Married Men: Sex Frequency (Reality vs Preferred)

[MikeJohnsonCypress]

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[thinkingofyou3000]

Your experience is fairly real world when married to a woman with a much less sex drive! There are those women, many of them here on Lit, who have a higher sex drive, but that tends to be the minority. I am only saying in the minority, not that there are only a few women with high sex drives. Often as work and kids come along, the priorities change and the enrgy is not the same. It can also happen for the men too.

 

[EndOfThis]

We average about 1x per month.

If we went based off my libido we would probably be 3x week.

Obviously, the gap between reality and preference is pretty big.

Wife is trying to compromise at 1x per week. I would honestly be happy with that.

The other issue for us is I crave oral sex. She doesn't like it (giving or receiving). I love both. In the last year she has only performed oral twice, and only as foreplay and neither time to completion.

 

[Bicurious4safeplay]

I also only have it a couple times a month. 3-4 a week would be desired.

 

[AskMeVic]

We average 3-4 times a week. Some weeks more, some weeks less, but it's extremely rare a week goes by without.

If I had my way we would start everyday with a wake up session and end everyday with an orgasm before sleep.

 

[gtnlynn]

Used to be weekly, but now it's twice a month. I liked it every week, but I won't complain about the current frequency. I think less frequent sex helps both of us get horny by the time sex time rolls around.

 

[guns44]

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[PleasePeesMe]

This reminds me

of Annie Hall.
ALVY'S THERAPIST: How often do you sleep together?

ALVY: Hardly ever. Maybe three times a week.

ANNIE'S THERAPIST: Do you have sex often?

ANNIE: Constantly. I'd say three times a week.

 

[Spenser41]

Ok this is a major joke for me.

I would love daily but

I have not had sex since 2010.... So it is ALL Fantasy...

 

[hottyscotty22]

This thread is depressing as fuck.

 

[Spenser41]

This thread is depressing as fuck.

No Shit Sherlock...

 

[KUJACK]

Sad but ttue

Sad but true it's been 6 months
I want it once a week
I masterbate about 5 times a week
Edge every day

 

[nyc1975]

"Don't it always seem to go/That you don't know what you've got till it's gone", Joni Mitchell

To echo what Spenser41 said, when frequency goes to zero, you will yearn for any other level. Prostate surgery took care of that for me in 2012. Permanent impotence since then.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

About once or twice a month.
I would settle for anything north of that

 

[curiouschattycouple]

We have sex at least once a week. I'd like it to be 3 or 4 times a week, but she is pretty happy with where it is, although there are pleasant exceptions where we hit 3-4 times a week (or even in 24 hrs).

 

[StormyWindows]

A good month a few times...Desired a few times a week would be nice but does it always have to be sex...could be fooling around, handjob, licking, wathing porn together or whatever...

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Frequency has changed drastically over time. In our 20s, we averaged 15-20 times a week. That is not an exaggeration. There was nothing we enjoyed more than fucking.

Having kids cut that way down, but we still averaged 5-10 times a week throughout our 30s and early 40s.

When we hit our 50s, stress slowed us way down, to maybe 1 time every 2 months. We were having problems, and sex was not on the table very often.

But things improved a few years ago, and we're back to about once a week. I would be happy 2-3 times a week, but once keeps me going. What gets in the way for us now is entirely physical. I'm tired at night, and she's sore and stiff in the morning. But we still manage to squeeze one in, usually on the weekend.

 

[Bob2again]

For me, it's about once or twice a month, and I'd rather it be about twice a week. Great when we have it, but nowhere near often enough. In a nutshell, that's why I come to Lit; I get horny.

 

[Klinkster]

I travel a lot. Part of my job.
So....when I'm home, we go at each other like animals!

Distance makes the heart grow hornier!

 

[pumperguy191]

I travel a lot. Part of my job.
So....when I'm home, we go at each other like animals!

Distance makes the heart grow hornier!

very true. I used to travel, our sex life was much different

 

[Clem99]

My preference is 5x per week. Reality is about 1x per week. :-(

 

[13Fantasies]

Preferred is obviously dependent on many factors, but 2 or 3 times a,week would be great I think.

Reality? I'm on course to have sex 8 times this year

 

[Klinkster]

very true. I used to travel, our sex life was much different

I think it has been a positive thing for my wife & I! Most think it's the opposite, but I don't see that.
Nothing like being gone for a month or more, and getting back, and both of us want to make up for lost time!

 

[luv23way]

1xweek

Married 40 years, we average 1x week. We still work, she gets up insanely early and I work until early evening or I think it would be more. Like most woman, she takes some warming up, but when she gets going she has a hungry pussy that likes attention.

 

[tw63]

I think it's been 8 months. She just isn't in to it anymore. Even monthly would be nice at this point.