Ya!". I often get off thinking about a guy or my husband jerking off.

I think that as far as advice.... limbhugger was right on the mark with his answer so I have nothing to add on that note.

Best of luck.

~WOK (Who wishes her greatest sexual obstacle was getting Mr. WOK to jerk it for her)

 

[Limbhugger]

If I want you to stick ur finger in my ass... I'll ask the first time and not wait until you get around to deciding it was your idea.

Just you know, leaving my fingers lying about. Just sitting there, you know, doing nothing. Juts in case, you know anything just happens to spring to mind. You know? hehe

~WOK (Who wishes her greatest sexual obstacle was getting Mr. WOK to jerk it for her)

Now that's funny!

 

[vV SexKitten Vv]

I love masturbating in front of my bf, I find it very erotic to know he's watching me and is completely aroused by what I'm doing. We also play this little mirror game, where I move my hands to certain places of my body and he has to do the same. Of course it would be easier if he had a vagina Does she know how much you love it? Maybe if you told her that she looks incredibly beautiful and erotic when she does it, she won't feel so reserved. If you are into trying new things and experimenting with different methods of arousal.. Maybe you should try the little mirror thing. I find it a HUGE turn on to watch my man stroke it. The way my bf got me so open to it is.. he was honest with me.. he told me that he thought it would be beautiful to watch me pleasure myself and that he would find it extremely arousing to have a mutual masturbation session. It was very very intimate. Masturbation can be a really private thing for some people. Just add a couple groans and pleasurable facial expressions... and she would HAVE to find you sexy

 

[quickfoot]

My wife took a long time to be open enough to let me watch her masturbate.

She is 8 years older than me but was not accustomed to being in an environment where people did that.

I on the other hand have no problem masturbating in front of her and she really likes it, it is an instant way of setting the mood.

I was patient with her, she would masturbate under the covers next to me eventually and then with the covers lower and eventually she just let go and enjoyed it and didn't worry about me watching her, especially since she either had her eyes closed or was watching me.

We enjoy mutual masturbation now, it is fun when neither one of us feel like a huge production but is still a way to share a lot of intimacy.

Honest, communication and patience, she needs to come to terms with it and the enjoyment of it

BTW I love watching her and helping as well :-D it is a very very fun activity.

 

[Mardoba]

I love doing this too with my guys. Lots of fun

 

[Lust Engine]

Mmmmm...mutual masterbation! it strikes oh-so-close to the heart with me!

Not only does it accomodate my inner need to be an exhibitionist but it also lets me be the voyeur all at once. I've said it before, but there's nothing that looks hotter than a woman orgasming. And if she's as interested in seeing me get off as much as I am with her, then it's ALLLL good!

One of the best thrills I can honestly remember is showing off to one another with mirrors. Somehow seeing yourself engaging in those acts can be quite the thrill too. Damn, I gotta get a digital camera soon.

 

[N8Dreams]

You should test it. Its a most arousing game.
All my bf liked and honored if I did in front of them.
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[crazybbwgirl]

I love watching my lover touch himself. Its hot. I think the first time he did was while I was giving him a little 'show' of my own. Stripped down to a gstring and started touching myself. He was sitting on the floor watching and just starting jerking off while watching me. God - its incredibly sexy watching him get off while watching me!

 

[stutterclutter]

Who doesn't get off watching their partner orgasm without having to break a sweat? I love when a girl lets me watch as she makes herself cum. Sometimes I'll join in at the right time, and add some kisses or bites just to put her over the edge.

Another thing that I love is just when she's made herself cum, I slide inside her so I can feel her spasms grip on to my cock. Then if she's the kind of girl that's not too sensitive, and can handle more, I'll go at it.

 

[Bobmi357]

Watching your partner masturbate can be a powerfully erotic thing. My problem is I don't want to watch, I WANT TO DO!

Given a choice between watching and doing, doing wins everytime.

However one variation on a theme is a mutual hand job game. The idea here is to stimulate your partner, but at the same time they are doing you. The hard part here is to try to keep each other on the edge of cuming for as long as possible.

