Manliness

Manliness, as a virtue,


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Although the book is getting mixed reviews (I've reproduced one, below), I wonder if the concept

still has life or value? I believe the concept is supposed to include courage, confidence, 'grace under fire', protection of the vulnerable. Is it worth retaining a virtue which is so gender associated?





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In search of the manly man

MARK KINGWELL

[book review of]
Manliness

By Harvey C. Mansfield
Yale University Press,
304 pages, $32.50

It is hard to know how to evaluate a book that is at once challenging and rather silly, especially if it is written, as this one surely is, with deliberate intent to provoke. That provocation is the first clue that Harvey Mansfield is, himself, not exactly behaving in a manly fashion in his wide-ranging apologia for manly virtues. Manly men do not provoke, especially do not provoke women, just for the sake of making a point. That is the stuff of passive-aggression, the difference between poison
and pistol as your preferred weapon of attack.

Still, let us agree for now that there is such a thing as manliness; also that Mansfield, a professor of political philosophy at Harvard and an expert on Machiavelli, is broadly correct in thinking it distinct from masculinity, as an ethical category stands apart from a merely biological or descriptive one.

The terms "masculine" and "manly" are often conflated, but note that chest hair is masculine whereas grace under pressure is something else. Not all men are manly, in other words, and not all manliness belongs to men. Manliness is a quality of character and action, rightly associated with assertiveness, discipline, courage and protection of the vulnerable.

Mansfield defines it, neatly, as

"confidence in the face of risk."

At the same time, illustrating Aristotle's doctrine of the mean in virtue, he acknowledges that manliness becomes vicious when carried to even mild extremes. The very same qualities that make for strength and self-reliance may distort, under slight condition changes, into aggression, arrogance and intimidation. The bully is the manly man gone bad. But how, precisely, is that badness to be prevented if there is no bright line between the stand-up guy and the knock-down jerk?

Mansfield is preoccupied with this question, but he has little to offer except an acknowledgment that making the distinction is a problem. His book is primarily devoted, instead, to taking issue with feminist attacks on manliness under the rubric of a gender-neutral society. Mansfield has harsh things to say about everybody from Simone de Beauvoir to Germaine Greer[....]

[...]

[...][Let us] note instead the massively false premise of the book's major argument. Line one of chapter one: "Today the very word manliness seems quaint and obsolete."

Nonsense. Even an Ivy League professor must now and then watch television. Has Mansfield not seen the F-18 fly-bys and trooping of the colours at every possible football game? He applauds the firefighter heroes of Sept. 11, 2001, but did he not notice George W. Bush's bullhorn stumping in Manhattan two days later, or the manufactured drama of the disgusting "Mission Accomplished" aircraft carrier op during the Iraq invasion? Manliness is alive and thriving, if also brain-dead and
meretricious, at every level of American society. (Mansfield does not consider any other kind.)

[...]
The book is better when it reaches back to classical authors, Plato and Aristotle primarily, to find a deeper wisdom about the values and risks of risk-taking. Here Mansfield touches on, but does not much illuminate, the real problem of "unemployed manliness": the kind of empty, Fight Club love of agon that creates teenage gangs and stupid wars.

Aristotle knew that risk was virtue only in the service of justice, that physical courage must be governed by the moral kind. Risking one's body for the sake of principle may be the highest form of ethical action, but only if directed toward a larger human flourishing -- a standard that is probably incomprehensible to today's manly rulers.

That's a good point, and one where Mansfield claims to join cause with thoughtful feminists. The final irony of this book is that its end should have been its beginning: "Philosophical courage" is both valuable and neglected, but it's a far cry from primate aggression. For all the bluster,
Mansfield's argument lacks the careful discussion of manliness needed to distinguish good forms from bad, to separate genuine confidence from the ersatz displays favoured by draft-dodging middle-aged hawks. [...]
 
I think there still is room in this world for real manliness. I know one. He's very special.
 
I consider the world "womanly" and "womanliness" when thinking of this. The particular list of qualities are not exclusive to women. Neither are they necessarily as sought after, nor is the term used in the same context as "manliness". Both are umbrella terms which come from the past and, as all-inclusive terms, are not useful now. I think the particular virtues are worthwhile, but the term itself is archaic, loaded with baggage, and useless. "Grace under fire" is perfectly fine on its own. The gender association is impossible to break, and if "womanly" and "Manly" are equivalent terms except for the gender to which they apply, I'd make a vote for combining those virues into the term "humanly" or other, similar word.
 
