Mistress
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Richard49
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Alley Cat said:Hrm.. The Diary of a Mistress..
Ill start after today's encounter. Should i post it in here? Or create a new thread?
I am not worried about Court. *shrug*
I love the idea...especially if you tell us your feelings as well as actions....\
Post it here,please
madelaine angel
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This stuff is absolutely fascinating!
Before I start, I am NOT (sorry for shouting but I want people to get me!) judging anyone posting here, and I am really looking forward to the first journal instalment. I am just interested as to how this stuff makes you feel.
To be a mistress, presumably he has a wife. You don't mind sharing? It doesnt bother you how she would feel if she found out? where are your boundaries, I mean do you have to put up with all this "my wife doesnt understand me" crap or have you banned that converation for your own sanity?
Ive been in your position (hence the non judgemental thing!) and these issues really bothered me and ultimately led to our break up. Im interested in how you feel about such things.
One of the things I love about this place is the lack of sneering from people about other's choices. I am not indulging in that, merely trying to learn. As it says, Im only a virgin here, watching for ages, only starting to join in.
xxxxx
Before I start, I am NOT (sorry for shouting but I want people to get me!) judging anyone posting here, and I am really looking forward to the first journal instalment. I am just interested as to how this stuff makes you feel.
To be a mistress, presumably he has a wife. You don't mind sharing? It doesnt bother you how she would feel if she found out? where are your boundaries, I mean do you have to put up with all this "my wife doesnt understand me" crap or have you banned that converation for your own sanity?
Ive been in your position (hence the non judgemental thing!) and these issues really bothered me and ultimately led to our break up. Im interested in how you feel about such things.
One of the things I love about this place is the lack of sneering from people about other's choices. I am not indulging in that, merely trying to learn. As it says, Im only a virgin here, watching for ages, only starting to join in.
xxxxx
cherrylips_au
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I'm very curious as to how often your going to/ have to meet with this guy? Is it once a week,month every few months? How did you even get involved ?
You seem willing to share Alley Cat and please don't think I'm judging you I'm just curious as to how this all started.
Also you don't seem to show any compassion towards his wife/family so my question to you is if/when you marry would it be ok for your husband to have affairs/mistresses?
You seem willing to share Alley Cat and please don't think I'm judging you I'm just curious as to how this all started.
Also you don't seem to show any compassion towards his wife/family so my question to you is if/when you marry would it be ok for your husband to have affairs/mistresses?
madelaine angel
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hi jam, well, not in this situation any more, but I can tell you what I got out of the last one!
Being a mistress had it's good side. the sex was fantastic, and the fact that we would use little innuendos at work all day that only we knew about made a boring day go quickly. We really connected on an emotional level too, which was sod all to do with the mistress thing and probably what led to the break up.
It pissed me off when he phoned her during the day, I resented having to share him emotionally much more than sexually. that i could live with. eventually i couldnt deal with hurting her, it became fairly obvious that she knew but let him go on with it rather than him leave her. left a nasty taste in the mouth (so to speak!)
I had a great time at the start, but the fact he had a wife (acquiescant or not) led me to realise that no matter how much i enjoyed getting laid by him, he was still the kind of guy who would cheat on someone he loved. Not the man for me. Does this help? Make any sense? Doubt it...
xxxxxx
Being a mistress had it's good side. the sex was fantastic, and the fact that we would use little innuendos at work all day that only we knew about made a boring day go quickly. We really connected on an emotional level too, which was sod all to do with the mistress thing and probably what led to the break up.
It pissed me off when he phoned her during the day, I resented having to share him emotionally much more than sexually. that i could live with. eventually i couldnt deal with hurting her, it became fairly obvious that she knew but let him go on with it rather than him leave her. left a nasty taste in the mouth (so to speak!)
I had a great time at the start, but the fact he had a wife (acquiescant or not) led me to realise that no matter how much i enjoyed getting laid by him, he was still the kind of guy who would cheat on someone he loved. Not the man for me. Does this help? Make any sense? Doubt it...
xxxxxx
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i just got out of this situation last night. he told his SO (now ex) what was going on between us and i am so happy he did! but the shitty part is that they live right downstairs from me and our kids liked playing together. last night was a nightmare, cops were called... i dont recommend that for anyone. while i am glad he told, i feel like she cuz she was my friend. she would always tell me how she loved this other dude.....but anyhow, i hope it works out the way you want it, mine did so far 
shy
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why didn't you
Why did you not just make it a threesome and you all could have been happy
Poly is good !!!!!
shynsexy said:i just got out of this situation last night. he told his SO (now ex) what was going on between us and i am so happy he did! but the shitty part is that they live right downstairs from me and our kids liked playing together. last night was a nightmare, cops were called... i dont recommend that for anyone. while i am glad he told, i feel like she cuz she was my friend. she would always tell me how she loved this other dude.....but anyhow, i hope it works out the way you want it, mine did so far
shy
Why did you not just make it a threesome and you all could have been happy
Poly is good !!!!!
