Meeting your Dom for the first time

[dragonlace]

I just wanted to get E/everyones thoughts on meeting your online Dom for the first time........aside from all the safety issues which i have heard about from E/everyone .....i wanna know about the emotional and physical responses one deals with when you take an intense personal experience into realtime

 

[NemoAlia]

Lancecastor once began a rather poetic thread on this topic, although it sadly didn't last as long as it should've.

And here's one that foxinsox started about building trust online, and how it carries over.

I know there are other spill-it-all threads on this subject, but I haven't catalogued 'em yet.

In the meantime, I guess my own input is: Meeting someone from online is a very personal thing. Everyone has different expectations of the first meeting. I, for one have never met anyone explicitly for the purpose of having sex. Some people prefer to know that there's sex or D/s on the immediate horizon. I think that the 'rules' are different depending on what you're aiming for. I mean, the same safety rules apply, but the personal touches are what make experiences unique.

 

[dragonlace]

Lancecastor once began a rather poetic thread on this topic, although it sadly didn't last as long as it should've.

And here's one that foxinsox started about building trust online, and how it carries over.

I know there are other spill-it-all threads on this subject, but I haven't catalogued 'em yet.

In the meantime, I guess my own input is: Meeting someone from online is a very personal thing. Everyone has different expectations of the first meeting. I, for one have never met anyone explicitly for the purpose of having sex. Some people prefer to know that there's sex or D/s on the immediate horizon. I think that the 'rules' are different depending on what you're aiming for. I mean, the same safety rules apply, but the personal
touches are what make experiences unique.

thanks for the information

 

[lark sparrow]

Hello lace,

Here are two links from the forum, a before and an after meeting thread, that may have a lot of useful information regarding the feelings of actual first time meetings in relationships started online.

Nervous Wreck

Follow Up

 

[dragonlace]

Hello lace,

Here are two links from the forum, a before and an after meeting thread, that may have a lot of useful information regarding the feelings of actual first time meetings in relationships started online.

Nervous Wreck

Follow Up

thanks alot i am a nervous wreck

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am sure some people would like to share their experiences here....is a good question I remember wondering about before my first ever meeting.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

I'd love to read some of the stories of people who've actually done this. God knows I've fantasized about it for a long time. I know beforehand I would be scared and stressed but so excited. The real out come that would be unpredictable to say the least.

To have a snap shot view into the fears, precautions and results (if any) would be mesmerizing I think.

*shivers and sighs*

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, well I will share, though censor some of the steamier bits. I spent several hours getting ready...not the norm for me, but this was special and once I picked him up from the airport we were heading to an apartment on the coast. He had sent me the money to pay for it etc., and I had driven the 2 hours up there earlier in the day to make sure everything was in order and try and collect my nerves before driving back to the airport to meet him. The unit was gorgeous, even had his favourite colour in the living room decor. I set everything up, including stocking the fridge and cupboards with lots of goodies I had cooked and baked so we wouldn't starve those first few hours.

Despite calculating the time well, I still seemed to be cutting it fine to leaving to the airport, but did make it in time. He had told me what to wear so I was decked out in cute short skirt, black top, high heels and stockings, corset and suspenders....lol, then I arrived at the airport and just moments bfore his flight landed one of the front suspenders broke throwing me into a complete panic. I decided I would change the back one around to the front and hope it held well enough....it did.

I went to stand by the international arrivals door, trying not to perspire with nerves, faint, or feel ill. I think it was clear I was excited and nervous all at once while I stood there, paced, reciting the words in my head he had told me he expected me to memorise and speak to him when we met. My head was spinning, my knees shaking, and then this nice older man standing near me waiting for his wife said "Whoever it is you are waiting for is going to be one happy fella when he claps his eyes on you"!! I nearly jumped out of my skin but soon realised he was being nice, not sleezy.