Pure said:
Although the book is getting mixed reviews (I've reproduced one, below), I wonder if the concept

still has life or value? I believe the concept is supposed to include courage, confidence, 'grace under fire', protection of the vulnerable. Is it worth retaining a virtue which is so gender associated?
Wrong question. What one should ask is, is there a point retaining a gender association with the virtue?
 
I went with four. There might be something considered 'manliness', but it so easily becomes something else, or an excuse for something else that it's not a very useful concept.

I'll stick with my favourite virtues; empathy, wisdom and courage.
 
Pure said:
Although the book is getting mixed reviews (I've reproduced one, below), I wonder if the concept still has life or value? I believe the concept is supposed to include courage, confidence, 'grace under fire', protection of the vulnerable. Is it worth retaining a virtue which is so gender associated? In search of the manly man

an expert on Machiavelli, is broadly correct in thinking it distinct from masculinity, as an ethical category stands apart from a merely biological or descriptive one.

I dunno, Machiavelli lived in a different period of time and wasn't the main thrust of one of his discourses that evil, cruelty, deceit and that the use of force is necessary? Manly? Well, perhaps since I often consider manliness next to machismo. When it comes to the term manly (and not thinking of Laura Ingles pet name for her husband on Little House On the Prairie) I can only quote a line from the movie Robin Hood:

"We're Men. We're men in tights - tight tights.
Always on guard defending the people's rights
When you're in a fix, call for the men in tights
We're Butch!!"

:D
 
It's too hard to define what is 'manly' behavior to be able to debate it's virtue. I would think of "to provide and protect" as being a manly virtue, but "provide and protect" is exactly what a mother does with a newborn, and no one would consider her to be manly in those virtues.

Even if you could define what manly is, who's to say if manliness is a virtue? Any 'virtuous' behavior can also be a negative - what if hubby is providing for and protecting his girlfriend? Girlfriend might see it as a manly virtue, but how would his wife and kids see it?

Too many variables and vagueness. Each person will have a distinct view that doesn't necessarily match with anyone else's view.
 
I think it's all about conotations words get. Some get virtues, some get vices, some get both.

I've never really associated the virtues listed with manliness out of pure coincidence. Thinking back, I suppose action movies have tried to paint those virtues in what is manly, so I don't know why I've never associated the term and the virtues.

I think it's because those actions I've always considered parallel to chivalry. That and "manly" has been apporpriated by enough assholes that it evokes an image of some insecure strutter more than an image of Bruce Willis at the end of Die Hard.

I think the term "manly" may already be going under for those virtues, because the "implicit virtues" have already gotten common usage on their own or as baggage to other terms and the term "manly" has already gotten a plethora of vice connotations. A product of the hordes of wannabe "manly men" who've confused rudeness to women, violence on those weaker than one's self, drunkeness, ignorance, etc... as synonymous to the virtues of strength, grace under fire, and chivalry. That they loudly dedicate these actions to manliness, trying desperately to outman each other in fear that if they don't they will suddenly be gay or worse in their pea-brains a woman, just feeds the flames. It makes it so manliness is more connotated in my mind with the desperate attempt to dominate something weaker than oneself, the whole Fight Club thing. It has become more synonymous with bullying than with chivalry.

And so goes the connotation of the sex as well. That's the two-edged sword of words sometimes.
 
the word "manly" for me sounds too much of "real men" and "what real men should be like" and stuff like that...

imho - if he's got a dick, chances are pretty high he is a real man... no matter how he behaves...

or of course, there aren't "real men" and "real women" anyway, just people, each of them different, and some of them coincidentally have more things in common, others have other things in common...
 
Liar said:
Wrong question. What one should ask is, is there a point retaining a gender association with the virtue?
Exactly. A person's sex has nothing to do with their personal character traits. One may be raised differently as a male than they would have been if born female (though I personally disagree with that practice), but that doesn't necessarily make them any different that any given female when it comes to their character/virtues/vices.
 
rgraham666 said:
I went with four. There might be something considered 'manliness', but it so easily becomes something else, or an excuse for something else that it's not a very useful concept.

