Moralizing (as a BDSM kink)

[GodBlessBreasts]

I notice some people (myself included) get off powerfully on the idea of morally criticizing or condemning others. For example, telling somebody to keep fantasies to themself, or to express their fantasies (or thoughts generally) only in the way the dom says is morally acceptable. How do you incorporate this into your BDSM fantasies or play? Or you are going to morally criticize me for having this fantasy?

 

[Lovin_to_death]

"morally criticize" there you have now been morrallt criticized for this j/k

 

[Pure]

sounds odd, but on reflection, isn't calling someone a slut a 'moral condemnation'?

 

[Netzach]

only if you think it's wrong to be a slut.

If not, it's just tweaking somene's societal conditioning nipple.

 

[Netzach]

All I know is I'm shitty at this fetish/roleplay/subject.

It's the one thing I can't do but halfassedly. Someone wants to be told how perverted and wrong they are for wanting to suck shemales or wear panties or fuck strangers and all I can really come up with is that it's a perfectly fine and dandy thing to want.

 

[GodBlessBreasts]

One techique is to "misinterpret" a fantasy expressed by a sub. Perhaps the sub didn't even say something reprehensible, but the dom can intepret her or his words to have the worst possible meaning, and the scold her, or call her sick for the way she expressed herself. This can really help a dom get his or her rocks off. Of course, I would only do this with a consenting adult!

 

[FungiUg]

I suppose it would work... the concept of "shaming" a slut, her head hanging in shame, while I redress her... yep, does it for me.

 

[angela146]

One techique is to "misinterpret" a fantasy expressed by a sub. Perhaps the sub didn't even say something reprehensible, but the dom can intepret her or his words to have the worst possible meaning, and the scold her, or call her sick for the way she expressed herself. This can really help a dom get his or her rocks off. Of course, I would only do this with a consenting adult!

Who the Hell do you think you are deliberately misinterpreting other people's fantasies?! That's worse than the thought police!

Not only are you scolding her and calling her sick, you aren't even basing it on something she actually thought!

You disgust me, you putrid excuse for a dom, you and the horse you rode in on!

(Tongue planted firmly in cheek).

 

[Limbhugger]

Well, since I seemed to be a contributor to the creation of this thread I suppose I am obligated in some way to reply. GBB are you related to Pure because you both strike me as very similiar? Anyways...

I'm not quite sure I get the intent of the original question. But what I get from it is basically humiliation. Humiliation has been discussed here in depth and at length and I am sure it will continue to be.

Wife would never force me to express my fantasies in her terms. She may twist my fantasies after she has pulled them from me but she wants them to come from me in their pure form. She can then use them, tweak them, and throw them back at me as she sees fit. She wants to pull out all of my deviant thoughts so that she feels I have been completely exposed and open to her. She desires to see me naked and vulnerable. Then, with care, understanding, and love, she does what she wishes with my fantasies.

I do not always surrender my fantasies to her willingly and I believe she enjoys that. Enjoys pulling them from me. Coaxing and working my mind, body, and soul to bring out the best and worst I have floating around inside. Sometimes she even pulls things from me that I hadn't even realized or hadn't connected the dots with that I then find extremely erotic and/or powerful.

But then, that is why she is my dominant and my love. She brings out my purity and rawness and then handles it with careful contemplation.

As to the humiliation aspect, I find it deeply erotic and powerful but also very guarded and personal. I would not and can not allow myself to be humiliated by anyone I don't choose to be. Only Wife has that power and maybe some close family and freinds (non-sexually). I discard others attempts at it as I refuse to give them that power.

Wife is the keeper of my secrets. She knows all my dark corners yet she continues to explore for and sometimes build new ones. And I love her even more for that. When she then uses my own mind against me in the form of humiliation I know that she is simply breaking me down to the fundamentals of my persona. She is tearing me open and exposing me to myself. But she always careful to then reinforce that she loves me and that for what I think and feel I am good and whole person.

If I completely missed the point sorry. But that's what the opening post brought out.

 

[James G 5]

I'd just like to chip in that I've always wondered why terms like "slut" and "cock sucker" are considered insulting, as I think both are quite lovely
Altho I can see where there might be issues with "mother fucker" if it has a literal basis

 

[Pure]

Perhaps the moral condemnation would be more stinging, if besides directed at a fantasy, it targeted an act--particularly a directed one. The bottom, after having to fuck a stranger is condemned as depraved insatiable immoral.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Perhaps the moral condemnation would be more stinging, if besides directed at a fantasy, it targeted an act--particularly a directed one. The bottom, after having to fuck a stranger is condemned as depraved insatiable immoral.

..but that sounds good!!

Catalina

 

[trodas]

I feel that no-one can judge the fantasies of others
Its because we are all different and what someone turn on, that someone else can force to vomit

So far, judging and calling someone by lot's of insulting names - to put it short, dirty talking - is perhaps good (again, for these, who enjoy this only ) part of play, however please leave it for the scene only

Because as i mentioned earlier, we never can agree or should judge anyone - because we are judging with the initial fault of yours way of view and "truth"

The fact is - there is no truth, becuase everyone have its own