Mean

[destinie21]

Why are woman so mean?

K. and I saw a woman that we went to school with while we were out today. The woman say oh K I didn't recognize you, you've gotten so fat. K was a size 2 in school now she's a 6 by no stretch of the imagination is she fat. I wanted to punch this chick right in her mouth. Anyway she lingered for a bit then she notices the rings and says oh you are both getting married, how nice. I laughed and explained to the idiot we were "marrying" each other. She says to me why would you be gay you can get a man. That was the second time she'd insulted my wife within 20 minutes plus made a totally idiotic comment. When we were leaving K whispers to me "Do you think I'm fat"
God help me if I see that woman again. I don't know how people deal with having to defend their spouse.


Ps: It really was a shame when I dropped german choclate cake all over said woman's white suit. Who knew I was so clumsy?

 

[Guest]

Mean Women

 

[bridgeburner]

Favorite first impulse alternate responses to a bitchslap:

"How rude." Give the Southern Lady Condescending Look of Disdain then cut her dead and walk away.

"Obviously any woman can get a man, but I wouldn't fuck you with a stolen pussy."

I love that you dropped chocolate cake on her. Too bad you couldn't accidentally have shoved her in front of a bus. This kind of petty cruelty makes my blood boil.


-B

 

[Icingsugar]

Why are woman so mean?

Because they are pepole. Pepole can be dumb, mean bastards.

The woman say oh K I didn't recognize you, you've gotten so fat. K was a size 2 in school now she's a 6 by no stretch of the imagination is she fat.

I know nada about sizes, so I'll take your word for it. But to the issue at hand: You looked happy, you looked beutiful, she is neither, got envious, and desperatly lashed out (in a really clumsy way) at anything whatsoever. Just a guess...

Anyway she lingered for a bit then she notices the rings and says oh you are both getting married, how nice. I laughed and explained to the idiot we were "marrying" each other. She says to me why would you be gay you can get a man. That was the second time she'd insulted my wife within 20 minutes plus made a totally idiotic comment.

That's her loss for being a moron. She just insulted herself. Shoulda just laugh in her sad face and walked away. Preferrably hand in hand, or something like that.

When we were leaving K whispers to me "Do you think I'm fat"

What Lime said. Tread carefully.

 

[ffreak]

NO SHE IS NOT FAT!

single digit sizes - I can still put my hands around a waist that fits such a little figure and touch fingers.

-FF (this is where you need a really large friend who sits on her and says something like, damn these chairs are uncomfortable, and then wiggles to try to get the cushion right.)

ps. in parts of the south, hearing an insult thrown in the direction of one's wife calls for defending her honor and is considered a legitimate defense to the assault perpetrated against her.

pps. don't know if you can get to the internet if having to raise bail.

ppps. sorry about shouting.

 

[Couture]

"Hey, you know what? I think we are going to turn you into our little bitch."

 

[MaxSebastian]

Women can be much more unpleasant than men. It's because when they want to be mean, they're so much more psychological about it.

When a guy wants to be mean, as in many things in life he's much more simple. He'll call you a 'dick' or something, maybe question your sexuality. But most people with shrug that off, that's nothing.

But women, if they want to be cruel, they can seriously fuck you up psychologically. That's why when you hear about the problem of bullying in schools, the really bad cases are quite often females bullying other females. They can be really biting, it can lead to suicide - they really know how to cut into someone.

Guys are simple in that respect, I think. You're a dick. Oooh. That really hurts my feelings. Girls can get under the surface of "sticks and stones" and really hurt.

 

[Icingsugar]

"Hey, you know what? I think we are going to turn you into our little bitch."

Or just "Tried all flavours, have we? No? Come back when ya have."

