More than one Dom/me???

[lily_pond]

hello Everyone,

Have any subs here sought help and guidance from another Dom/me while your own was unable to see to your training and needs for growth and nurture as a submissive? If so, did the (second) Dom/me offer a collar of protection? Did you or would you take it?

Also,

To the Dom/mes...would You ever offer this to a submissive that was not being all that You saw her to potentially be due to a lack of training and guidance? If so, why? If not, why? How would You feel if Your sub came to You with this sort of proposal? Would You accept another Dom/me to see to the training? Would You allow a collar of protection? Would You release Your sub?


Any thoughts or comments on any part of this would be most appreciated by this curious one...

Be well & safe respectfully,

lily

 

[spankableBelle]

Interesting, my lily...

However, i have only been a sub to a Dom that submitted to a Domme, saying it was a way for Him to try and understand me and help me and our relationship...turns out it was more than that...so, i can't help easy your curiosity here, honey.

i never would do this, though...just not something i could do...

belle

 

[Shadowsdream]

lily_pond

I have trained several subs that were NOT Mine but came to Me at the request of their Dominants...the Dominants personally requested My training.

I would NEVER train a sub that was not Mine who came to Me behind the back of their Dominant. Dishonesty gets My contempt not My training.

Collaring a sub that belongs to another? See above.

If a sub of Mine came to Me asking to be trained by another they would still be hearing the sound of their own voice as the door hit them in the ass.

 

[morninggirl5]

I think i'm very lost here.

Collar of protection? Training collar?


What is the meaning of these various collars?


Personally, a Dom asking me to be trained by another would quickly find me gone. I would view it as a personal rejection of the worst sort.

 

[cymbidia]

Very interesting question, lily, and one i can answer in part, for my life.

My dominant Tex and i were just discussing this issue on the phone tonight. A dear friend to us both, another sub, asked my Master if he would consider taking on the job of training her in some of the advanced basics of our lifestyle. She wants, she says, to learn the "old ways". Since he and i are from the old days and we began our investigation into this lifestyle in the 1970's, we're suited to teach her, so she maintains, how and why we do this BDSM thing the way we do.

There will be no collar offered to our friend, protection or otherwise. Why would one be needed? I suppose if we all lived in a big BDSM enclave and everyone around us was a lifestyler - and barbarians raided into our keep on occasion to steal the lovliest and most well-trained of the subs from under the noses of the outraged dom/mes, then maybe a collar (protection or otherwise) would let the barbarians know whose wrath they were incurring. However, such is the only the stuff of fairy tales (Ooooh! Ahhhh! I like fairy tales like that!) or of BDSM fantasy chat rooms, perhaps.

I'm pretty sure he'll decide to take on the job of doing some more basic training for our friend. And so, i'll be doing my part of it, as well. That is, after all, the way it's always been done, isn't it? We learn from others and then we, in turn, teach what we know to those who are just coming to it. We're a community, though we don't know most of the other community members. Such is the way it's always been for us.

 

[lily_pond]

lily_pond

I have trained several subs that were NOT Mine but came to Me at the request of their Dominants...the Dominants personally requested My training.

I would NEVER train a sub that was not Mine who came to Me behind the back of their Dominant. Dishonesty gets My contempt not My training.

Collaring a sub that belongs to another? See above.

If a sub of Mine came to Me asking to be trained by another they would still be hearing the sound of their own voice as the door hit them in the ass.

Ma'am,

Thank You for Your words of honesty. This one is very curious about many things & this was one.

Be well & safe respectfully,

lily

 

[Ebonyfire]

I never touch a collared (any collar) sub. Never, ever! It is unethical.

Now if the dominant asks for my help...that is another story. But I talk directly to the dominant, not the sub, FIRST.

Eb

hello Everyone,

Have any subs here sought help and guidance from another Dom/me while your own was unable to see to your training and needs for growth and nurture as a submissive? If so, did the (second) Dom/me offer a collar of protection? Did you or would you take it?

Also,

To the Dom/mes...would You ever offer this to a submissive that was not being all that You saw her to potentially be due to a lack of training and guidance? If so, why? If not, why? How would You feel if Your sub came to You with this sort of proposal? Would You accept another Dom/me to see to the training? Would You allow a collar of protection? Would You release Your sub?


Any thoughts or comments on any part of this would be most appreciated by this curious one...

Be well & safe respectfully,

lily

 

[~Dream~]

re; More than one..

I Have went and asked advice for my own personal growth and learning from other DOM/MES,BESIDES MY OWN..
the fact of the matter is I was too stubborn and prideful to go to Master about 'certain things 'cause everything was and still is all so new to me.However He knows when I send out pm's like that ,I get His permission,AND He gets a copy of the pm cause we are both open& honest with each other..

as far as getting a collar of protection' ,who would I supposedly need protected "from" .. my Master? give me a break..if I ever felt 'threatened' in any way at all,it is ALWAYS My" choice to stay in or get out,always..
My collar is NOT a fantasy or 'chat-style" thing to me,I liken it to a wedding band ..it shows the world,'I Am Artful's' His slave and no other's..it's an outward sign to me also that I can keep in my mind and heart ,who really cares for Me and only ME above all others,I wear it with humbleness but also with a great deal of pride...Master doesnt just 'collar' anyone..it's Our vow each to the other...as far as EVER having more than 1 Dom? Not in THIS lifetime...Not ever..I have who I chose,who I need,who completes me..He can handle me just fine..and there is just No way in hell that there is more than 1 Artful,my baby.is unique.and He's all mine