Mutual Fantasies?

[SEVERUSMAX]

Having heard Bill Maher last night claim that there are no "Mutual Fantasies" between men and women, I had to ask....have you had any....

I have some in common with my girl....but maybe it's because we're not normal at all.
They are mostly about things considered taboo or things that are illegal. Or our common kinks....

So I'm a little skeptical of Bill Maher's sweeping claim that there are no mutual fantasies.

 

[zeb1094]

My wife has told me she has no fantasies. I know she must be fibbing in order to not hurt my feelings even though I have told her it wouldn't bother me, whatever they happen to be. She still won't budge.

So I told her mine. She didn't get upset by them so I must assume that she has thought about situations like that in the past.

 

[Honey123]

My wife has told me she has no fantasies. I know she must be fibbing in order to not hurt my feelings even though I have told her it wouldn't bother me, whatever they happen to be. She still won't budge.

So I told her mine. She didn't get upset by them so I must assume that she has thought about situations like that in the past.

I asked my husband the same thing ~ he told me I am his fantasy...(Bullshit?? maybe..)

He didn't ask me...I didn't tell him....I think he would think I was weird.

I'm not weird...I'm just extremely sexual...

 

[Angel Love]

Mmmmmmm fantacies. I think that men and women can have the same fantacies. I didn't have many while I was with my husband. Maybe because I was stagnated about sex with him. Oh but now that I'm separted . . . blushes. I'm just full of fantacies now!! That one about having two very handsome men in my Chance Encounter 2 story. Yes that is a very BIG one of mine!!

 

[Honey123]

Mmmmmmm fantacies. I think that men and women can have the same fantacies. I didn't have many while I was with my husband. Maybe because I was stagnated about sex with him. Oh but now that I'm separted . . . blushes. I'm just full of fantacies now!! That one about having two very handsome men in my Chance Encounter 2 story. Yes that is a very BIG one of mine!!

Nice plug!!!

 

[Selena_Kitt]

we have some common fantasies... similar kinks...

and dissimilar ones, too...

and some fantasies we play for the other because they like it so much, and they're so turned on that we get turned on, too... if that makes sense...

 

[zeb1094]

I asked my husband the same thing ~ he told me I am his fantasy...(Bullshit?? maybe..)

He didn't ask me...I didn't tell him....I think he would think I was weird.

I'm not weird...I'm just extremely sexual...

My fantasies all revolve around my wife, or use to. Up until a year ago she was always the main charactor in my fantasies. They did however involve other people that would interact with us as a couple. Both male and female.

Although none have come true, , I don't really know if I would want them too.

 

[Honey123]

My fantasies all revolve around my wife, or use to. Up until a year ago she was always the main charactor in my fantasies. They did however involve other people that would interact with us as a couple. Both male and female.

Although none have come true, , I don't really know if I would want them too.

Well we had talked about a threesome ~ he would only do a FMF ~ but he also said that it would be difficult for him watch me and another woman.

 

[Angel Love]

Nice plug!!!

LOL....thanks sweetie.

 

[zeb1094]

Well we had talked about a threesome ~ he would only do a FMF ~ but he also said that it would be difficult for him watch me and another woman.

My wife didn't say anything when I mentioned threesomes. Well she did say one thing, 'Which woman?'

When I told her 'No another guy.', she laughed and said 'Here I thought you just wanted to get into another womans pants.'

 

[alice_underneath]

Having heard Bill Maher last night claim that there are no "Mutual Fantasies" between men and women, I had to ask....have you had any....

I have some in common with my girl....but maybe it's because we're not normal at all.
They are mostly about things considered taboo or things that are illegal. Or our common kinks....

So I'm a little skeptical of Bill Maher's sweeping claim that there are no mutual fantasies.

I did not see Maher last night, but I think you are asking a great question here.

A while ago, Pure started a thread with the title: "Feminization in America?"

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=401901&page=6&pp=25

Post #145 on that page is the following:

The more you learn about the depths of people's fantasies; the stranger and more comvoluted the whole thing becomes. I may enjoy coming on a woman's face (taking the example above) because I enjoy objectifying and humiliating her and she may very well enjoy the idea of humiliation; but when you probe into WHY she likes it and how she sees it and what it means to her, you probably end up very far away from why I like it.

