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[frdrcnjohn]

He is wrong about that and he should be ashamed if he even thinks that about you! I believe you are a sweet heart and shoulb be treated as one!You are a beautiful woman and if he does not see that in you he really does have a problem, that is my opinion.

 

[dave001]

Great pictures smallgirl. You have one very sexy little body...

 

[smallgirl]

a shame you didn't know about that side of him before making the commitment.

Well SG, you know we're here.

ummm yeah, i wish there was a "do-over" fairy.

 

[frdrcnjohn]

Now that is a real good idea,going to start looking for one.

 

[tcwild100]

ummm yeah, i wish there was a "do-over" fairy.

Happens to many, unfortunately

Where there is a will, there is a way

 

[Fflow]

hes not into that. he wouldnt accept that side of me. he sees it as being a whore.

So, he never looks at porn, watches sexy scenes on TV or in films, or checks out beautiful women in the market? He averts his eyes down when on the beach, surrounded by bikini clad beauties? Are they all whores and, if so, why is he looking at them?

Does he make love to you in the dark, with his eyes closed, and all the while think of Jesus?

You deserve to be loved for who you are, and not shaped into someone else's idea of who you should be. From what I've seen of your body, I'm guessing that you're still young, and don't have kids. Maybe there is someone else out there who can celebrate your erotic impulses, and really love the depth and breadth of you.

Of course, maybe you value the relationship enough to give up this part of yourself. To me, this doesn't sound like a relationship you value. To me, it sounds like misery.

 

[dave001]

ummm yeah, i wish there was a "do-over" fairy.

Amen to that smallgirl...I know exactly what you mean. Good luck...

 

[smallgirl]

So, he never looks at porn, watches sexy scenes on TV or in films, or checks out beautiful women in the market? He averts his eyes down when on the beach, surrounded by bikini clad beauties? Are they all whores and, if so, why is he looking at them?

Does he make love to you in the dark, with his eyes closed, and all the while think of Jesus?

You deserve to be loved for who you are, and not shaped into someone else's idea of who you should be. From what I've seen of your body, I'm guessing that you're still young, and don't have kids. Maybe there is someone else out there who can celebrate your erotic impulses, and really love the depth and breadth of you.

Of course, maybe you value the relationship enough to give up this part of yourself. To me, this doesn't sound like a relationship you value. To me, it sounds like misery.

he never looks at porn..he used to, but he stopped. he looks at women on tv, yes, but thats it. he never flirts, tells women who flirt with him not to...he really is rare for a man.

but you are way off on age and kids...im 39 with an 18 and 14 yr old.

 

[Fflow]

wow

he never looks at porn..he used to, but he stopped. he looks at women on tv, yes, but thats it. he never flirts, tells women who flirt with him not to...he really is rare for a man.

I hope he treats you with kindness and respect.

but you are way off on age and kids...im 39 with an 18 and 14 yr old.

Wow! I'm stunned. Based on the few pix you've posted I would have guessed you to be in your early 20s. You've done an amazing job of taking care of yourself. Really!!! Wow!!!!

WOW!!!

 

[frdrcnjohn]

You are a truely beautiful woman that deserve to be loved, honored ,respected cherished , hugged , held close love and worshiped for many years to come.

 

[cadman7777]

he never looks at porn..he used to, but he stopped. he looks at women on tv, yes, but thats it. he never flirts, tells women who flirt with him not to...he really is rare for a man.

but you are way off on age and kids...im 39 with an 18 and 14 yr old.

to many of us 39 is a young dear

 

[smallgirl]

to many of us 39 is a young dear

oh 39 is young to me...im not saying its old....but im not 20 anymore either.

 

[smallgirl]

I hope he treats you with kindness and respect.



Wow! I'm stunned. Based on the few pix you've posted I would have guessed you to be in your early 20s. You've done an amazing job of taking care of yourself. Really!!! Wow!!!!

WOW!!!

nope. was 39 in july. and i do take care of myself.

 

[dave001]

oh 39 is young to me...im not saying its old....but im not 20 anymore either.

You look great smallgirl. Very sexy...