I'll stick with my favourite virtues; empathy, wisdom and courage.

:rose:
 
*burp*

Manly = When she needs you, you're there.

What's the problem here?

(Yeah, gay dudes can be manly, it's actually easier for them... they can each take turns being the she.

Which clearly means, lesbians are manly... in a 'manly' way and not in a has a beard sort of way...

I supposse you don't actually have to be a lesbian... a female friend could be manly with another female friend.

Hmm... then we're back to the gay thing, cause you ladies sure seem to call the gay dudes a lot.

I supposse I could be manly with my mostly straight housemate... I mean when his car broke down I went to pick him up.

I'm pretty manly around my dog... I mean when he has to go potty... I AM SO THERE!!! -- but that could be a selfish sort of manly, cause I don't like potty in the house.

)


Sincerely,
ElSol
 
Pure said:
Mansfield defines it, neatly, as

"confidence in the face of risk."
How does one know if the guy's being manly or just stupid? I know a lot of teenage guys who are pretty confident in the face of risk...I don't know that I'd qualify it as manly so much as not knowing what kind of risk they're taking.....
 
3113 said:
How does one know if the guy's being manly or just stupid? I know a lot of teenage guys who are pretty confident in the face of risk...I don't know that I'd qualify it as manly so much as not knowing what kind of risk they're taking.....

Makes you think of the old joke...

"He doesn't know the meaning of the word fear..."

"Yeah, there are a lot of words he doesn't know the meaning of..."
 
minsue said:
Exactly. A person's sex has nothing to do with their personal character traits. One may be raised differently as a male than they would have been if born female (though I personally disagree with that practice), but that doesn't necessarily make them any different that any given female when it comes to their character/virtues/vices.
*nods* That's why I can't vote in the poll. The set of virtues that travels under the flag of "manliness" are not bad ones. It's the flag that needs a better name. Too easily confused with "masculine", which it has no logical connection to.
 
Liar said:
*nods* That's why I can't vote in the poll. The set of virtues that travels under the flag of "manliness" are not bad ones. It's the flag that needs a better name. Too easily confused with "masculine", which it has no logical connection to.

That sounds like you would lean toward the middle vote, Liar -- that the virtues should be disconnected from the gender.
 
courage
confidence
grace under fire/pressure
protection of the vulnerable
discipline
quality of character and action
Philosophical courage

Are these things 'manly'? I've never much liked that term.

I much prefer to use the term 'honor', and do not consider it to be gender specific.
 
IMHO,

There is nothing wrong with "manliness" are possessing the virtues the author labels collectively as "manly." However, as with many other old terms in our modern society, its usefulness may be diminishing.

Perhaps the gender neutral phrase "having the right stuff" might be more appropriate.

Munachi: imho - if he's got a dick, chances are pretty high he is a real man... no matter how he behaves...
Odds are many folks share your concept. However, having a dick only indicates someone is a male, not a man. Being a male is inherited. Being a man, someone others can count on, is earned.

Rumple Foreskin :cool:
 
Rumple Foreskin said:
IMHO...


Odds are many folks share your concept. However, having a dick only indicates someone is a male, not a man. Being a male is inherited. Being a man, someone others can count on, is earned.

Rumple Foreskin :cool:

and of course it leaves out any number of people who are penis equipped (or not) but who are gender dysmorphic...genitalia does not dictate the person.

Gender is much more complex than the black/white of male/female. That's one thing readily apparent around THIS place.
 
malachiteink said:
and of course it leaves out any number of people who are penis equipped (or not) but who are gender dysmorphic...genitalia does not dictate the person.

Gender is much more complex than the black/white of male/female. That's one thing readily apparent around THIS place.
IMHO, it's not a question of leaving anyone out. Being male or female is a function of physical attributes. Being a man has to do with character, not sexual equipment or orientation.

Rumple Foreskin :cool:
 
Rumple Foreskin said:
IMHO, it's not a question of leaving anyone out. Being male or female is a function of physical attributes. Being a man has to do with character, not sexual equipment or orientation.

Rumple Foreskin :cool:

Exactly. I agree with you. I didn't state what I meant clearly -- what I meant was that "manliness" isn't a function of genitalia, as was suggested elsewhere.
 
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