/Ice - did, made up my mind, and are thus entitled to speak

 

[LorriLove]

hmmmmmm

you got to be sure she meant to be mean though, first time seeing someone in years can result in total brain shut down as you try to think of something sensible to say to them. you know sod all about them or how they now live.

i'm a classic example of a person who puts her foot in it every time i open my mouth to old buddies who i aint seen for years. "how's your hubby", "umm he died six yrs ago", "oh yes of course, he's still dead then". maybe not that bad but you know what i mean, giggle.

the reference to the gay thing could have been the reseult of said brain shut down and mixed with shock, i'm bi, you're gay, we don't think a shit about it, some folks go into shock though.

good on you for splatting her with the cake though, just in case she meant it like

 

[destinie21]

as far as the fat thing goes K is a little self conscious about her weight because she used to be so small. No matter what size a woman is initially if she gains more than 10 pounds the am I fat question is going to enter her mind. I told her I think she's perfect and of course she's not fat and even if she was who cares? I love who she is not her outside appearances. She'll always be beautiful to me because I love her. I had to drop the cake on the little bitch because I knew after what she said K wouldn't touch it and I'm certainly not fool enough to eat cake in front of a woman who's just been called fat. That is never a road you want to travel. If I wanted to spend the night in a holding center I would have punched the Bitch right in her face. There's no way to say oops sorry your honor I accidentally punched her, instead I did what I knew would have upset me the most. I ruined a perfectly good designer suit granted it was an off the rack number but it still cost at bare minimum 700 for the jacket and 350 for the skirt. And Godiva chocolate doesn't come out. Too bad she shouldn't have been wearing summer white after labor day any damn way,

 

[ffreak]

she shouldn't have been wearing summer white after labor day any damn way

See, she has no taste.

-FF (so if guys with big muscles have small dicks, what is the comparison women make about other women?)

 

[MathGirl]

Originally posted by destinie21 Too bad she shouldn't have been wearing summer white after labor day any damn way,

Dear Des,
I can't believe anyone would be so (pardon the expression) gauche. Even if it's 100 degrees in the shade, there is absolutely no excuse for that. Even if she hadn't been rude, just the outfit should have barred her from polite company.
Fashionably,
MG

 

[Guest]

if guys with big muscles have small dicks, what is the comparison women make about other women?

Eff, I can't think of a common slur, but the worst thing I can say about another woman is that I doubt she has a cunt.

Perdita

 

[destinie21]

-FF (so if guys with big muscles have small dicks, what is the comparison women make about other women?) [/B][/QUOTE]


See that's the thing eff a woman doesn't have to say a word to you to let her feelings be known. Often K and I will share a look across the room and in that brief moment we've discussed volumes. A woman can look you in the eye and smile and when she's gone you feel as if you've been slapped in the face.

 

[Just_John1]

A new quarter heard from

Destinie,

You've really started me thinking about some of the differences in lifestyle and the trials and tribulations you must go through. In a traditional Male/female relationship I would've decked anyone that said anything like that to my significant other. You can't really do that. Your desire to protect your loved one, your wife, sorry, is no different and no less than mine.

Of course you walk that same dangerous line I do when asked that terrible question... "Do you think I'm fat?" How do you explain to your wife that she may have changed some with age, we all do (don't get me wrong, a size 6 I'm assuming in us sizes is tiny, a goal to dream about but never acheive for the vast majority of women) but that she is no less beautiful than that first wonderful day you fell in love with her, or realized you were in love with her. That she is still desirable without her thinking you're patronizing her... But I digress (If you have insight I'd gladly take your advice).

I really do wonder what the appropriate approach would be. I think the cake idea was brilliant, but short of reaching back and breaking body parts what do you do?

It doesn't matter what her motivation was or why people are just so fucking ignorant, or perhaps outright cruel sometimes. I feel for you, I want to deck this bitch for you (although I know you don't need my help) and I thank you for opening my eyes a little wider. everyonce in a while you read something, it may be small it may be just a comment or an experience likie this that affects you. This did.

JJ1

 

[Jenny _S]

Little lives breed little minds, Des. There are only two things you can do in this situation. (1) Just ignore the muthafuka or (2) a damn good knee in the crotch works well.

 

[ffreak]

So that's why I can't ever keep up - telepathy.

I knew it, women really are from Venus. Well, at least the good looking smart ones.

