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[male_whore]

Hello everybody

Here's what i wanted to ask you about:

When I stimulate my girlfriend using my hands she has very strong orgasms...so strong that she feels she can't take anymore...The problem is I would really like to continue and bring her over the edge again and again and again...i would love to see her transfixed with pleasure, all sweaty and biting the pillow so she wouldn't scream...

Any tips on how i could persuade her to let me continue?

Thanks,
-Andrei

 

[NippleMuncher]

Some women don't want or like multiple O's, my girlfriend is one of them. Once she's had her cookie, she's hyper stimulated and can't take anymore. All I can say is respect your partners needs and limits, no matter how much you really want to keep going.

 

[M's girl]

Why do you want to do something to her that does not feel good to her?

 

[male_whore]

I don't...that's why I stop...i would like to continue because I know that it's not the physical sensations per se that she can't handle..it's the lack of control associated with powerful orgasms. She has at times permited me to continue and felt great. However she said she didn't like she wasn't in control of herself anymore.

Sorry for not mentioning this earlier.

I certanly don't mean her any harm...i just want her to trust me giving her more pleasure

Thanks for your replies,
-A

 

[M's girl]

I don't...that's why I stop...i would like to continue because I know that it's not the physical sensations per se that she can't handle..it's the lack of control associated with powerful orgasms. She has at times permited me to continue and felt great. However she said she didn't like she wasn't in control of herself anymore.

Sorry for not mentioning this earlier.

I certanly don't mean her any harm...i just want her to trust me giving her more pleasure

Thanks for your replies,
-A

I don't have that, uhm.... problem since I don't have multiple orgasms. With the ones I have I have never felt I was completely without control. Swept away is a good discription, but nothing more, plus the moment is very brief. Maybe that's MY problem, haha.

But I do understand her. There are other areas where I have felt I was not in control of my body the way I wanted it due to the use of medicine. I hated it when I felt drugged but took the medicin anyway because the alternative was far worse. But I could never understand how people would drug themselves voluntarily. It's different, I know, I'm just trying to explain how I understand why she does not like not being in control. I don't think it's a trust issue with you per se (but you should know if it could be).

The point is: at this moment she does not like it and maybe she'll get used to the letting go for whatever reason in time. For now she's fine so why push it?

 

[NippleMuncher]

If your relationship is otherwise strong, the longer you're together the more she's going to trust you, which in turn may allow you to continue bringing her to multiple, loss of control orgasm. Your best bet is to have open conversations about your relationship, particularly about sex, to discover each others likes and dislikes. The more open and adventurous she is, the more likely that your wish will also come true.

 

[SunshineLdy]

I do this too. They get so strong I push my husband away, even though I don't want him to stop. I fear (and hope for) one day I'll pass out. They're that strong. The only hope I can offer is don't try and do them back to back nights. It takes a few days to heal from over stimulation. Safe words help for me to tell him when it's seriously uncomfortable. But yes, there are times he takes me there so many times I'm shaking and screaming, and will continue for a bit after I'm fighting for him to stop...he stops when I'm serious and really can't take anymore.

For me, it's really hard to let go and just feel. He makes me do that, and I get so wonderfully lost in the sensations. The only thing I worry about is the noise level with the kids, and granted it's HARD to pay attention to caring about the noise. My kids have issues enough, rough play comes when they're out out out out of the house then I'm quite happy!

 

[male_whore]

Thanks

Hi all

Just wanted to say thanks for you're replies...you've been wonderful!

-A

 

[Cathleen]

I agree with the other about respecting her limit. Interestingly enough in a book I'm reading the female is a control freak herself -- in and out of bed. So, of course the man is much the same. In one scene he wanted to be the 'lead' and she fought it all the way. They talked and what he suggested was for her to allow him to take control for 10 minutes. They actually set an alarm clock. I thought it was creative of the author. It might be something to discuss with your girlfriend.

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