Mentaly Finished?

[Arthas123]

Last night me and my girlfriend were fooling around. We have never done anything more than kiss and it was moving to a lot more play than I expected.

I didn't have any condoms so we went to oral. I started in on her first. That went great she came really fast and I felt pretty good about that.

But after all her biting and scratching at me I was feeling pretty tired and I hadn't even really been touched yet. She was dismayed to find that I was completely flaccid after her orgasm and I found it pretty funny.

Is this something any of you experienced? I felt a little self conscious when the attention was on me finally and I kind of buckled under pressure.

(Side note I haven't done anything sexually with anyone else in atleast a year.)

((Also don't poke fun...I really feel confused about this...)

 

[cordite]

It's really impossible to tell if anything is really an issue based on a single incident. There are certainly times where people have failed to perform under pressure. I'd say don't worry about it. Fixating on it certainly won't help you in the future.

 

[SubNebGuy]

Most men will agree, the penis has a mind of its own.

Unless it becomes commonplace, I wouldn't even worry. You were tired/stressed/preoccupied/etc.

 

[necroerotica]

Really, don't worry about it - CERTAINLY not after one instance

It's not that unusual, and something I find women (well, my SO ) sometimes finds very hard to understand.

The common perception is that you just have to look sideways at a mans dick and it gets hard. Mind of it's own, blah blah blah.

That's simply not true. The ability for a man to get a hardon and cum is just as reliant on our mental and emotional moods as a womans ability to orgasm is.

Sometimes, you'll not even know which mental trigger isn't firing properly. Sometimes, you'll simply be distracted, tired, or just plain not in the mood.

It's happened to me a few times, as it has to most men I suspect. The only REAL problem is how it's dealt with at the time. The woman feels insulted and/or inadequate. The man feels emasculated, impotent.
In reality, none of these are true, and next time you'll probably have a hardon you can poke holes through walls with.

Women.
They just don't understand us.


Sometimes, it's just not easy having a penis.

 

[emap]

From what I understand going soft is pretty common for virgins having sexual relations. Don't worry about it, you went to bat got her her fun then collapsed when she looked at you, no biggie just a performance anxiety thing.

I've been there myself, obviously didn't go soft but dried up some.

Don't worry about it, just try not to think about it, especially next time she and you get frisky. Though hun I have to admit, you getting her off is a big deal, some guys never care that a woman can have an orgasm.

Necro your silly we understand you guys, your pretty darn simple things, wiggle some food or a hot ass in your face and you follow us around forever.

 

[necroerotica]

Necro your silly we understand you guys, your pretty darn simple things, wiggle some food or a hot ass in your face and you follow us around forever.

Actualy, many years ago when I knew everything (hey, I was a teen) my mantra was

"If we can't fuck it, kill it or eat it, we're not interested. Not necessarily in that order."




Yeah, I was a charmer.

 

[perro]

What's to worry about? Don't drink so much next time.

She had a good time and you had a good time. You didn't get an instruction book with your cock saying that all sexual activity had to climax with your orgasm.

So us old geezers are reassuring you .... let's just hope she is getting reassurance somewhere .....

I was in bed with my boyfriend and we have never gone all the way but he went down on me and it was so good but then I did it to him and nothing happened... Do you think there's something wrong with me, maybe he isn't really into me? Or is he really gay???

Listen, girl it's alright!!! He likes you and wants to do it again and no he's not gay or at least this doesn't prove it one way or another.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Last night me and my girlfriend were fooling around. We have never done anything more than kiss and it was moving to a lot more play than I expected.

I didn't have any condoms so we went to oral. I started in on her first. That went great she came really fast and I felt pretty good about that.

But after all her biting and scratching at me I was feeling pretty tired and I hadn't even really been touched yet. She was dismayed to find that I was completely flaccid after her orgasm and I found it pretty funny.

Is this something any of you experienced? I felt a little self conscious when the attention was on me finally and I kind of buckled under pressure.

(Side note I haven't done anything sexually with anyone else in atleast a year.)

((Also don't poke fun...I really feel confused about this...)

It happens to everyone, AFAIK. Stop wanking for a few days, then let her return the favor. Don´t aim for the eyes, though, because that would be uncivilized.

 

[mjl2010]

I wouldn't worry about it. It happens now and then.

Of course, it would never happen to me. No no not ever. And then it did. Ye gods I was ready to run to the urologist the first time and she was ready to drive me.

Don't worry about it. If it happens a lot, see a doc. If once in a while, no big deal. it happens.

Nice you did her good first. Well done. Maybe next time....it's her turn first?


MJL

 

[Arthas123]

Thanks guys, you all made me feel a lot better about the situation.

I'm not a virgin its just been a while sense I've had anyone who wanted to have sex with me.

I will follow Mr. Essex's advice and next time ill be more ready.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Thanks guys, you all made me feel a lot better about the situation.

I'm not a virgin its just been a while sense I've had anyone who wanted to have sex with me.

I will follow Mr. Essex's advice and next time ill be more ready.

I try my best. If I don´t masturbate for 2+ days, I can barely restrain myself, so I assumed that the advice would work in other circumstances.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I think it was a little insensitive of her to laugh when you lost your erection. Probably she was trying to make light of things so that you didn't think it was a big deal. I know that for a first encounter it was less than memorable but the fact she still wants to see you (and sleep with you) speaks for itself.

 

[emap]

Yeah sorry, I just assumed and didn't read as well as I should have. Of course in my defense, you were a virgin when it comes to sexual matters with her so I sorta was right.

I'm not sure you want to listen to Essex though, he's got shifty eyes, and a cat fetish, and well I think he hasn't bathed in a few weeks cause dang hun you smell funny.

Oh and perhaps next time, get her into a 69, that way your doing her and being done and well everybody wins.

 

[an_angels_wings]

This happens to my boy sometimes, too ... but after I recover a little bit/ and there's a little bit of cuddlage, he gets going again and I return the favor.

But, I mean, first time ... it happens.

 

[wickedchicken84]

Listen, everone so far has been right on the button. It happens sometimes, whether it be because of stress, reoccpation, nervousness, whatever, it does happen. Not to frighten you, it can happen during sex too for many of the same reasons. I have found that when people get self concious durng sexual play, they can begin to overthink and even impede their efforts because they want to deliver well; so much so that they even doubt themselves while performing. As for the masterbation someone mentioned, I find that it is true, if one does masterbate often to pornogaphy, they tend to get this expectation that sex will be exhilarating as what they watch, which it can be, but often people tend to dissillusion what sex is like because of it.

Enough said, it happens and isnt really a problem, your partner should be understanding of this. Dont sweat the small stuff.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

There are better things to worry about. Fucking is like pissing the bed, it works itself out on its own.

 

[necroerotica]

There are better things to worry about. Fucking is like pissing the bed, it works itself out on its own.

...... /facepalm