Manipulating women.

[THROBBS]

I love women. I prefer to be around women.
I would do anything for most any woman.
(waiting for the other shoe to drop?)

...There is a gorgeous and sexy woman in teh office (actually quite a few)...
but she knows it... and exploits it.

I do enjoy looking at her... BUT she is so obvious about wanting, needing the attention and flaunting herself to get what she wants... that I do not "want" her... except in the sense of just using her.

She is smart enough without needing to resort to playing on a man's simplicity.

Interesting.
As I approached the kitchen to wash my dish, I could see her...and could see that she saw me (by the sea shore)... and her body languaged changed. I was at first considering some sort of flirtation... but became turned off.

 

[neonlyte]

I thought this was going to be instructions

 

[THROBBS]

I thought this was going to be instructions

Sorry, I am unqualified for that.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I love women. I prefer to be around women.
I would do anything for most any woman.
(waiting for the other shoe to drop?)

...There is a gorgeous and sexy woman in teh office (actually quite a few)...
but she knows it... and exploits it.

I do enjoy looking at her... BUT she is so obvious about wanting, needing the attention and flaunting herself to get what she wants... that I do not "want" her... except in the sense of just using her.

She is smart enough without needing to resort to playing on a man's simplicity.

Interesting.
As I approached the kitchen to wash my dish, I could see her...and could see that she saw me (by the sea shore)... and her body languaged changed. I was at first considering some sort of flirtation... but became turned off.

Good for you.

We all delight in being a little bit manipulated-- but make it too much, or especially, make it obvious -- there's no fun in it, and no response.

 

[R. Richard]

I love women. I prefer to be around women.
I would do anything for most any woman.
(waiting for the other shoe to drop?)

...There is a gorgeous and sexy woman in teh office (actually quite a few)...
but she knows it... and exploits it.

I do enjoy looking at her... BUT she is so obvious about wanting, needing the attention and flaunting herself to get what she wants... that I do not "want" her... except in the sense of just using her.

She is smart enough without needing to resort to playing on a man's simplicity.

Interesting.
As I approached the kitchen to wash my dish, I could see her...and could see that she saw me (by the sea shore)... and her body languaged changed. I was at first considering some sort of flirtation... but became turned off.

The only approach I have ever found that has any hope of working is to ignore the lady, except for polite necessities.

The other tactic that I have found to work is to play off the lady and use the connection to make other approaches work. [e.g. There was a REALLY hot lady who was hired by a firm I worked for. She was there to handle the most important customers and no hired studs need apply. At the end of her first day there were several brain damaged ass holes hanging around her desk. The facilities lady was about to deliver her the key to lock the hot lady's desk. I managed to convince the falilities lady to let me deliver the key. While the facilities lady watched, expecting to see me fall on my face, I approached the mob and held up the key that let hot lady know it was the key she needed to escape. Hot lady smiled at me and I shouldered through the mob and put the key in her hand, while saying, "Don't bother to knock" Hot lady just laughed and the story spread through the office.]

[Did I take advantage of the situation to score with other ladies in the office? I ask you, is R. Richard the type of guy to do that? Kindly do not answer.]

 

[THROBBS]

Good for you.

We all delight in being a little bit manipulated-- but make it too much, or especially, make it obvious -- there's no fun in it, and no response.

I suppose it's good for me.

I dunno.

Felt like an abuse of (her) power to me.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I suppose it's good for me.

I dunno.

Felt like an abuse of (her) power to me.

Oh, absolutely-- that's what I meant. I guess when I said "manipulation" I meant flirtatiousness. The moment we(meaning all of us humans) realise that we are being abused and not merely flirted with... we have to re-evaluate, at the very least.

 

[THROBBS]

Oh, absolutely-- that's what I meant. I guess when I said "manipulation" I meant flirtatiousness. The moment we(meaning all of us humans) realise that we are being abused and not merely flirted with... we have to re-evaluate, at the very least.

yes.

For many years, I have been suspicious of motives when being flirted with. Eventually... I got a clue. I accepted that some flirting was fun and "flirtatious". My hackles go up (rather than any other part of me) when I sense manipulation as the motive.

