Men & Romance

[sixfeetundernea]

So, supposedly men do like romance... so I was wondering what the men here considered romantic, how often you like to do these things and have you ever cried because it was so intense in the moment?

 

[CNYCarol]

Men & Romance

2 words that should never be used in the same sentence.

 

[sixfeetundernea]

2 words that should never be used in the same sentence.

That confirms my suspicions.

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

Suspicions further confirmed by the lack of male responses here! Geez.

 

[bogusguy]

Candlelight dinner for two, bubble bath together, lots of touching and murmurs of sweet nothings in her ear, carrying her off tho bed, soft lights, intimate music. No have not cried from intimacy

 

[Sail45]

Now wait just a goldarn minute ...

Suspicions further confirmed by the lack of male responses here! Geez.

I feel obliged to speak up in defense of men. Having been married for a VERY long time, I can definitely say that I am the more romantic of the two. We men are not always all about only sex - we like romance too. It's just that we like the romance to take us in the direction of sex. After all, we ARE men and that's what we do.

 

[gabriel16]

Romance and men

Yes, men can be very romantic as well. They may not want to admit it, at least publicly. But the ways of expressing romantic feelings and interests are, or should be, as varied as relationships.

 

[daus42]

2 words that should never be used in the same sentence.

That's funny!!!! Not entirely true but a good stereotype.

 

[sixfeetundernea]

I feel obliged to speak up in defense of men. Having been married for a VERY long time, I can definitely say that I am the more romantic of the two. We men are not always all about only sex - we like romance too. It's just that we like the romance to take us in the direction of sex. After all, we ARE men and that's what we do.

Hell, I'm not against that. Do you do it though because you enjoy the romantic gestures or just so you'll get some in return?

 

[boutrosboutros]

Blow jobs are really romantic.

 

[Bonafide_Blonde]

Blow jobs are really romantic.

Especially by candlelight, right?

 

[boutrosboutros]

Especially by candlelight, right?

No, I was thinking while watching cricket or football.

 

[Sail45]

Hell, I'm not against that. Do you do it though because you enjoy the romantic gestures or just so you'll get some in return?

I do enjoy the romantic gestures. Sorry, but I just don't enjoy watching Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy on TV during dinner. I like dinner by candlelight with a great meal and good conversation with a good woman, and I'll be happy to cook. If I get some in return for being romantic that's great, but it's not the only reason for it.

 

[sixfeetundernea]

Why do men only do half assed romantic gestures if they're going to get some anyway? It's like a huge insult. I do not understand-y.

 

[jomar]

Romance is fine, but guys don't cry from the intensity of the moment. We might moan while pounding home a last few thrusts, collapse on you for a few then jump up for a high five, but cry? No.

 

[Ozfetishguy]

I overheard a conversation between two female work colleagues. One woman was complaining to the other that her male partner never did anything romantic. I asked if she had ever done anything romantic for him. She didn't say anything, but from the look on her face, I'm pretty confident the answer was ''no''.

This is what I don't get. Why should putting some romance into the relationship be the sole responsibility of the guy?

 

[FGB]

Well.

Given the chance to be myself I am a romantic SOB.

I'm am out of a long marriage with a woman that had no ideal what a hopeless romantic I am until after fifteen years with me. She put in not a little effort to kill any romance that might develop ASAP!

Flowers for no reason? Usually not even a thank you.

Valentine gifts? Not interested.
Go out to celebrate, food and whatever? Too much trouble.

Walk and talk under the stars at the beach or lake or mountains? To something.

What a fucking waste.

I need a Girlfriend who likes things like that and doesn't mind being spoiled a little bit and pampered some.

 

[thesweetsweetness]

I overheard a conversation between two female work colleagues. One woman was complaining to the other that her male partner never did anything romantic. I asked if she had ever done anything romantic for him. She didn't say anything, but from the look on her face, I'm pretty confident the answer was ''no''.

This is what I don't get. Why should putting some romance into the relationship be the sole responsibility of the guy?

Very good point.

If you (in general, you) asked me if my hubby was romantic, my answer would probably be a chuckle followed by, no, not really. But if I ask myself if I am romantic I would answer, yes- of course, when my actions say otherwise.

(PS.. Hi Oz!! )

 

[snoopydaddy59]

Why do men only do half assed romantic gestures if they're going to get some anyway? It's like a huge insult. I do not understand-y.

I love doing romantic things for my Girl! Many guys don't think about romance and in part cause it ain't macho or manly. I happen to think it's very manly!!-

 

[jackstud]

Agreed.

 

[klippert]

when Mrs K and I were dating (long distance) she thought is was romantic that I'd drive 6 hours to fuck her....

today...is i get mushy. she laughs.. though out of the blue card or flowers makes her smile then wonder what I did. But that's marriage. But, men shouldn't think they should be assholes all the time

 

[Ozfetishguy]

Very good point.

If you (in general, you) asked me if my hubby was romantic, my answer would probably be a chuckle followed by, no, not really. But if I ask myself if I am romantic I would answer, yes- of course, when my actions say otherwise.

(PS.. Hi Oz!! )

I guess romance is like a lot of things in a relationship - it only becomes an issue if one person has a different expectation from the other person.

Hi Sweetness!

 

[MissJW]

My husband is romantic. He's not over the top fancy but does treat me with making sure we get to have regular date nights, whether it's eating out, ice skating, walks, art galleries etc, sometimes equipped with candles, flowers, chocolates and all the rest. And I have to say I wouldn't give a damn about any of it if it wasn't sincere from him. I don't need any of that on our anniversary, but take me out on a Tuesday night and I'm sold!

And no, he hasn't teared up while we've been out eating, but indeed he has cried out of intimacy. Sometimes it's just overwhelmingly wonderful to be together

 

[Kitschshaman]

So, supposedly men do like romance... so I was wondering what the men here considered romantic, how often you like to do these things and have you ever cried because it was so intense in the moment?

In my experience, as a tribe men are more romantic than women. We want to kiss on the beach, embrace out under the stars, laugh together until our stomachs hurt, light the candles and listen to the surf. Have I cried from the intensity of the moment? Certainly and gotten the 'what kind of a man are you?' look from the gal. For me the physical act of intimacy IS romantic, the slower the better, an exchange of souls. I remember with one gal I was VERY serious with, we walked out on the beach, found a little place in the dunes protected from both the wind and prying eyes and spread out a blanket. The stars were incredible, the pounding of the surf amazing and she just didn't want to do ... anything. Just wanted to go home. Took another girl I was very serious with on a long walk in the most incredible woods, classic alpine environs, tumbling water over amazing rocks, whispering winds through the evergreens. Just wanted to have a picnic, light the SVEA stove for tea, have a little food and have a quiet talk of dreams. This was the middle of the day, mind you, and no thought of bumping fuzzies, just quiet emotional intimacy. What did she want to do? Go home. After a few experiences like this it becomes a case of 'why the hell do I try?' Yes, men are romantic as hell. But when we try we're turned down and when we cry from the pure intensity of our feelings we're thought of as less than a man. We try to be romantic but we're trained out of it by the responses. What's a guy to do?

 

[30bandits]

*googles "romance" real quick before responding*...