Marital sex after coming out

[Travler99921]

This is a question for married couples whose marriage survived one of the spouses coming out as bi. How did your sex with your spouse change. To get things started here is my story.

I came out as bi when I was in my 50's and we had been married for over 30 years. Our sex life was revived, and we had sex more often. However, the way we had sex changed. My wife let me know she got more and better orgasms from me performing cunalingus on her. After she had her orgasm, or frequently multiple orgasms, she was too spent to be penetrated. She would give me a hand job or help me masturbate. I came to prefer sex that way. From time to time we would have intercourse, but it was not common.

 

[bobb64]

I told my wife I was bi in the early 70s she said she knew that I was bi before we were married and it was ok. as far as sex with her it didn't change at all.

 

[OpenMouth]

I've never really told my wife I'm bi, but I did tell her maybe 15 years ago that I fantasise about sucking cock, and I like to use anal toys. Strange, my sex life in subsequent years (after some initially encouraging less-than-vanilla bedroom activity) has come to resemble that of the OP.

Or should I say my marital sex life! You all know about my other sex life...

 

[sultrysandy]

I've never really told my wife I'm bi, but I did tell her maybe 15 years ago that I fantasise about sucking cock, and I like to use anal toys. Strange, my sex life in subsequent years (after some initially encouraging less-than-vanilla bedroom activity) has come to resemble that of the OP.

Or should I say my marital sex life! You all know about my other sex life...

Since it was brought to my attention, yet again, we're wondering OpenMouth if you're going to return and troll my thread again.

And if you want we'll tell your wife, same as you had no problem telling people about your penis in a thread named "...for Lesbians and Bisexual Women".

 

[OpenMouth]

Since it was brought to my attention, yet again, we're wondering OpenMouth if you're going to return and troll my thread again.

And if you want we'll tell your wife, same as you had no problem telling people about your penis in a thread named "...for Lesbians and Bisexual Women".

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Sorry, no idea what you're talking about. Are you getting me mixed up with someone else? I have no idea who you are...

 

[sultrysandy]

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Sorry, no idea what you're talking about. Are you getting me mixed up with someone else? I have no idea who you are...

You posted (#149) this in Ladies Lving Ladies videos thread
(apologize stating different thread earlier)

You tell me what women could see in men


https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c0/59/12/c05912e58b8c8a19107b2b5c9c077974.jpg

It's attempted humor guys.



My experience at Lit is most guys aren't trolls (which if you've been in FA&L-L&BW thread I've had more than my share) and are respectful of females. And than there are some guys that don't care where or what they post. i.e. inappropriate posts and cause the problems.


Dumpington isn’t a troll either. He enjoys hijacking female threads. And along with some other guys, don’t care that they’ve driven away females from threads intended for Lesbians and bi-women in GLBT.
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I look really good in just a t-shirt. I'm solid muscle from the waist down, plus 4 inches of wriggling vegetarian man-sossy

 

[OpenMouth]

Oh God, that offended you? You would actually post a threat over that? I pity you.

 

[sultrysandy]

Oh God, that offended you? You would actually post a threat over that? I pity you.

It's a thread for women in GLBT, how should people have taken it? Your post is not only off topic, given what you said is also trolling Don't belive I made a threat, but asked a question and offered to talk with your wife. And please don't pity me, I feel sorry for your wife as you don't seem to respect women, and appear to only think of yourself.

 

[OpenMouth]

It was a humorous response to a humorous meme, for which I receive an implicit threat to out me to my wife. I'd be interested to know how you can justify that, let alone extrapolate it to a lack of respect for women...

 

[sultrysandy]

It was a humorous response to a humorous meme, for which I receive an implicit threat to out me to my wife. I'd be interested to know how you can justify that, let alone extrapolate it to a lack of respect for women...

In GLBT forum, non-straight sexuality, there's a thread named "Ladies Lving Ladies videos", meaning it's for lesbians and bi-sexual women, hence the theme of the videos. I agree it's a humorous image, and I included "It's attempted humor guys" in case some guys took offense. However despite the thread being for females, especially a preference for other females, you decided not to think about the females, but rather only of yourself and to post about your penis.

And I merely offered to talk with your wife, and don't think I threatened anything. If you don't want me to talk with her, especially considering your preference for other guys, then you could've said, "No thanks, I"ll tell her myself, if and when I want".

But who knows, perhaps her and I would hit it off, then form a relationship between her and me.


Happen have this for someone been talking with and started helping two days ago

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/85/a0/4a/85a04a91b131079cc3b3a44853ac1c94.jpg

 

[carln3346]

Too bad we can't discuss the thread subject - seemed like it might be interesting . . .

 

[sultrysandy]

Too bad we can't discuss the thread subject - seemed like it might be interesting . . .

OpenMouth and I are talking about the thread's subject. But he hasn't come out and I offered to talk with his wife about it. Well, among other things. Then she might have something to talk with him about. I"ll wait to see what he has to say next.

 

[OpenMouth]

OpenMouth and I are talking about the thread's subject. But he hasn't come out and I offered to talk with his wife about it. Well, among other things. Then she might have something to talk with him about. I"ll wait to see what he has to say next.

You've taken the moral high ground, I suppose you have no choice but to go on the attack now your argument has been shown to be a load of nothing.

Threatening to out me to my wife is sinister and just plain nasty.

 

[sultrysandy]

You've taken the moral high ground, I suppose you have no choice but to go on the attack now your argument has been shown to be a load of nothing.

Threatening to out me to my wife is sinister and just plain nasty.

My argument? You trolled my thread and I was reminded if you're going to do it again, so I asked you.

Attack? I offered to talk with your wife, didn't say I"m going to unless you do something.

 

[blade_rocknut]

OpenMouth and I are talking about the thread's subject. But he hasn't come out and I offered to talk with his wife about it. Well, among other things. Then she might have something to talk with him about. I"ll wait to see what he has to say next.

You've taken the moral high ground, I suppose you have no choice but to go on the attack now your argument has been shown to be a load of nothing.

Threatening to out me to my wife is sinister and just plain nasty.

Holy shit, kids....this is bad as Congress. You've both committed a dick move or two and each wanna pretend you're wholly innocent and the other side is entirely at fault.

You're not talking about the thread subject, despite what you say...and no one has any crumb of business interfering an anyone else's marriage dynamics, unless they happen to personally know both parties, and even that's a fucking stretch.

And OM, clearly she has legit reason to criticize what you did in the other thread. Word to the wise; lesbians don't appreciate having their spaces invaded. Had you a rapport with some women in the thread, then maybe. Otherwise, you gotta take your proverbial licks.

At any rate y'all are grandstanding and thread-jacking.

Pretty much like Congress.

 

[blade_rocknut]

As for the thread; our sex life didn't really change per se, but we have discussed my sexuality a lot from the beginning. To wit, she considers me bi; I really do not, as I'm only attracted to femininity... I'm just not hung up on genitals.

When the mood is right, and we're talking about including another gender variant individual in our lives, it makes for a fun night.
If I bring it up when she's feeling insecure, then I've ruined the evening.

 

[hex2112]

I told my wife I sucked dick in my teens not too long after we were together. She seemed interested. She asked all about it. She would then want me to eat my cum from her. She would say it was another guys cum in her to get me excited. After that I always ate my cum. She also helped me cum right in my mouth. She would rather see me do that than fuck her. She would also want me to jerk off and cum on her for me to lick up. fucking went down but me cumming went way up.

 

[bobb64]

I hope this thread keeps going