 

[Lust Engine]

Watching your partner masturbate can be a powerfully erotic thing. My problem is I don't want to watch, I WANT TO DO!

But that's what adds to the mutual thrill! Being literally able to keep your hands (and other appendages) off is part of the allure.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

And if you're unable to comply - there's always handcuffs!

 

[someplace]

One of the hottest sessions I ever had with a former lover was following a wild time of fucking. God I miss that man and the things we did to each other....

I was still very turned on and we both liked playing with his cum afterwards, rubbing it around, tasting it as we kissed, sharing it...it was very sensual. Anyway, I just got more turned on and began masterbating for him. He got up and sat on his knees between my legs for a better view. There was much talking going on also, with each of us describing how good it felt, how much the other turned us on, etc. He started stroking his cock while watching me. That was an incredible turn on for me. Each thing fed the other and it was very sexy. In the end, we were both very close and he said he just "HAD" to be inside me. He leaned forward and plunged into me hard and deep and fast, right as we both came. It was amazing!

 

[A7inchPhildo]

No, she has never seen me masterbate. This is why I am unsure on how to approach the situation. I love watching her touch herslef, and it is such a turn on. I would like to return the favor for her, but I am unsure how she would react.

Next time she is puting on a show for you. Being fairly subtle allow her to see just how much you are being turned on. I would think you would know fairly fast if she is enjoying your display of excitement or not. Just feel the situation, don't be overly aggresive until you are sure she is liking it.

 

[jpschust]

one of my favorite times started as a mutual masturbatory session, but it did not end that way half way through she decided she didnt want me playing with myself (she wanted to be in control of me) so she sat on my chest kind of pinning my arms down with her knees and proceeded to masturbate on my chest. all i could do was watch and smell, just too far out of reach to taste

 

[Scarlett_t2]

I was very very shy at frist to share this part of myself with my husband. I honestly didn't think me touching myself would be such a turn on for him. But one day he walked in and could tell what i was doing. I stopped immeditaly but he told me not to and pulled the covers back to watch. I was a bit nervous at first but was on the edge so I continued.He reached in his jeans and pulled out a raging hard on. The sight of him touching himself to the site of me touching myself was out of this world. I got so turned on. I had never thought about sharing this special part of myself but I'm glad I did. If he would of never told me we could of gone on and missed out on an amazing aspect of our sexual relationship. I love to watch him stroke himself. I love to hear the little noises he makes...Now we do all kinds of varations to this theme and I love them all.
S

 

[Limbhugger]

I was very very shy at frist to share this part of myself with my husband. I honestly didn't think me touching myself would be such a turn on for him. But one day he walked in and could tell what i was doing. I stopped immeditaly but he told me not to and pulled the covers back to watch. I was a bit nervous at first but was on the edge so I continued.He reached in his jeans and pulled out a raging hard on. The sight of him touching himself to the site of me touching myself was out of this world. I got so turned on. I had never thought about sharing this special part of myself but I'm glad I did. If he would of never told me we could of gone on and missed out on an amazing aspect of our sexual relationship. I love to watch him stroke himself. I love to hear the little noises he makes...Now we do all kinds of varations to this theme and I love them all.
S

Amen Sweet Scarlett. And here's to wishing many more wonderfully exciting explorations and revelations between you and your oh so fortunate lover.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

One of the hottest things my husband can do for me is jack off in front of me. I absolutely love watching him and usually wind up with my hand in my pussy begging him to cum all over my tits

 

[*~sekzee1~*]

omg..the first time my partner jacked off in front of me was mind blowing. Baring in mind i had been told as i grew up that touching yourself was jsut not acceptable at all!! I had not touched myself until about 2 years ago now. What was i missing!?!?!?!?! HEAPS. Mutual masturbation is awesome, it brought my partner & i together in ways that i can not explain. You have to be secure in your relationship i think before you can try to alter it in anyway sexually. Since our mutual masturbation we have done it on many occassions since or he has performed for my pleasure & vice versa.

I would agree with the approach of trying to touch yourself when she is masturbating for you & see how it all goes from there.

Good Luck