It seemed to take an eternity for F to come through the doors, but when he did our eyes met and we both knew this was it. He came around the barrier, (I remember seeing the gent who commented smiling to the side at us as he also waved to his wife) dropped his luggage beside us as he took me in his arms and kissed me passionately (and I mean very hot) while he slipped the collar around my neck and fastened it there. When we came up for air we found we had quite an audience. Then he stood back and asked if I had remembered the words he was expecting to here. My jead was spinning and somewhere there was a voice inside saying "oh Mama Mia are you one lucky bitch", and miraculously I whispered the words he was waiting for.

I remember feeling like I was floating on air as we went to the car....he swept me off my feet again in the car park, and then we drove what seemd far too long to where we were staying. The drive was fun as well as comfortable like we had known each other forever. Once we arrived, I fixed him a drink and our evening began and continued into the next day. We didn't emerge from the unit for a couple of days so it was lucky I had brought the food etc. I remember the first morning asking him if he was happy and still wanted to go as far as marriage...he thought I was mad to even have to ask. The rest is history so to speak and 4 1/4 years later we are just as sure as we were then and have continued to grow together.

This is a pic taken on our first night.

http://static.flickr.com/42/96207161_7c7df6df6e_m.jpg

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

That's a wonderful story Cat.

*sighs dreamily*

Once again you both inspire me.

Fury

 

[Bandit58]

I was the one who got on the plane to fly to Sydney to meet Master. It was late November 2003, it was my first time out of New Zealand and my first ever plane trip (3 hour flight). My tummy was doing butterflies the whole way. I couldn't concentrate on my book or the in flight movie.

The biggest drama came when I went to find my luggage only to realise my bag hadn't been unloaded from the plane It was on its way to Bangkok and so I had to go and report it missing, all the while realising that Master would be waiting for me. I couldn't call Him because He didn't have a mobile phone. Luckily He was still waiting there when I came through the doors, but He had been thinking I'd stood Him up or something. The look on His face when He saw me was wonderful! He later said that when He saw me coming down the ramp He lost His heart right there.

We went back to His place and an hour later I had had my first gspot orgasm all over the carpet Three days later we had decided this was the real thing and I returned to NZ after 3 weeks to organise my move to Australia. I arrived back two days before Australia Day 2004. Our wedding will take place in 5 weeks

 

[FurryFury]

Bandit that is another wonderful of success in a first time meeting. Thanks for sharing this story!

*sighs and smiles*

Fury

 

[Kailey_86]

Catalina, your story makes me feel a LITTLE better about my own first time meeting that is coming up in about a month. Eeek! It is the only thing that i can think of right now. i am so nervous and so excited at the same time. The butterflies have already found their home in my stomach. i can't think straight. i am lost in my own little dream world. Every possible "what if" has crossed my mind more than once. My mind hasn't stopped racing since i met Him. Will it ever stop? Do i want it to? 34 days left

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, Bandit do you think there is something in the air in Oz which makes these things happen for us so quick and so sure, and so damn good?!!

Catalina

 

[BiBunny]

The first time I met Master was, well, amazing. I was at my parents' house during Spring Break. He lives in the next town over, so we decided to finally meet. (It had taken him several months to convince me, LOL.) I remember that it was pouring down rain and rather chilly outside. I needed new blades on my windshield wipers; the one on the driver's side didn't move water off the windshield AT ALL. I remember driving down the road, having to look out the passenger's side of the windshield to be able to see! I was already nervous enough, and the fact that I was afraid I'd wreck my car before I got there made it even worse. What was normally a 15-minute drive took more like 30 minutes.

I managed to make it to our meeting place intact. He was already there. I pulled my car up next to his and pretended to fumble with my purse, my cell phone, my keys, whatever I could get my hands on to give myself a few extra seconds to calm down. I hopped out of my car and scurried into his because it was still raining pretty hard. The first time I really laid eyes on him, I had to keep my lips sealed to keep from drooling. The man was hot, and the attraction was instantaneous, at least on my part.

Anyway, we just sat there making small talk for a few minutes, and then he asked if I'd like to ride around town with him and maybe go get something to eat. I agreed, and we ended driving around for over an hour. This, I'm sure, was solely for my benefit because he told me much later that he'd been afraid I was going to faint dead away because I looked so scared! (I'm not good with meeting new people.) I tried talking some, but ended up making myself sound totally stupid, so I gave up.