 

[Kendra7200]

I wish

home alone....

you were home alone with me
such beautiful breasts and a figure to go with them.

 

[tcwild100]

he never looks at porn..he used to, but he stopped. he looks at women on tv, yes, but thats it. he never flirts, tells women who flirt with him not to...he really is rare for a man.

but you are way off on age and kids...im 39 with an 18 and 14 yr old.

SG, it sounds to me like the two of you have done as so many others - you've allowed life to go on without keeping the real passion alive. I'm not going to pry into your personal affairs; but if the relationship is to thrive as it should, the two of you have to fix this fundamental difference. I know from experience that passion needs to live in each of us, and a couple must work (hard!) to keep it alive or the whole thing will just collapse.

I share Fflow's surprise at your age; but that only makes this more important. As a woman of obvious passion, you need an outlet.

 

[smallgirl]

SG, it sounds to me like the two of you have done as so many others - you've allowed life to go on without keeping the real passion alive. I'm not going to pry into your personal affairs; but if the relationship is to thrive as it should, the two of you have to fix this fundamental difference. I know from experience that passion needs to live in each of us, and a couple must work (hard!) to keep it alive or the whole thing will just collapse.

I share Fflow's surprise at your age; but that only makes this more important. As a woman of obvious passion, you need an outlet.

i agree. but sexually, we are different paths. he cant accept my sexuality. he thinks i should be able to turn it off and on...on for him and off when im out in the world. it just doesnt work that way. my sexuality is who i am. period.

 

[koalabear]

he never looks at porn..he used to, but he stopped. he looks at women on tv, yes, but thats it. he never flirts, tells women who flirt with him not to...he really is rare for a man.

but you are way off on age and kids...im 39 with an 18 and 14 yr old.

39, sexual prime for women........

 

[tcwild100]

i agree. but sexually, we are different paths. he cant accept my sexuality. he thinks i should be able to turn it off and on...on for him and off when im out in the world. it just doesnt work that way. my sexuality is who i am. period.

Absolutely, positively correct.

And it's the 'different paths' aspect that must be addressed. That your paths have diverged IS the problem. Your sexuality is NOT the problem, and neither is his. Unfortunately, it is more complicated than simply 'agreeing to disagree'. When it comes to passion and sexuality, that won't work because it is far too personal.

It's a tough one lady. I sure wish you luck - and an ear if you wish to PM.

 

[rokstr]

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sure gonna miss the posts apple,

 

[Silkcrow]

One more chiming in

Hi, smallgirl. I just wanted to add my support to the others who have shared theirs with you. We are about the same "vintage" and I too am married. The fact that my husband is fully supportive of my (really our) experience on lit makes me appreciate it even more when I read of your conflicts over it. I must say it raises my hackles a little to think that he would hold you responsible for his happiness and take none for yours. Anyway, I for one think you're terrific, and even if you don't post any more pictures, I hope you will stay connected with this community. There really are a bunch of great people here and I think you would find a bit of sustenance from them. I wish you the very best, whatever you decide.

Sue

 

[Fflow]

What do you want, smallgirl?

 

[lorddragonwolf]

marriage troubles...and im thinking no internet is the only way to compromise enough to make him happy.

it wont make him happy he will only find something else to complain about or try to take away from you to control you.

 

[smallgirl]

Hi, smallgirl. I just wanted to add my support to the others who have shared theirs with you. We are about the same "vintage" and I too am married. The fact that my husband is fully supportive of my (really our) experience on lit makes me appreciate it even more when I read of your conflicts over it. I must say it raises my hackles a little to think that he would hold you responsible for his happiness and take none for yours. Anyway, I for one think you're terrific, and even if you don't post any more pictures, I hope you will stay connected with this community. There really are a bunch of great people here and I think you would find a bit of sustenance from them. I wish you the very best, whatever you decide.

Sue

its a huge load, being responsible for his happiness. a person cant make you happy, only you can do that for yourself. im really afraid we are too far gone...unless one of us gets a miracle and changes.

 

[smallgirl]

What do you want, smallgirl?

peace and quiet.