In introspection, I don't like the other subsequent reaction I have. It's very base. I just want to fuck her.. with no "passion"... it's a very aggressive feeling. I don't really "like" it.

Interesting. Just as well we have a society which frowns on that sort of behavior.

 

[Huckleman2000]

I suppose it's good for me.

I dunno.

Felt like an abuse of (her) power to me.

hmmm.... attention from a beautiful woman. I can think of worse workplace issues.

I too, was hoping for a few tips.

Anyway, it may also be her age/maturity - I think it takes people time to grow into their adult personae, and the workplace is usually the first place where young people have regular contact with adults of widely varied ages. After years as an ingenue, perhaps she's still learning more subtle ways of behaving.

 

[MagicaPractica]

In my family we go over the top so it's really obvious we are asking for something. My brother just says, "Huck, want to whitewash a fence?" then tells me what he really needs.

But I was watching a program recently, can't even remember what it was, where they set up this really unattractive character and one of the main characters, which I remember heretofore actually liking, started laying it on thick to get what he wanted from her. I remember how cruel I felt it was and having to turn the program off.

Can't say I've ever felt like I was manipulated that way but I think I would find it really depressing.

 

[Guest]

I suppose it's good for me.

I dunno.

Felt like an abuse of (her) power to me.

Some people can use it better than others. I myself go to work looking positively frumpy. Any hint of looking attractive, and the men behave funny, and the women, look positively ready to kill me.

So that is another angle for you.

People are very ticked by this particular kind of power, period. Perhaps because it is so damn effective.

Maharat

 

[neonlyte]

Let's get real.

Blokes come in two styles, predator and innocent. They occassionally switch between the two. Predator doesn't need explaining. The innocent, who outnumber the former, sometimes need to be led like a horse to water. Beware the 'innocent predator'.

Lasses come in many styles. Throbb's, beware all of them until she looks at you and strikes you with lightning, then show her your etchings.

I hate that girls have to look at the floor as you past them in the street. The ones who 'challenge' males are slightly intimidating. (I should have got a larger wedding ring) That said, most of my best friends are women, and the wife long ago recognised I wouldn't know a 'come on' unless it came up and kissed me. Fortunately, she doesn't let me out much

 

[THROBBS]

hmmm.... attention from a beautiful woman. I can think of worse workplace issues.

I too, was hoping for a few tips.

Anyway, it may also be her age/maturity - I think it takes people time to grow into their adult personae, and the workplace is usually the first place where young people have regular contact with adults of widely varied ages. After years as an ingenue, perhaps she's still learning more subtle ways of behaving.

This one is about a smature as she is going to get, I think. I believe she is about 40. I suspect that as her beauty fades a bit, it will be hard for her.

 

[THROBBS]

...

Can't say I've ever felt like I was manipulated that way but I think I would find it really depressing.

yes. quite.

 

[THROBBS]

..
People are very ticked by this particular kind of power, period. Perhaps because it is so damn effective.

Maharat

yes. If done correctly, there is no defense against it. (from Karate Kid)

 

[Guest]

yes. If done correctly, there is no defense against it. (from Karate Kid)

wax in, wax out.



Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

wax in, wax out.



Maharat

no no... I wax OFF!

I'll manipulate myself, thank you very much.

 

[Guest]

no no... I wax OFF!

I'll manipulate myself, thank you very much.

Ya need some help with that?

Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

Ya need some help with that?

Maharat

If only.
HEY! Are you trying to get something out of me?

 

[Guest]

If only.
HEY! Are you trying to get something out of me?

Only the wax ...

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[Stella_Omega]

Beware the 'innocent predator'.

Off topic, but-- May I use this?

 

[neonlyte]

Off topic, but-- May I use this?

Be my guest

 

[THROBBS]

Only the wax ...

Maharat

waxing legs? Bikini line? upper lip?

 

[Guest]

waxing legs? Bikini line? upper lip?

I dunno, do guys do bikini lines? Why would you need my help with your bikini line?

Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

I dunno, do guys do bikini lines? Why would you need my help with your bikini line?

Maharat

I misunderstood. I thought you wanted the wax.

And yes, some guys do wax their "bikini" lines. Not so much me. But if I did.. the help would be for the hard to reach spots, I suppose.