Let me tell you what I think the value is of being able to see beauty. There is no price on earth that can equal the intangible radiance of love. It glows all around us. In other people and their rapture, in the polish of a piece of earth's hardness, in the moving waters of a clear brook, even in the soft lushness of a fresh peach. To see and experience a smile or a tear, to hear a friends voice, to answer a letter; any of these moments are worth every insult, every effort we must make to find the next moment.

OK, so much for the Harlequin - what that means, Mrs. D, is all you got to do is keep doing what you're doing.

See, that's the other reason I know men and women are from different planets. It takes me all these words and you just look at one another. Like I said, telepathy.

-FF (I always did love science fiction)

ps. Oh, yeah, we already know you're both beautiful.

 

[OldnotDead]

Small minds

Des,

Either you and K shrug it off, or you start taking lessons in conversational judo. The thought process is that of all the martial arts, Judo is most focused on taking an attacking person's energy and momentum and, using what amounts to deflection, steering that attacker in a direction more favorable to the defender.

As an illustrative example . . .

WIB (Worthless Ignorant Bitch): "Oh, K, I'm sorry, I didn't recognize you since you've gained weight."

K : "That's OK, WIB, I wasn't sure myself if I should say hello. I couldn't tell if you were your mother or just looked so much older these days."

OldnotDead <--who, unfortunately, thinks of these good ones far too slowly sometimes.

 

[DirtyJJ]

That woman sounds like the biggest bitch in the world, and extremely ignorant, both about being "fat" and about why two women would want to marry each other. A size 6 is nowhere near fat - I am a size 10/12 and am NOT "fat". And how ridiculous to ask why you would be gay when you could get a man.


I love that you dropped cake on her.

 

[MathGirl]

A size 6 is nowhere near fat

Dear DJJ,
I suppose that's a matter of perspective. A size 6 seems HUGE to me.
Runtishly,
MG

 

[BlackSnake]

...I don't know how people deal with having to defend their spouse.


Ps: It really was a shame when I dropped german choclate cake all over said woman's white suit. Who knew I was so clumsy?

OK, this is a respect issue. Men generally respect each other when there are sponses about, but when they don't it's "Smack Down" time.

 

[BlackSnake]

Dear DJJ,
I suppose that's a matter of perspective. A size 6 seems HUGE to me.
Runtishly,
MG

Maybe you need to take the fun-house mirror out of your bathroom.

 

[Icingsugar]

Re: Small minds

Des,

Either you and K shrug it off, or you start taking lessons in conversational judo. The thought process is that of all the martial arts, Judo is most focused on taking an attacking person's energy and momentum and, using what amounts to deflection, steering that attacker in a direction more favorable to the defender.

Yes! That's the definition I've been looking for for years. "conversational judo".

It's the best skill there is in countless social situations, the one that kept me out of striking distance through grade school, the one that keeps me from using my striking distance on arrogant snots these days. One that sould be practiced on a daily basis.

 

[gauchecritic]

There are several methods which will completely negate the "Does my bum look big in this?" syndrome.

1. DO NOT work in the fashion industry.

2. Remove all traces of media from the home.

3. Become fat. And I mean fat. Then you don't care half so much.

4. Have all girlfriends/boyfriends hit on her daily.

The last one would be easiest to achieve. 'Worth' is so much more alluring/ego boosting than (lack of) weight

I can offer absolutely zero advice on things unsaid by women.

And if you are asked again about being or looking fat, do not hesitate, do not pause, do not size the person up. Answer immediately, with a 'like you need to ask' shrug and short laugh/exhalation and utter conviction "No".

Welcome to spouseland.

Gauche

A disbelieving/surprised look at the WIB for daring to say this when she looks like that would have worked too.

 

[oggbashan]

Conversational Judo

Winston Churchill was a mean exponent:

Bessie Braddock MP: Winston you are drunk.

Winston: Yes. You, Bessie, are ugly. I will be sober in the morning.

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Lady Astor: If you were my husband I'd poison you.

Winston: If you were my wife I'd drink it.

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Og