Perhaps this could be what Maher is getting at. Even if the fantasy seems technically similar, the essence of what's going on in the person's head might differ considerably.

A few posts down, my response to Mr. R. was:

Yet another of your fantasies, Mr. Rathbone, which technically mirrors my own.

I have no idea if I would feel humiliated if a guy actually did this to me. (To date, no one has.) But the appeal for me in Fantasyland has nothing to do with humiliation.

First of all, the visual of a guy's eruption is something that I just love to watch. I don't know why, but I consider it a fascinating and overwhelmingly erotic display. Part of the appeal might be that it's like a standing ovation - visible, absolute proof that I have done a great job pleasing the guy and he really, really appreciates my efforts.

I also think of ejaculation on the face as a primitive & very erotic way for a guy to mark me as his own.... kinda like my dog peeing on the perimeter of our yard.

Could this be the type of distinction that Maher was talking about?

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Well, in some ways, but he was largely pigeonholing men and women. I think that the men and women here would have him confused, since there is a great deal of variety in sexual tastes, kinks, and such. He might be right about a lot of them, but he fails to consider exceptions. But he is usually half right and half wrong about things, which is why I find him entertaining and worth watching most of the time. One minute I am agreeing with him and the next I am firmly disagreeing. Come to think of it, in that way, he reminds me of you guys.

I am curious as to why exactly Honey thinks that her husband would think that she is weird. That is the 2nd time that she has said something along those lines. I am just curious. It explains a lot of things, though. Oh, well, no one here thinks she is weird, I know that. She can mention them here, although that doesn't help her with acting on them. Though I suspect that she has already consigned them to permanently unfulfilled fantasies. Which works for some people. But I am just being nosy. Not meaning to pick on her, but I am curious about that issue.

 

[Honey123]

I am curious as to why exactly Honey thinks that her husband would think that she is weird. That is the 2nd time that she has said something along those lines. I am just curious. It explains a lot of things, though. Oh, well, no one here thinks she is weird, I know that. She can mention them here, although that doesn't help her with acting on them. Though I suspect that she has already consigned them to permanently unfulfilled fantasies. Which works for some people. But I am just being nosy. Not meaning to pick on her, but I am curious about that issue.

He is very much a "meat and potatoes"man...He doesn't deviate. He doesn't know about my writings either...

I don't feel picked on and it doesn't upset me that you are being nosy or questioning what I said. I said it out in the open...so I understand that some people would be curious.

I post here, because I KNOW no one here would think I am weird. We are all part of the same mold in a way....we are all sexual people who consider Lit an outlet.

 

[Angel Love]

He is very much a "meat and potatoes"man...He doesn't deviate. He doesn't know about my writings either...

I don't feel picked on and it doesn't upset me that you are being nosy or questioning what I said. I said it out in the open...so I understand that some people would be curious.

I post here, because I KNOW no one here would think I am weird. We are all part of the same mold in a way....we are all sexual people who consider Lit an outlet.

Here here Sweetie. I know exactly what you mean too. Before coming to Lit i repressed a lot of my inner feelings toward sex and my fantasies. I don't know if it was because I thought my hubby would not understand or if it was simply because I did not feel that way about him. All I know is when I found Lit my sensuality was reborn and I am much happier now. Lit brought me out of a deep depression and allowed me to find me again.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

He is very much a "meat and potatoes"man...He doesn't deviate. He doesn't know about my writings either...

I don't feel picked on and it doesn't upset me that you are being nosy or questioning what I said. I said it out in the open...so I understand that some people would be curious.

I post here, because I KNOW no one here would think I am weird. We are all part of the same mold in a way....we are all sexual people who consider Lit an outlet.

True. My SO obviously DOES know about my stories and my lifestyle, but my family doesn't- none of them. My father is an ordained Baptist minister. I doubt that I could tell him that. My brother is more liberal, except about homosexuality, which he still finds abhorrent. My sister is so conservative that she makes my dad think her a little extreme. And my mother is somewhere between my dad and my sister in her sexual ethics.