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shes a psychotic bitch, nothing solves that problem.... she doesnt take care of her kids, i did, she doesnt clean her house, i did, she smokes pot and drinks all night and who watched the kids? me! i fed her kids all the time, she didnt know what a grocery store was.
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Richard49
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Originally posted by shynsexy
shes a psychotic bitch, nothing solves that problem.... she doesnt take care of her kids, i did, she doesnt clean her house, i did, she smokes pot and drinks all night and who watched the kids? me! i fed her kids all the time, she didnt know what a grocery store was.
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so why did her hubby go back to her?
but he didnt ...and they were never married. he told her about us last night and thats it. we are together and so what if i lost a "friend" i gained so much more..... i will still be able to see the kids, and she is moving today anyhow.... i just felt bad for hiding. i didnt feel like a real woman, i am so glad he told her, it proves alot to me... for yall who have, go read my "i swear i'm in love thread"
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Originally posted by shynsexy
shes a psychotic bitch, nothing solves that problem.... she doesnt take care of her kids, i did, she doesnt clean her house, i did, she smokes pot and drinks all night and who watched the kids? me! i fed her kids all the time, she didnt know what a grocery store was.
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so why did her hubby go back to her?
but he didnt ...and they were never married. he told her about us last night and thats it. we are together and so what if i lost a "friend" i gained so much more..... i will still be able to see the kids, and she is moving today anyhow.... i just felt bad for hiding. i didnt feel like a real woman, i am so glad he told her, it proves alot to me... for yall who have, go read my "i swear i'm in love thread"
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I'm glad it worked out
Sounds like she didn't care much for him (mentioned/edited in previous post) and was just hanging in there for what she could get.
You're really fourtunate cause most mistresses get dumped, especially when there are kids involved. I'm glad he chose you instead. Sounds like those kids could use a real mom and being in love doesn't hurt the situation either!
(I read over post over before I sent it this time.)
Sounds like she didn't care much for him (mentioned/edited in previous post) and was just hanging in there for what she could get.
You're really fourtunate cause most mistresses get dumped, especially when there are kids involved. I'm glad he chose you instead. Sounds like those kids could use a real mom and being in love doesn't hurt the situation either!
(I read over post over before I sent it this time.)
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Being a mistress can be a good thing, and a very bad thing. I've been one, twice over.
The first affair lasted 2 years. It started because I felt at that time that I really needed someone to love, and someone to love me. I had known him for a few years, and one day he told me he liked me, and later, told me that when he said he liked me, he had really meant he loved me, but hadn't wanted to scare me away from him. We were pretty good friends before the affair, and we still are...
Our reasons for the affair changed and turned out to be different than they were in the start. This made for a BIG mess in the end. I thought I could handle it (what did I know, I was 18) but it turns out that my natural reaction to the whole situation was unconditional love. I do know that he still loves me and cares for me deeply, but that he also loves and cares for his children - and any man should love his children more than the other woman - but that I ended up feeling like his sexual getaway.
We talked all the time, he called me without fail daily. I felt a higher connection to him than anyone else...we were each other's best friend. When we saw each other, we would talk, but things would lead to sex, both of us willing. Sometimes he would express his sincere, extreme guilt for what he had just done to his children, his wife, and God...imagine how that made me feel. I felt like this person who I had shared so much with was disgusted by how he felt about me, how he loved me and how he wanted me so badly.
I asked him once to leave her...and I actually felt bad for doing so.
He told me that on two different occasions, he had packed a bag and thought of a way leaving could be possible, but how he snapped himself out of thinking that way.
It all ended, on "our" decision, supposedly, but more on mine than his. Sure, he wants to be moral and everything, but I know if I called him right now asking to fuck, he'd find a way. I couldn't do it to myself anymore, and I wanted him to be the moral person he wants to be.
Affair #2 is much nicer and much more pleasant. I'm not seeking love from this guy, and although I care for him, I do not love him. We don't have any terms, everything seems to be understood. We like each other, we want each other, and when it's possible to talk and see one another, it will happen. We're lovers and friends. He lives in another state, so it's a long distance thing, which helps everything from getting really tangled and messy. We chat on the internet a few times a week, sometimes more than that, and get to see each other's face on webcam as well. I've met him once; he flew to see me and we had a fabulous weekend together. He doesn't expect me to be faithful to him, but he does show slightness of jealously when I talk about other guys, but only when I'm talking about how into them I am...which isn't very often. All in all, he wants me to be happy and I want him to be happy.
