Masturbation help - please!

[daisygirl53705]

Hi everyone,
I'm new here and need some help....
I've never had sex but would like to orgasm to see what it feels like.
I've been trying to masturbate for a month or so now - have been to several websites including clitical, bettydodson, etc - and no luck. (btw, i've been doing most clit-based things, using only fingers)

I'll get really wet, start getting intense shaky feelings of *wow this feels good* and then thats it - I am still aroused and wet but sensation comes to a halt...

I guess my questions are:
1) Is that my orgasm?
2) How else can I help myself achieve orgasm?

thanks,
daisy

Edited to add: PS I'm female/21 - I don't know if it matters or not..

 

[Jimmy Buzzard]

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http://www.solotouch.com/home.php

Have a good time.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

Hi everyone,
I'm new here and need some help....
I've never had sex but would like to orgasm to see what it feels like.
I've been trying to masturbate for a month or so now - have been to several websites including clitical, bettydodson, etc - and no luck. (btw, i've been doing most clit-based things, using only fingers)

I'll get really wet, start getting intense shaky feelings of *wow this feels good* and then thats it - I am still aroused and wet but sensation comes to a halt...

I guess my questions are:
1) Is that my orgasm?
2) How else can I help myself achieve orgasm?

thanks,
daisy

Edited to add: PS I'm female/21 - I don't know if it matters or not..

I am not an expert.....but it sounds like either that is your orgasm or you are on the brink of more. I had a hard time when I was younger (high school age) figuring out what was what and nobody to ask. I did find that the wetter the better and of course used reading as my means to get there. Reading stories here on lit can get me soaking wet and very worked up. The longer I wait to touch the quicker I orgasm once I start.

Of course when I was younger I didn't have anything to help but a book, my hand/fingers, a pillow, and yes I was desperate so some balled up socks. If you are able I would suggest some sort of vibrator. I was afraid of them and not sure how to get one until my boyfriend (now husband) got me one as a gift. At first it felt odd and almost bad, but now I LOVE IT! I have graduated to something that stimulates multiple areas and use it when going solo.

I would try something like that.....at least to get you closer. I have found my orgasms are always different. If it's been awhile they may be more intense but quick. If I am really into it with my partner they will last longer. The better you know what to do to yourself the more you will be able to direct someone else.

I think it's all about experiementing with what you have and going from there.
Good luck!

 

[LadyJeanne]

1) No, that wasn't your orgasm. It does mean you're on your way, though.

2) When the shaky wow feeling subsides, it means you've hit a 'plateau' on the way to orgasm. Think of it like changing gears - there's always that pause before you accelerate in the higher gear.

That's when you should take a deep breath and kinda start arousing yourself all over again using different strokes and touches. Add more lubrication, and keep going. It might happen more than once, but you'll get there.

Also, fantasize while you're masturbating. Helps get you over the edge. Try the shower attachment if you have one, or try one of those egg vibes.

Have fun!

 

[SubNebGuy]

I too think you were 'almost there' but probably because of your mental fixation, didn't quite hit it.

I'm assuming you're 18...and could purchase a small vibrator. you might like a 'pocket rocket' type which is small and mainly for clit stimulation. Or try a smooth vibrator that's longer and an inch thick/wide, which will be good for both clitoral and vaginal stimulation (penetration might be the trigger to push you over the edge).

 

[ickle_stace]

if you're getting to that shaky place and thinking to yourself "i'm gonna cum" then you're wanting it too badly, and sometimes that means it don't happen because you're concentrating on cumming too much

just need to relax and enjoy the feelings, and like people have suggested, try toys

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

I know exactly what your saying. I was the same way, I was like that can't be it. Ya just gotta keep going. Try with some music or the tv on so that it distracts your mind. The stories here are really good. I'm the kind of person that would rather read a story then have some fun rather then watching a video. A small cheap (unscary) vibe might help too.

 

[daisygirl53705]

wow all great ideas! thanks!
It's good to know that I'm on the way to orgasm but not quite there yet. I was a bit worried that the "shaky feeling" was it - and while it feels great, it's not the wow/woo feeling I was expecting.

I'll definitely investigate and then purchase a vibrator (I think I saw a thread on that in the blank book) - thanks for that idea
Can I cum while using a vibrator if I haven't cum solo?

Thanks so much for all your help,
daisy

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

wow all great ideas! thanks!
It's good to know that I'm on the way to orgasm but not quite there yet. I was a bit worried that the "shaky feeling" was it - and while it feels great, it's not the wow/woo feeling I was expecting.

I'll definitely investigate and then purchase a vibrator (I think I saw a thread on that in the blank book) - thanks for that idea
Can I cum while using a vibrator if I haven't cum solo?

Thanks so much for all your help,
daisy

HUGE YES, although for me it is different with. I usually like to use it to help me get going and then finish things without it. Again a personal preference.

 

[KarenDee]

I'll definitely investigate and then purchase a vibrator (I think I saw a thread on that in the blank book) - thanks for that idea
Can I cum while using a vibrator if I haven't cum solo?

Oh definitely! I can be in the equilibrium type of moment, neither here nor there, just enjoying things. But turn on that vibe and rub it across my clit and I go from there to WOWZA in no time flat! This is not to say it will be the same for you. Everyone has preferences and different things that arouse them. I don't orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, I need clitoral stimulation, and the softer, more gentle, and more teasing it is the better.

Don't be afraid to try things, experimentation will teach you a lot about your body. And when you start having sex with someone, it will help you enjoy it that much more.

 

[Chicklet]

I have to say, I didn't orgasm until I'd been masturbating for years (although I started 10 or so younger than you) - so be patient and don't be too disapointed if you don't cum right away if it feels good, though, who cares what's going on.