Married but looking

[fiercejim]

Looking for a woman who is interested in and enjoys sex. My significant other is completely uninterested 99.9% of the time. Creation of a long term relationship is possible. If you are in the Colorado Springs area - please post here, I will be checking regularly.

Description - 29yo, 5' 10", Average Build, Short Brown Hair, Grey/Blue Eyes.

Interests - Reading, Quiet Time, Music, Computers, Painting, Meeting New People, Trips to the Mountains.

I look forward to meeting you.

one2know4sex

 

[exvitermini]

I was under the same impression that my significant other was uninterested in sex. Turns out she was getting it elsewhere. Not saying that this is necessarily the case for you, but before you go open that can of worms and screw another woman, try opening up to your wife about your frustrations and make sure she knows just how desperate you feel. She might still want it, and probably does, but there's something that is keeping her from wanting it with you anymore.

Or... go fuck another woman and pretty much gaurantee you'll end up divorced in three years or less.

 

[fsck]

Men can't handle affairs

Listen to the man above, he's talking good sense!

Quoted from Chris Rock:

"Nothing will bring you down harder than loving two women at the same time. Seems like a good idea at first: Two women, four titties, this gonna be great! Then you realize: This ain't for me, this ain't for me! It's impossible for a man to keep up an affair - we can fuck around but an affair's a WHOLE 'nother thing. An affair takes PLANNING, you gotta be precise, you gotta remember dates times places... a MAN can't do that shit, only a woman could pull that off..."

 

[exvitermini]

Ahhh, wisdom according to Chris Rock. haha. I love that guy. He talks more sense than most philosophers.

 

[fiercejim]

Thanks for the advice

I appreciate the thoughts and concerns posted.

I have on many occasions, expressed how I feel and it has fallen on deaf ears for almost 9 yrs. I know she really does not want sex, at least not with me. It would seem that an average of 3 to 5 times a year is suffcient for her. While I do not know if she is getting it elsewhere (I do not believe so), I know I am not getting it here.

This is not spur of the moment, I have thought about this for several years.

 

[fiercejim]

Confidentiality

As for responding to this, if you would be more comfortable - just email me.

fierce-jim@phantomemail.com

Thanks!

 

[shysub]

Why stay?

I know this is not exactly what you had in mind with this thread, so many people giving you advice when what you really when it just some satisfaction. I suppose my sympathies were employed when I read how old you are. That is really extremely long to not be satisfied sexually in your marriage.

I have also thought about cheating on the b/f I love, but with another woman because that would be something he couldn't give me. Though I think about it, and also know that I don't have to do it behind his back.

There is so many more things I would like to say on this subject, but I am sure from the posts, you may be tired of hearing it. If you are not, or just wish to talk, I would really enjoy getting a pm from you.

 

[Unstuck in Time]

I've been married for many years to the same woman. Let me offer a word of advise. If you're doing this because you're not getting enough at home, you're dooming your relationship. If your sex life was great, would your eye not stray once in a while anyway? I nearly ruined a marriage of 8 years over an affair because I thought that not having enough sex at home was the reason I did it. A few years later, I had a lengthy affair with a much older woman who taught me that my first obligation was to my family and we were just having great sex. I love women and if I was worn out at home, I'd probably still have done it. Albeit not as often. I learned along the way that sex, love and marriage are 3 different states of mind. I have love and marriage with my wife. I wouldn't trade my years with her even though there is very little sex. If I was caught, I would beg for forgiveness. This probably doesn't make much sense to some of you and when I was younger, I would have thought myself to be crazy. I'm much older and still have a discreet lover several thousand miles away. She's married and we both understand why we do it --- just for the sex. I do it because of who I am, someone that loves women and having sex with them, not because of my wife.

 

[fiercejim]

Thanks for your posts

I appreciate all of your posts, really.

Much good advice has been given and followed, however my postion remains. Perhaps my statement of long term relationship was in error. But the rest stands. For now, at least.