Married for 2 years and never had sex . . .

[funtimeshappen]

Okay, I have been lurking ever since I showed up here about a year ago, but I finally have enough courage to share my story and get feedback. I met an amazing girl, she is gorgeous, you all would eat her up. Got married two years ago. We didnt have sex before marriage. Once married, I find out she has a condition (if you could call it that) called Vaginismous - basically it is an anxiety attack about penetration. She cannot even use tampons. As soon as anything approaches her every muscle in her vagina tightens up. Sex is impossible. We've tried drugging her (with her doctors permission) and that doesnt even work. Its gotten so bad that we do not do anything sexual at all anymore because it makes her feel bad.

What do I do? She gives me permission to "play" with others, but I haven't yet. I love her, but Im 27 and need to have sex.

Thoughts?

My yahoo is funtimeshappenin - would love to make new friends, girls or guys. I am very open minded, I am a great lover (a big giver!), love giving pleasure . . . .just have no one to do it with.

 

[Mansa Musa]

She's seeing the wrong type of doctor. A psychiatrist may do wonders for her condition, and you could get started on pleasing your wife.

 

[funtimeshappen]

Oh I do. I love giving oral, and she cums from it. and she is seeing someone - has been for two years. We've just stopped doing most of the physical things because she feels bad afterwards . . . she feels like a bad wife . . . even though i constantly tell her she isnt.

 

[Noor]

According to Wiki, Vaginismus is a physical condition too.

Maybe a new therapist, a sex therapist? or two therapists?

 

[johnnytwoface]

Use enough lube, you'll get it in there.

 

[Ralphrack]

My advice is visit The-Clitoris.com
I think it is an excellent site. There are lots of pages of information to read plus a discussion forum. The administrators are very well informed and will give guidance.

You and your wife are by no means alone in suffering with this condition, however things can be improved given lots of patience & understanding, time and a therapist whose ideas seem to be working for you.

Incidently, I was introduced to Literotica by someone at The-Clitoris.com

Happy reading & best wishes.

Ralph

 

[Dreamliner]

yes, right.