Motivation for Trying New things

[the_pet]

Greetings All


I was going to make a poll but said fuck it because i didn't want to leave out any options i hadn't considered.

What motivates you to experiment with new activities, for example if you had never experimented with (insert your kink here).... play, what motivated you to try it....

was it boredom with the level of previous play?
just because it's fun to experiment?
the other person's persistent (as in you'd never suggest anything, too shy)?
personal agenda?
etc.
etc.
etc. you get the picture

I thank you in advance for your comments.

pet

 

[BiBunny]

Most of the time, we try new things because one or both of us wants to experiment. I don't consider myself a total n00b to this lifestyle anymore, but B. is still way more experienced than I am. So sometimes we do new things just because he wants to introduce me to them. I don't think I've ever been bored with our level of play.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

one word...

curiosity

 

[MasterPhoenix]

BEcuase I like to experiment and to try new things. I also like pushing the boundaries of what she can take, and finding new ways to introduce sensations.

Besides if it was all the same, may as well be 'nilla... LOL

 

[Chicklet]

Besides if it was all the same, may as well be 'nilla... LOL

Exactly!

 

[catalina_francisco]

I wouldn't say we do it as a means of experimenting as it is always motivated by something which turns one or both of us on to think about, reaches a point where we are no longer wanting to restrict it to our personal or joint fantasies, and so then take the plunge out of need. It has been a good guide as it has rarely lead us into areas where we found it didn't work for us simply because the desire for the act was already there, not the desire to try something/anything new for the sake of experimenting or relieving boredom.

Catalina

 

[SweetCherry]

BEcuase I like to experiment and to try new things. I also like pushing the boundaries of what she can take, and finding new ways to introduce sensations.

Besides if it was all the same, may as well be 'nilla... LOL

That sounds pretty much right on...except I like to be the one who gets pushed. *nods*

 

[WriterDom]

Because it's fun to push the envelope. Why be kinky if you aren't willing to experiment?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Because it's fun to push the envelope. Why be kinky if you aren't willing to experiment?

Couldn't agree more!

 

[myinnerslut]

i want to know what it feels like, i dont want to miss out on something i like, and im curious as hell

 

[Sukebe221]

The thrill, and knowing it will please Him.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

The loss of old things?

Do I sound a tad bitter today?

d

 

[PrimalGirl]

Because life is too short for "Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda"

 

[the_pet]

I'm curious myself also and like to try new things.

Thanks for the replies.


pet

 

[the_pet]

The loss of old things?

Do I sound a tad bitter today?

d

Hope you're feeling less bitter soon.

 

[graceanne]

Depends. Quite often it's cause I'm a sucker and have trouble saying no to K.

 

[FurryFury]

I love to try things, not just sexually but generally risk taking things make me feel like ME. As in, not like someone's daughter or wife or mother but ME. A few seconds in free fall or something of that ilk and I'm free of everything and everyone, just being me and free.

Which is not exactly the same as sexual things. Those things generally but not always involve someone else. I want it that way most of the time but it's a different dynamic for me. His pleasure is always my first concern. If it weren't, we would have done a LOT more by now, just to fulfill my adventurous side a bit more.

Of course to even care about any of that stuff I have to feel decent. So God knows I've not been pushing for any adventures lately. How fucking sad is that?

Fury

 

[graceanne]

I actually don't usually seek out new things to try. Sometimes I do, but I'm very much a creature of habit. I find comfort in routine. On the other hand K's very spontaneous(sp?). We balance eachother really well - he keeps me from getting boring, and I keep him from doing anything really stupid.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmm, I admit to being slightly confused as I read the original question to be in relation to kink activities, not our lives in general, so that is how I originally answered, but it seems most are addressing it as an overall so I will add to my former comment. I have a long history of trying new things and always going where many fear to tread in terms of life challenges and getting things done. Variety is the spice of life after all and being Gemini adds insatiable curiosity to that mix. That being said, I still do not see myself either in kink or life in general as someone who jumps on things just for the sake of saying I am into experimenting and trying new things, or to say I have done it. There has to be a reason for me to do anything, usually desire or interest, sometimes practical need as boring as that may seem initially. I guess I have enough things to experiment with which I want to and which keep me more than busy (I have a list as long as my arm of things I have yet to get to and which don't even touch on the kink items) to warrant just experimenting for the sake of experimenting without any real interest before the event....LOL, I find enough fun just through following my instincts without adding random choices which don't spark any interest for me on any front.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/217/468719399_67639576ea_s.jpg Catalina

 

[chun_gong]

Generally with everything in life:
Well, i'm the adventurous, curious, eager type. So that sets the stage for experimentation up front. In addition, i'm not bashful or shy... He knew this when He chose me, i think.

More to the "kink side":
He and i have MANY of the same interests. So, i think he likes to use our mutual interests to test (and push) my limits. It's a creative thing for Him.

i may be a bit presumptuous, but i feel like i am the first to give myself to Him sooo completely. He knows that He is in control and i am His to do with as He pleases. He has 100% freedom, allowing His experimentation and curiosities to be fulfilled. (i'm certain that i will be um, corrected if this is wrong. )

j

 

[the_pet]

Depends. Quite often it's cause I'm a sucker and have trouble saying no to K.

I had to laugh at this one i fall prey to this same predicament as well sometimes...it can be quite comical sometimes when i think, "What the hell have i gotten myself into"!

pet

 

[the_pet]

So God knows I've not been pushing for any adventures lately. How fucking sad is that?

Fury

You're just saving your strength

pet

 

[FurryFury]

You're just saving your strength

pet

Thanks Pet!



I need some fun.

And as I've said before, I often regret more the things I shied away from or didn't try than anything I actually did.

So, I totally need to do more.

Fury

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Greetings All


I was going to make a poll but said fuck it because i didn't want to leave out any options i hadn't considered.

What motivates you to experiment with new activities, for example if you had never experimented with (insert your kink here).... play, what motivated you to try it....

was it boredom with the level of previous play?
just because it's fun to experiment?
the other person's persistent (as in you'd never suggest anything, too shy)?
personal agenda?
etc.
etc.
etc. you get the picture

I thank you in advance for your comments.

pet

A little #1 (boredom), a little #2 (fun) and alot of #4 (personal agenda - want my lover to be wild about our sex life, so I indulge almost anything).