I've always liked older men and it seems that every older man I find is always married...a trend that proves itself over and over. The thought of fucking a married man turns me on soooo much, but not just ANY married man...only the ones I've been with or wish to be with, which totals out to be...5 guys.
I feel that my fear of commitment causes me to want these married men...who I don't have to commit to and can't commit to. The thought of being married scares the hell out of me, as does even having a boyfriend...
anyway, I've got to run, but I'll continue this another time.
The first affair lasted 2 years. It started because I felt at that time that I really needed someone to love, and someone to love me. I had known him for a few years, and one day he told me he liked me, and later, told me that when he said he liked me, he had really meant he loved me, but hadn't wanted to scare me away from him. We were pretty good friends before the affair, and we still are...
Our reasons for the affair changed and turned out to be different than they were in the start. This made for a BIG mess in the end. I thought I could handle it (what did I know, I was 18) but it turns out that my natural reaction to the whole situation was unconditional love. I do know that he still loves me and cares for me deeply, but that he also loves and cares for his children - and any man should love his children more than the other woman - but that I ended up feeling like his sexual getaway.
We talked all the time, he called me without fail daily. I felt a higher connection to him than anyone else...we were each other's best friend. When we saw each other, we would talk, but things would lead to sex, both of us willing. Sometimes he would express his sincere, extreme guilt for what he had just done to his children, his wife, and God...imagine how that made me feel. I felt like this person who I had shared so much with was disgusted by how he felt about me, how he loved me and how he wanted me so badly.
I asked him once to leave her...and I actually felt bad for doing so.
He told me that on two different occasions, he had packed a bag and thought of a way leaving could be possible, but how he snapped himself out of thinking that way.
It all ended, on "our" decision, supposedly, but more on mine than his. Sure, he wants to be moral and everything, but I know if I called him right now asking to fuck, he'd find a way. I couldn't do it to myself anymore, and I wanted him to be the moral person he wants to be.
Affair #2 is much nicer and much more pleasant. I'm not seeking love from this guy, and although I care for him, I do not love him. We don't have any terms, everything seems to be understood. We like each other, we want each other, and when it's possible to talk and see one another, it will happen. We're lovers and friends. He lives in another state, so it's a long distance thing, which helps everything from getting really tangled and messy. We chat on the internet a few times a week, sometimes more than that, and get to see each other's face on webcam as well. I've met him once; he flew to see me and we had a fabulous weekend together. He doesn't expect me to be faithful to him, but he does show slightness of jealously when I talk about other guys, but only when I'm talking about how into them I am...which isn't very often. All in all, he wants me to be happy and I want him to be happy.
I've always liked older men and it seems that every older man I find is always married...a trend that proves itself over and over. The thought of fucking a married man turns me on soooo much, but not just ANY married man...only the ones I've been with or wish to be with, which totals out to be...5 guys.
I feel that my fear of commitment causes me to want these married men...who I don't have to commit to and can't commit to. The thought of being married scares the hell out of me, as does even having a boyfriend...
anyway, I've got to run, but I'll continue this another time.
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Diary of a Mistress-
(sorry for the delay, very very worn out and just woke up..)
So..
Today is Sunday March 25th, 2002
Let me tell you a little bit of backround..
Mr. X is a wonderful friend of mine that i meant at work.. Breaks smoking outside, the casual bump into each other in the halls. I always thought he was gorgeous, but he was hands off.. I had a boy, he had a girl. I enjoyed talking to him, but there was something about the way he looked at me that just sent shivers down my whole body.
So. flash forward, a little bit. all this time, he and i would speak constantly on a messanger while at work, and sometimes at home. Just about life, dreams and desires. And somehow, one day.. we just talked about our mutual sexual attraction for each other. By that time, I had broken off with my boy, and was looking not for commitment, just fun.. And somehow we entered the little situation that we are in today.
Mostly, it consits of quickies at lunch.. (whenever both of us can get away) at his place.. Sometimes, we just drive around talking. I listen to him a lot.. Give him companionship. Then there are Saturdays... Oh those sweet saturdays.. This girl thinks he is at work, but really, he is with me, and we spend the day talking and fucking our little hearts out.
The things he does to me.. I can't quite figure out what feels better, the moment he enters me, and looks at me with animalistic passion, or the moment I have a O... I swear.. its like heaven and makes me wonder wth i have been missing out on all this time.