Glad that you didn't mistake it for being mean-spirited or picking on you. After all, I think that everyone here likes you.

 

[angelicminx]

Here here Sweetie. I know exactly what you mean too. Before coming to Lit i repressed a lot of my inner feelings toward sex and my fantasies. I don't know if it was because I thought my hubby would not understand or if it was simply because I did not feel that way about him. All I know is when I found Lit my sensuality was reborn and I am much happier now. Lit brought me out of a deep depression and allowed me to find me again.

Amen and hallelujah, sistah!

I repressed who I really was too. I thought there was something wrong with me.

I had bouts of depression and what I thought was just normal unhappiness, being in a rut- so to speak. I began a serious episode with depression about 3 or 4 years ago. I'd hit a high point in my life. My sexual urges were "under control". I was volunteering- Girl Scout Leader, PTO President, assisting in the classroom, etc.- I was HAPPY. Then it all changed.

My husband was angry with me for spending so much time away from home. It didn't matter that I was spending the time bettering our child's life, or my own life. It didn't matter that the majority of the time spent was while he was at work. There were a couple of weeks in September that year, and again in March the following year, that I spent alot of evenings away from home (never overnight, that wasn't allowed) and he went off on the whole bit, so I quit. I quit everything.

It wasn't financially feasible at the time to go to work, so I stayed at home. We bought a computer (with settlement money from a serious car accident I had). I taught myself how to use and repair it. I found online communities. People, real live people, to talk to.

I began opening up to people I met online, in chat or playing poker. I could be ME, anonymously. One of the men I met playing poker sent me to Lit because of my "cyber skills" and it opened up a whole new world for me.

I finally opened up to my ex-husband and he told me I was a freak. It wasn't long after I found Lit that I asked for a divorce.

Anyway, I'm now with a man (whom I met online ), who does share my fantasies...and I share his.

OMG...I'm sorry, y'all. I didn't mean to threadjack. <Hiding in the corner...embarrassed>

 

[Angel Love]

Amen and hallelujah, sistah!

I repressed who I really was too. I thought there was something wrong with me.

I had bouts of depression and what I thought was just normal unhappiness, being in a rut- so to speak. I began a serious episode with depression about 3 or 4 years ago. I'd hit a high point in my life. My sexual urges were "under control". I was volunteering- Girl Scout Leader, PTO President, assisting in the classroom, etc.- I was HAPPY. Then it all changed.

My husband was angry with me for spending so much time away from home. It didn't matter that I was spending the time bettering our child's life, or my own life. It didn't matter that the majority of the time spent was while he was at work. There were a couple of weeks in September that year, and again in March the following year, that I spent alot of evenings away from home (never overnight, that wasn't allowed) and he went off on the whole bit, so I quit. I quit everything.

It wasn't financially feasible at the time to go to work, so I stayed at home. We bought a computer (with settlement money from a serious car accident I had). I taught myself how to use and repair it. I found online communities. People, real live people, to talk to.

I began opening up to people I met online, in chat or playing poker. I could be ME, anonymously. One of the men I met playing poker sent me to Lit because of my "cyber skills" and it opened up a whole new world for me.

I finally opened up to my ex-husband and he told me I was a freak. It wasn't long after I found Lit that I asked for a divorce.

Anyway, I'm now with a man (whom I met online ), who does share my fantasies...and I share his.
OMG...I'm sorry, y'all. I didn't mean to threadjack. <Hiding in the corner...embarrassed>

Smiling softly . . . I think it is wonderful that you can express yourself. Too many people repress their feelings for a lifetime. I'm thankful to all of my Lit friends for allowing me to express mine here and in chat.

I'm happy that you found yourself as I have. I won't go into gorey details about me life, but let me say that the Internet, along with a deep seeded desire to live....saved my life in more ways than five.

If you ever feel a need to chat, please don't hesitate to pm me. Huggggles to all for listening to our epiphanies . . . smiles.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I was just reading in the tabs gossip pages that Bill Maher is fucking a 20something black starlet chick who calls him "Daddy" and says that he's the hands-down best she ever had. Go Bill. The guy is a perv, no doubt about it.