Married Posters Poll

[jocular_guy]

I have enjoyed all the interesting individuals on Lit and am curious about other's perspectives.

I know all couples have boundaries with their sex lives. I guess we can all assume that physical contact without the spouse's knowledge is "cheating." But what level of non-contact would you consider cheating? So I created a poll.

-For this poll please only answer if you are married or have a very significant other.
-Answer from your perspective
-Assume that none if this is done without the SO's knowledge

If there is enough interest in this poll, I would like to do some more maybe for women only, for singles, etc.

Do I sound like a scientist? If so, I am a very horny one.

 

[lovetoread]

All of the above.

 

[lilminx]

Is English your first language?

 

[jocular_guy]

Yes, English is my first language. And I know why you ask, but I do live in the world of mathematical and musical languages. I don't always transition well.

By the way the thread that prompted this poll is:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=247605&perpage=25&pagenumber=1

 

[rozezwild]

Depends on your situation- do you have an open relationship or do you have an exclusive one and then depends on the boundries that you and your "other" have set

 

[Slider69]

You forgot the "beating a dead horse" option...

 

[fond of facials]

My hubby and I agree that cheating is doing something without the other person's knowledge. In general hubby doesn't like me having cybersex but we have one friend we both trust and I'm allowed to have all the cyber sex I want with him. We have another friend who is allowed to give me oral sex but no intercourse. Hubby knows everything that goes on and he's fine with it. He wants to have a threesome with me and another woman, I'm fine with that as long as I choose the woman. If we're doing something sexual with another person the other one has to know about it, what's going to happen and aprove it. It's not for everyone, but it works for us.

 

[Lorrie Flash]

Depends on your situation- do you have an open relationship or do you have an exclusive one and then depends on the boundries that you and your "other" have set

Best answer. I would say that too.

 

[mystic_maiden32]

Depends on your situation- do you have an open relationship or do you have an exclusive one and then depends on the boundries that you and your "other" have set

ditto

 

[ksmybuttons]

I voted wrong. The whole poll is now invalid. Scrub the election!

 

[looking4it]

Depends on your situation- do you have an open relationship or do you have an exclusive one and then depends on the boundries that you and your "other" have set

i have to agree...cheating is in the eye of the one being cheated on, not the one cheating

 

[looking4it]

I voted wrong. The whole poll is now invalid. Scrub the election!

ack....i'll have to remember how i voted now



wait....let the supreme court decide whether its still valid or not

 

[short_circutz]

Depends on your situation- do you have an open relationship or do you have an exclusive one and then depends on the boundries that you and your "other" have set

I definately agree. As long as your partner is aware of it, and you both agree to it, and no secrets are kept from each other in regards to any "extra cirricular" activites, then there is no harm.

 

[Guest]

I think it depends...is the SO on any type of medication?
I mean, I've known people to go off the deep end at just the mere mention of someone else's name, even if that person is faaaaaaarrrrrrrrr in the past.

 

[sunstruck]

You forgot "other".

Anything remotely sexual involving another human being that you have to keep from or lie to your spouse about.

That's the common Lit definition on the 341 threads that have asked this question.

 

[short_circutz]

I mean, I've known people to go off the deep end at just the mere mention of someone else's name, even if that person is faaaaaaarrrrrrrrr in the past.

If thats the case, then the said person is not secure in their relationship.

When I'm with someone long term, I trust them explicitely. When there is trust like that, there's no room for jealousy or possessiveness.

 

[Holly Delight]

I don't know. I love porn.

 

[Luminary]

married posters poll

I would have to say meeting up and watches each other masturbate.
People this is a erotic web site and the reason for it's success is the fact that all these things go on here.
All of this is right and this is wrong is kind of crazy.
If all this is wrong then none of us need to be here.

 

[sundragon22]

In my opinion, meeting with another person is considered cheating. Escpecially if you lie about it or hide it from your spouse.

 

[red_rose]

If your S.O. knows about it, then none of it is really cheating, if you ask me.

Er... correction. If your S.O. knows about it and is okay with it.

 

[fond of facials]

If your S.O. knows about it, then none of it is really cheating, if you ask me.

Er... correction. If your S.O. knows about it and is okay with it.

You put that a lot more clearly than I did. I (and hubby) feel the same way.

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

Sundragon22

In my opinion, meeting with another person is considered cheating. Escpecially if you lie about it or hide it from your spouse.

I agree that if you meet them its cheating.. I dont consider online or phone sex love making to be cheating... Its more fantasy fullfillment...

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

To Sundragon22 and Dreams4Sale

Re: trend

quote:
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Originally posted by sundragon22
I think I am begining to see a trend here, it seems to me that a lot of women are losing interest in the sex life part of their relationships. I am however curious about the whole picture.
I am by no means being judgemental, but I have to wonder what the other side of the coin is. It puzzles me, and perhaps there are other things wrong with the relationship and the lack of sex is just a by product.
I have not chatted with anyone to delve into this aspect, so if anyone has an opion, I would be very interested to hear it.

I've been married 20 yrs. For the last 10 years my wife has all but lost all intrest in sex. We are I guess middle class career people with teenage kids. I've tried about everything one could try to spark her intrest but to no avail. For her sex once every two to three months is all she feels is needed. I am totally different I can go three times a day everyday lol. For the first 4 years of our relationship the sex was pretty hot and wild and then it was like the faucet was turned off after our second child was born.
She doesn't know I come here and would totally object as she would if she knew of the two or three lovers I have had in the last 5 years. So I guess I'll keep looking for that other lonely housewife that I know is safe and keep my sexual drive going.

Dreams4sale.. If I didnt know better, I would say you were me!! Been married 22 years and our family and sexual situation is nearly identical. Only difference is we only have sex once every 4 months!!

My wife doesnt know I am here either, and she wouldnt be happy either... I have had several wonderful lovers online over the years but have NEVER r/t met any of them and have been 100% celebate our entire marriage. As badly as I need sex, I care about our marrige but have been finding the need to have more reqular physical contact more and more. Plus I am finding that my need to explore sexual fantasys and fetishes is growing stronger as well. We attempt to talk but she just doesnt need it at all.. Oh well....

As long as I can continue to find similar frustrated wonderful women in Lit, I keep sane!! Ps.. There are some incredibly erotic women online that have helped me to have some of the most intense and powerful phone sex, cam sex that I could have ever imagined!! A few have even preferred to call it making love on the phone.. and honestly, it has felt that way!! So as long as there are wonderful, sexy, and erotic people here.. many of you have no idea how we are keeping our marriages together through our contacts!!

PS.. Sundragon22... Love your Av!!!!

 

[CaLadyInRed69]

In my opinion, meeting with another person is considered cheating. Escpecially if you lie about it or hide it from your spouse.

I would have to agree to this one.... then again, as with beauty, it is all in the eye of the beholder (cheatee).

 

[bad kitty]

To me "Cheating" is defined by one partner engaging in anything that is not agreed upon and they know it is something their significant other wouldn't approve of. Cheating involves sneaking around and anything short of complete honesty.