He is erotic, sexual, fucking awesome, and perfect in so many ways. And there are no strings. Its like having a best friend who rocks your world. There are times that i wish i could have more time with him... Because, believe me.... 5 times a week is not enough to staisfy my bodies craving for his touch. But i fear given more time, one of us would have a heart attack.
I guess i really can't explain the feeling of having someone fit so perfectly sexually.. But those that have had that.. know.
Its rather strange, walking together at work, and not being able to touch his body. to caress his skin... Its very strange.. Unsettling so much, as i am sure the air crackles between us. Their mutual friends are also working at this same place. (the reason I can't touch him)
Its very excicitn in some ways as well.. The secrecy. Just last week, coming back to work after our lunch, I was sure i was glowing.. My cube mate just looked at me and laughed.. 'Good Lunch?'
I smiled, nodded, and worked on regaining my breath, even 30 mins later..
I come in constant contact with him, which makes it easier then some of the stories on this board. the only day we don't speak or talk is Sunday.
I am not quite sure what else i should write about.. maybe next installment will be about our encounter next week.
Any questions? Suggestions? let me know.
(sorry for the delay, very very worn out and just woke up..
)So..
Today is Sunday March 25th, 2002
Let me tell you a little bit of backround..
Mr. X is a wonderful friend of mine that i meant at work.. Breaks smoking outside, the casual bump into each other in the halls. I always thought he was gorgeous, but he was hands off.. I had a boy, he had a girl. I enjoyed talking to him, but there was something about the way he looked at me that just sent shivers down my whole body.
So. flash forward, a little bit. all this time, he and i would speak constantly on a messanger while at work, and sometimes at home. Just about life, dreams and desires. And somehow, one day.. we just talked about our mutual sexual attraction for each other. By that time, I had broken off with my boy, and was looking not for commitment, just fun.. And somehow we entered the little situation that we are in today.
Mostly, it consits of quickies at lunch.. (whenever both of us can get away) at his place.. Sometimes, we just drive around talking. I listen to him a lot.. Give him companionship. Then there are Saturdays... Oh those sweet saturdays.. This girl thinks he is at work, but really, he is with me, and we spend the day talking and fucking our little hearts out.
The things he does to me.. I can't quite figure out what feels better, the moment he enters me, and looks at me with animalistic passion, or the moment I have a O... I swear.. its like heaven and makes me wonder wth i have been missing out on all this time.
He is erotic, sexual, fucking awesome, and perfect in so many ways. And there are no strings. Its like having a best friend who rocks your world. There are times that i wish i could have more time with him... Because, believe me.... 5 times a week is not enough to staisfy my bodies craving for his touch. But i fear given more time, one of us would have a heart attack.
I guess i really can't explain the feeling of having someone fit so perfectly sexually.. But those that have had that.. know.
Its rather strange, walking together at work, and not being able to touch his body. to caress his skin... Its very strange.. Unsettling so much, as i am sure the air crackles between us. Their mutual friends are also working at this same place. (the reason I can't touch him)
Its very excicitn in some ways as well.. The secrecy. Just last week, coming back to work after our lunch, I was sure i was glowing.. My cube mate just looked at me and laughed.. 'Good Lunch?'
I smiled, nodded, and worked on regaining my breath, even 30 mins later..
I come in constant contact with him, which makes it easier then some of the stories on this board. the only day we don't speak or talk is Sunday.
I am not quite sure what else i should write about.. maybe next installment will be about our encounter next week.
Any questions? Suggestions? let me know.
~Artful's pet~
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With Artful's permission,
Details, i would love to hear the down and dirty details if you wanna share them... i have been a mistress as well, adn sometimes i miss the thrill of it.
~pet~
Details, i would love to hear the down and dirty details if you wanna share them... i have been a mistress as well, adn sometimes i miss the thrill of it.
~pet~
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Alley Cat, when are ya' comin back?
Sorry, but I gotta say it.
This whole situation doesn't sound at all like a "Mistress". It's just a buddy fuck with a guy who's cheating on his girlfriend.
"Mistress" is far over-glamorizing the entire situation, in my opinion. Sorry, alleycat. This is stuff that goes on in every office across America. Can't fathom anything worth writing a "diary" about.
Buy, hey. It's your life ~
This whole situation doesn't sound at all like a "Mistress". It's just a buddy fuck with a guy who's cheating on his girlfriend.
"Mistress" is far over-glamorizing the entire situation, in my opinion. Sorry, alleycat. This is stuff that goes on in every office across America. Can't fathom anything worth writing a "diary" about.
Buy, hey. It's your life ~
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