Marshmallows...

[Mr. Bootie]

I'm finished now, It's your turn.

Yes, Distraction is my middle name. How else do you think I stay out of trouble. It goes back to my days of playing football. I was a running back. You have to be "shifty." Never let the opponent know where you are going. Let him think that you are going one way, then run the other. This philosophy has stayed with me. Be Careful I'm VERY VERY deceptive. That is deceptive, not deceitful. (SMILE)

kgboot

 

[Cheyenne]

Someone answer me this:

I know this girl that I am totally crazy about. We've known each other for a few years now, and had our share of sexual encounters. But everytime I want to get more serious, she says that she can never be with me......why? She says that I am TOO nice!!!! Since when is that a bad thing?

Does anyone know how someone can be TOO nice?
And what can I do to rectify this situation....be mean to her?

First, I have no idea if this applies to you or not. But, here's a story for you.

Almost 20 years ago, my sister brought home a new boy friend. I instantly disliked him. A very strong dislike, not even just a "maybe." When people asked me why, all I could say was he was "too nice." By that, I meant he was not believable. Not human. He came across as Eddie Haskel from the old Leave it to Beaver TV show. All sweet for the family members, like you could stick a hot poker up his ass and he'd smile sweetly, bend over and say "thank you, may I have another?"

My sister knew from day one what I thought of this guy. She took her time, but eventually married him anyway. And yes, I tried my best to talk her out of it. So did my dad, I found out years later. She didn't listen. Most people probably wouldn't.

Guess what though. We were right all along. It took her many years of marriage before she decided she had to divorce him and get away. But the whole time, he was bad and getting worse. She just never told us what his real personality was like. We only ever saw the "Eddie Haskel" version. Now we all see his real personality, and I can't imagine what her life has been like living with him. He is a major control freak, the kind of guy you read about in the newspaper who would kill his family and himself just because he can't have his way. I worry about my sister. I don't want her to be a headline.

This probably isn't you at all. But when I say someone is "too nice"- this is what I'm talking about. Too nice as in being "fake" to hide something real in your personality.

 

[willywanker]

Here is another view, Cheyenne

Growing up, I was the guy all the mothers wanted their daughters to go out with, nice kid who went to church, got good grades, wasn't in trouble. And yes, I did have trouble getting dates as a teenager.

But my point of view now is sooooooooooooo different. Now I'm the father, my thirteen year old daughter is pushing the limits to get to spend time with her boyfriend. She is still to young to go out on dates but she is always looking for opprotunities to spend time with him. Now the problem, she and everyone else keep telling me what a good kid he is. Well, I can still remember what I wanted at that age, and it wasn't to hold hands!!!!!!! My daughter keeps telling me I don't trust her and I keep telling her that is a parents job. Teenage hormones, and they are forcing me to take a stand a lot sooner than I hoped I would have too.

Any advice gang?

 

[TN_Vixen]

Re: Touble is......

If you're a marshmallow, you can end up skewered and toasted.

OR

you could be held over the coals until you're nice and warm and gooey inside and then have someone lick you until you melt on the outside and then they stick their tongue inside to the sticky part.. eating all the delicious inside parts.

;-)

 

[Harpoon]

Now if we just had chocolate and graham wafers

we could make s'mores

 

[Boxstar]

Cheyenne:

This girl doesn't think I'm fake because we are really good friends. I've never been dishonest with her ever. She always tries to visit me at school, and we always have a great time together. I just don't get it....this girl has been frustrating me for about 2 years now. Oh and here's another kick in the crotch.

Even though she tells me that I'm "too nice" she always complains that sometimes I am mean to her. OH COME ON....GIVE ME A BREAK!!!

 

[Weird Harold]

Re: Here is another view, Cheyenne

...she and everyone else keep telling me what a good kid he is. Well, I can still remember what I wanted at that age, and it wasn't to hold hands!!!!!!! My daughter keeps telling me I don't trust her and I keep telling her that is a parents job.

What I told my daughters: "I do trust you. It's his teenage hormones I don't trust."