Finally, we stopped at a certain place, and he asked if I was sure. I nodded, and the next thing I knew, I was cuffed and being led inside. Even though I was still quite nervous, we had a wonderful time. At one point, he looked at me and asked, "Do you need a kiss?" Inwardly, I was rolling my eyes because I hated affection in general and kissing in particular. I said yes, though, not wanting to sound like a bitch. He pulled me close to him and kissed me, and, in that moment, I knew I was his for as long as he wanted me. I'd never enjoyed the kiss of a man before, but apparently that night was the first time for a lot of things.

We played for awhile, and then we got back in his car. We went through the drive-thru at McDonald's, me still wearing a collar (which eventually ended up being the collar he gave me when I became his slave) and cuffs. I was convinced I'd see someone I knew. (Small towns!) I didn't, and he bought us both something to eat. We ate on the way back to my car. He unlocked me from the collar and cuffs, told me to be careful and that he'd see me the next day, and kissed me goodnight. I drove home, still looking out the passenger's side of my windshield!

We had two more wonderful meetings that week. Not too long ago, he asked me jokingly if I'd had any idea that he'd become my Master. In all seriousness, I told him I knew it when I first laid eyes on him. It was the truth.

 

[Bandit58]

LOL, Bandit do you think there is something in the air in Oz which makes these things happen for us so quick and so sure, and so damn good?!!

Catalina

I think we both knew before we laid eyes on each other, but both of us having been burned in the past (me with an emotionally abusive ex, He with a previous wife who did much the same thing) made us very cautious about mentioning the "L" word.....it seems amusing now when we look back The second I was in His arms I felt so safe and I'll never forget the look in His eyes when I drew back after our first kiss.....

 

[FurryFury]

Bi Bunny that is another wonderful account of meeting for the first time. Thanks for sharing.

Fury

 

[BiBunny]

Bi Bunny that is another wonderful account of meeting for the first time. Thanks for sharing.

Fury

You're quite welcome, Miss Fury.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I just wanted to get E/everyones thoughts on meeting your online Dom for the first time........aside from all the safety issues which i have heard about from E/everyone .....i wanna know about the emotional and physical responses one deals with when you take an intense personal experience into realtime

It was one of the most marvelous experiences of my life. I spent 2 weeks shopping for the right clothes and stuff... that was so fun. Had a manicure and pedicure done... ;-) eyebrows waxed... lol all the girly stuff.

And then the first time I saw him, standing at the bottom of the stairs and he kissed me... it was just magical. An experience I won't ever forget.

 

[FurryFury]

It was one of the most marvelous experiences of my life. I spent 2 weeks shopping for the right clothes and stuff... that was so fun. Had a manicure and pedicure done... ;-) eyebrows waxed... lol all the girly stuff.

And then the first time I saw him, standing at the bottom of the stairs and he kissed me... it was just magical. An experience I won't ever forget.

Sounds wonderfully anticipatory and magical indeed!

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I think it should be said, though I rather hate to say it, that not all stories of first meetings can be as magical and perfect as these. If you have had an imperfect meeting or even a bad one I bet those too would be instructive for the OP.

Fury

 

[rexfelis]

I'm looking forward to discovering what it's like to meet a sub for the first time.

 

[JMohegan]

I'm looking forward to discovering what it's like to meet a sub for the first time.

Really? Were you speaking hypothetically in this post?

 

[rexfelis]

Really? Were you speaking hypothetically in this post?

Not at all. My slave is already physically a part of my life. My candidate, she is on her way to that... but she's not here yet. We'll be meeting in the not too distant future, and then as it is possible, she will be spending more and more time with us.

So... not hypothetical. And I am pretty sure I know how it'll go to meet her, but still, I wonder.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Well, when I met My slave in person for the first time, it was an awesome expierence. I'll let her tell the story, but suffice to say i took control right away...

 

[exec1101]

Online D/s

At the risk of creating an e-tempest in an e-teapot, I have never understood online D/s. The intensity from being in a R/T relationship with someone would appear to be missing when conducted online. Isn't it a lot like skydiving, minus the airplane and parachute?