Moving on. is it rebound??

[Armygirl]

well it has been one week. since he called it off.
i am already trying to move on.
i got this new guy maby well go out hope so
i was way into him on halloween night (no i did not sleep with him)

our friends were trying to set us up!
cuse both our other halfs were treating us like poo..

so what do you people think im i rebounding or just moving on?

Army

 

[SuthrnKit10]

Can't say without knowing a little more about the previous relationship ... but if you're comfortable, go with it. Only you know for sure.

Personally, I've done the rebound thing ... REALLY BAD IDEA, and completely unfair to the poor guy I chose, but I think deep inside I even knew from the start, there was always a bit of an awkwardness (is that even a word?).

But then again, recently out of a six year relationship, so I'm a bit burned ... not sure about plunging right back into the fire if ya know what I mean!

 

[LukkyKnight]

one week?

Probably still rebounding, IMHO, but what's the big deal? When you get knocked down you can either slump and mope, or you can bounce back.

It's cruel to take advantage of somebody knowing they are on the rebound. It's bad to go out with somebody "new" without realizing you may not be over the previous person yet, so you may do things that have more to do with history than the person you're out with...

It takes a while to let go of a relationship - how long is impossible to calculate, but the process requires a grieving, a letting go... and then a moving on to enjoy life and other people. Seeing somebody while you're still rebounding isn't bad, it just requires being aware and being up front with them.

 

[MissTaken]

Rebounding???

I believe the idea of "rebounding" is vastly overrated. If you are ready to get out and date and have a good time, GO FOR IT !

If you are going to date someone and the date is in anyway connected to the slug who dumped you, then, it is probably not a good idea. That is to say, if you are thinking in terms of making the slug jealous or find yourself thinking only about the slug while on the date, this may not have been a great idea.

Obviously too, your friends saw the writing on the wall, in a manner of speaking. Look ahead and never behind! (Well, unless there is some wonderful guy doing you from way back there! )

Bottom line: Life is short, so get out and live a little! Have good time and only take on what you are comfortable with.

Take care

 

[Armygirl]

thank you all that is a relife

Army

 

[Desertroot]

Rebound? Maybe, maybe not. I say just go out with him and have a good time. Don't even think about sex, just go out and have a good time. Me personally, i usually spend a little time before i get back into a relationship and after a break up I don't get sexually active for a while. Smooching and kissing is ok but you have to have strong will power not to let it get "further" for at least a while.

I mean if i'm dating again (and you can date without having sex, lets think romance here!) after a breakup and I really like the woman, I'll wait. I'll wait till whatever emotions I had for my ex is out of my system so I see my new "love" interest as she should be seen, completely seperate from any sins that my ex had committed so i don;t project them on her. Hey, she deserves a fair shot.

Hey this works for me, it may not work for you. Prepare accordingly. This is not a dress rehearsal.

Desertroot